Nah, I don't think being a bad kisser is necessarily a deal-breaker -- IF he is open to some training from you on how you like it.
That's the thing here: everybody likes it different. His last girlfriend might've dug the way he kisses. I've been with women who liked short, soft kisses and others who wanted to eat my face off. I've had women put their tongue in my mouth on the first kiss, and some who never wanted to use their tongue at all. Everyone is different. Me, I'm not picky -- I'll do it however you want it if it means we get to keep doing it, because this is fun and something strange and wonderful is happening in my pants.
I realize that there are certain things that are universally considered lousy kissing form (licking, for example), but whether kissing is "bad" or "good" is at least a little bit subjective. That's why you just need to show him how you like to be kissed. He might have his own preferences, too. It's all about negotiation and compromise and adapting.
I also don't think that "bad" kissing necessarily means he's a bad lover. He might not do it the way you like, but again, you can tell him what you want and see how he responds. If he's unable or unwilling to accommodate you, then you have something to worry about. But I think it's too soon to give up on the guy just yet.
Good luck.
I dunno...I went out with a guy I liked, but when we kissed it was AWFUL. Plus, I didn't feel anything...and usually if that spark isn't there no amount of coaching is going to fix it
I think it totally depends on how much you like the guy. If you feel a spark and he turns you on, tell him how you like to be kissed and then practice! I'm sure he won't mind practicing.... (LOL @ "something strange and wonderful is happening in my pants!")
But if you don't feel anything when you kiss him, the chances are good that you won't feel anything when he does other things to you, either. Then it's time to say goodbye.
Provide him with pointers, get plenty of practice, have patience, and perhaps you'll soon be pleased with how he puckers up and plants one on you. (I'm really feeling the alliteration today.) :-)
If you try all of that and his kissing still isn't what you are hoping for, you may have to decide just how important it is to you and whether it is worth being without him because of it.
Great answer, Cary!
"flashlight" HA HA!
Since you obviously like him ("I really like him"), there must be some sparks. I agree with Cary, this doesn't have to be a deal-breaker. Give it some time.
Spark is definitely important. I'm talking more about technique.
Curious in what way he is a bad kisser. To aggressive, not aggressive enough? I think with practice you can get him kissing better, just tell him what you like
It's really difficult to tell a guy that his kisses aren't really doing it for you. I mean... how do you say that without him getting all butt-hurt?? I'd stick with it a while longer. Maybe he doesn't have much experience. Could be that his kisses don't do it for you because *he* doesn't do it for you! Think about it.
But then... have you ever seen somebody *really* ugly but after talking to them and getting to know them, their personality is so great that you don't even notice their looks? Get to know this guy a little... the kisses might improve ;)
i dont know i dated a guy who was abosolutely fine... yum yum .... he was sexy , smart , career driven the whole package ..
THEN WE KISSED , i got so turned off at that moment his kisses were horrible , super-fast-spinny-tongue-sloppy-wanna-suck-the-back-of-my-throat-kiss....
ewwww... nope if i would of been a guy i would of gotten soft in my pants and never been able to get up again ...
that was a total deal breaker for me i couldnt look at him the same was again , he had just turned ugly and dumb for me ..
i guess it depends on you ...
one thing you have to remember though : CHEMISTRY !! if the sparks arent there why should you have to teach him how to light the fire it should be there if he was meant to be .. go out and find someone who gives you goosebumps all over and makes you want to kiss him over and over ...
good luck :)
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