Hate to tell you but I don't think the "girlfriend" tag is coming. At least not formally. If after 6 months you're still just his "friend" that is basically his girlfriend, then he's going to probably keep this charade up for as long as he has to.
You're basically dealing with a commitment-phobe, and you're perfect for him since you've stayed around this long sans title. Now, I tend to think titles are overrated, however, I understand their significance in determining the status of a relationship. Plus, you're probably confused about what to put on Facebook and if you're like me you HATE "it's complicated."
Your dude probably isn't a bad guy but he's not completely ready to settle down. He doesn't feel the way he'd need to feel to lock you down as his first, his last, his everything. And if he doesn't know after 6 months, he'll never know. The thing is, because you don't want to rock the boat, you're not requiring him to step up. You're just hoping he'll come to his senses.
And he won't. Or at least not the senses you want. You can threaten to leave, and he might just let you go. He probably runs some lines (assuming you do ask him what's up) about focusing on getting himself right blah blah blah. And it might be true, but being with you and getting himself right aren't mutually exclusive either.
The truth is that men know when they're with a woman they want to lock down, with title, ring, etc. There is very little hesitation and usually a rush to making sure everybody knows that you're the woman in their life. And it usually doesn't take 6 months to know.
So what gives? He's just not that into you.
Sad but true. Six months is time enough to make the distinction. This is clearly a guy who will never commit. Run.
So if six months is too long, when would the ideal time be? I've been dating a guy for two months and we have yet to define the relationship; when should I give up?
I think that after a month or two of "dating" the relationship should be at the girlfriend/boyfriend stage. However, different circumstances might dictate different timelines. A lot of it depends on how consistent the dating relationship is: is it exclusive? do you see each other frequently or just occasionally? do you live in the same city/state, or is it a long distance thing?
Christina: I don't think two months is necessarily too long. Have you spoken to the guy about it, or is it something that you are nervous to bring up (maybe due to fear of pushing him away)? As you get older, guys generally don't ask "Will you be my girlfriend?" because it sounds a little cheesy. In my experience, it usually just starts with him referring to you as his girlfriend when speaking to you or other people. Does he do that?
i got one thing to say:RUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
6 months is a lot of timeeee!! you deserve someone who will tell the world you are the woman in he's life, you supose to be happy in a relationship not wondering if he wants to be your boyfriend, I was in the situation 2 months of dating and he mention we are no exclusive, that he needs more time, so I decide to run already :) , why I will stay if i knew in the first month...
Holy carp! 6 months?
I can't go 6 days without defining a relationship that has gone beyond friends. This dude is crazy. I'm with PJ. There is a real solid chance he'll never commit. You gotta rock the boat. If you really like him and feel he's worth it despite his fear of commitment then go on the offensive get some commitment of some sort even if it's a exclusivity clause!
I might also guess that he's been burned in the past, but that's now excuse to put you through the wringer. Yall need to talk it over and get past this.
Peace.
I'm in a similiar situation but the circumstances are a bit different. I have been dating this guy for 4 months, is that to long? Secondly, he states that he is not ready to commit because he recently seperated from his wife..Is that a legitamate excuse? My guy also claims that our relationship is exclusive.. So, i have the exclusivity clause, but what good is it?
I've been dating this guy for almost 7 months, we almost like bf n gf type cause we have sex every weekends, sometimes I'd stay at his place for a week and if I don't have work I'm at his place, I have a keys at his place he calls me once a day or twice or before he goes to sleep, he cares for me a lot but the problem is he did not introduced me with his friends and same here, and were just friends he says cause his not ready to commit and Yesterday I texted him that I don't understand this kind of relationship anymore and told him I give up but then he replied to me why do I rush things and if that's what you want then fine with me, and know I'm wondering if I've made the right decision, pls help.. I like him a lot cause I've never had a guy who's so loving and cares for me a lot..
I dated a guy for ten months catered to him and he came home one night and never came back don't answer my calls or texts and now he changed his phone number I don't know what I did or said cause when he left he said he love me and will text me and say goodnight I never heard from him since and I'm so sick without him
I'm going trough the same,I've been dating this guy for 5 months
( he was my first boyfriend when i was 15) i like him like a lot! im basically falling inlove but he wont ask me to be his girlfriend and we do everything a gf/bf relationship does. 7 months ago he broke up with his girlfriend( 2 years relationship) so he tells me that hes been through allot and he is not ready to settle down but that he wants to stay with me and that he loves me, but im getting tired dont know what to do but really i love him to, what should i do?