The problem is that the minute you took on these roles your husband abdicated them to you. One of the laws of nature states that all energy forms seek to output the lowest exertion possible, and your husband is merely following what nature dictates. There is something that you can do, however, and it also relates to a fundamental law of nature. This states that dudes will always find one or more of their spouse's friends attractive. Understanding that, do this: First, figure out which of your girlfriends your husband thinks is hot. This shouldn't be too hard. Just ask him "Do you think so and so is pretty?" If he says, "yuck" he likes her--A LOT--this is an old trick used by guys who want to mask their true feelings for their wife's superfox friends. Soon after your discovery, begin to talk about how attractive said hot girlfriend finds men who do the dishes, cook, pay bills, etc. Then begin inviting her over a lot. Watch him become everything you had hoped for. Note: This may backfire as he may end up with a wife AND a new super hot girlfriend.
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Ok, Mystery Man. I get it! You think this woman is being too naggy and she needs to accept her husband for who he is. She did agree to marry him after all. I just hope no one takes you seriously and tries this trick with their husband :)
I laughed, but in a certain manner MM is right about the causality. This isn't just men though, all humans seek to attain the easiest life possible this is why maids, butlers, personal cooks, chauffeurs, roadies and paper boys exist.
So you and your hubby need to setup boundaries with each other. It's quite possible that's he's sitting around begrudging you for the things he has to do and would be totally happy trading jobs with you. It may also be possible that he didn't even notice you take over the jobs. This may have also just been the way his parents did things so he doesn't know any better. Any of these means it's time for a sit down.