First of all, let's go ahead and lose those air-quotes around "affair." You are having an affair. Sure, as far as affairs go it's no Caligula, but the fact is you're engaging in sexual activity that you know will hurt your partner, and hiding it from him. If you thought I'd be cool with that because I'm the Funny Guy, prepare for several paragraphs of awkward disappointment.
Affairs are no good. They're too complicated, too damaging, too exhausting. The thrill of sneaking around behind your partner's back fades, and the endless headache of spinning a web of lies like some kind of sexy spider does not.
You're only two weeks into it, so I'm sure you're having a ball, but expect the other shoe to drop sooner or later, either in the form of your guy finding out, your mistress (mister?) getting jealous or pressuring you to break things off, or straight-up guilt.
Shut the webcam off, forget about driving anywhere, and figure out what you really want here. If it's to turn your life into Sex, Lies, and Videotape, then you're already on the right track. If it's your new man, tell your old man you want to call it quits.
If this was just a momentary diversion, my advice would be to break things off and never speak of this again. Or do, if you think a confession will help more than it hurts. But don't confess only to make yourself feel better at the cost of your partner's happiness, because that's just shitty.
Believe me, I'm all for using technology to have sex in new and exciting ways with as many folks as you're able to fit into one Skype window, but only if everyone involved knows what's going on and is cool about it. Otherwise you're steppin' out, sister.
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Now now, no harsh judgment was implied. Think of this more as frank, disinterested observation. Love is a complex and deadly thing; I don't envy anyone who's dealing with feelings for multiple people.
Very honest and very accurate. I don't have anything to add.
Affairs are like rattlesnakes; you can hear them coming, the signs are all there in the sand, and it's best to book it before they bite you in the ass.
Ok, some outdated slang there, but you know what I mean.
sigh, but its more entertaining to think of it as swift judication done by a wrathful swaim. was in a similar situation however, and the key was something you hinted at: to figure out what you really want. twas a sticky situation but i figured out the one girl for me and told the other one that it wasn't going to work out.
Personally, I think she should tell her boyfriend, despite possibly having selfish motives. It's completely unfair and, in my opinion, just as wrong to keep it a secret and act as if nothing happened. If she tells him, at least he knows and can decide if it's really worth staying in the relationship.
Sometimes you don't need to tell, you get caught. My husband did, I came home from an appointment and there he was, webcam set up, shorts down around his ankles, pecker in hand!!! Asked if he was missing something, mind you our sex life is just short of porno! He said no, I was disgusted, hurt and really pissed off! I now have a hard time trusting him. I believe, in a marraige or long term relationship, couples should only share their naked bodies with each other. He threw the webcam away. But I feel its, only 'til something else comes along... If I were you I would do the same before you mess up your relationship. I feel it is cheating!!!