First of all, discount the dreams. Burn your dream journal, get a mind-wipe, binge drink until you've killed the part of your brain that dreams, whatever. Because right now, you're having dreams about your boyfriend leaving you because you're worried about your boyfriend leaving you, because you keep having dreams about him leaving you.
That's called a vicious cycle, and you need to get past it before you can figure out anything else. In my opinion, most dreams are utter hooey. Although if you have a dream about your boyfriend swimming through peanut butter while the Care Bears play Beatles music, know that you will both die in a fire within the year.
Okay, on to the issue of your boyfriend's very real and somewhat troubling double-talk. On the one hand, it's well within a guy's capacity to "not see a future" yet still want to keep the relationship going. He might not be ready to make a commitment yet (but don't hold your breath), or he might enjoy spending time with you and not be thinking about it beyond that (eminently probable).
On the other hand, it's also totally within a guy's capacity to string a girl along he doesn't have serious feeling for, either for sex or out of shame or guilt. If you want to get Freudian, maybe your subconscious picked up on him pulling away and that's causing your dreams. Or you ate right before going to bed. Or you're slowly going insane. All fine, fine options.
Take your man at face value. Assume that he means it when he says he doesn't see a future for you, but don't take that to mean he isn't into you right now. If that's not enough for you, or if you're at a place in your life where you need a commitment, then I think your boyfriend (and your dream boyfriend) may be telling you it's time to pack your things and get outta Dodge.
Yeah, I stopped putting stock in dream meanings when I dreamt that I was a Mexican sumo wrestler named Chico. What the hell could THAT symbolize?
It sounds to me like this girls subconscious is trying to tell her something. She should listen to her instincts, if she has a gut-feeling that something isn't right in her relationship, she should confront her boyfriend. I've had situations similar to this, and each time I ignored those feelings, I ended up getting hurt. If she's got any sense what so ever, she will confront her boyfriend on these issues and resolve them.
Whats to confront him with? He already said it like it is.He is happy with her for the moment.However sees no real future with her.She needs to decide if she wants to play the waiting game to see if he will change his mind.Personally I wouldnt waste my time.There are so many guys out there.Why wait around for someone or something that just probably isnt gonna happen.If your unhappy when your awake and when your asleep then isnt it time to move on.Living like that doesnt sound that great to me.Good Luck girl.
rxyhts, the girl needs to confront him on the status of their "relationship" and she has every right to know where he really stands. Maybe he is scared or like you said, wasting her time with him. Either way, confronting her boyfriend and getting more clarification is needed. Perhaps the girlfriend needs to be point blank about what she expects in the relationship.
ditch him!
You need to make sure that you aren't creating a "self-fulfilling prophecy." This phenomenon happens when we believe something (usually negative) and begin to act as if it is already true, and then it becomes true. For example, when someone feels unattractive, they lose self-esteem, and regardless of their actual physical looks they will appear unattractive at this point to other people (not all, but most).
You get out of life what you put into it. Decide what you want, know that you are worth it (I mean really KNOW that you are worth it), and get it.
I'm still stuck on the "he told me he doesn't see a future with me"....um, OK, I'm all about interpreting and analyzing to death everything a guy says, but I don't think there is an "other meaning" to this, sadly.
If you want to be "THE ONE" to share a lifetime with, be clear: this guy isn't it. He just told you so.
However, if you're ok with being the "girl du jour" (girl of the day) then have fun, but don't give up your heart...he will break it for sure. He just told you so.
i dont necessarily agree with jackie .. im a girl and ive told guys i dont see a future with them .. its just cause i see things day to day .. i have trouble imagining the house , kids and picket fence .. let him come in his own time it doesnt mean he doesnt love you he just needs to figure out for himself what he wants ... if your really insecure with him tell him u need to know cause u want a future with him and if hes not ready your gonna move on .. hope this helps
who gives a shit.