Lock... him... down? As in, what a corrections facility does to its inmates? Perhaps you shouldn't use prison terminology when talking about relationships. I don't know. That's just me.
To answer your question: I don't think one month is to soon to ask him if he's seeing other people. Asking him if he's seeing other people is not that same as a statement of commitment. There are legitimate health issues, for instance. If you're sleeping with him, you have a right to know if he's getting it on with other people. I've been there before, and let me tell you, I paid a lot more attention to the integrity of the condom.
And also, maybe you don't to waste time hanging out with someone who is still on the prowl. If the two of you are not exclusive, then he can do whatever he wants. That goes the same for you. Ask him.
But since you sound like you want a commitment, I don't think you want to ask him if he's seeing other people. You want to be his one and only. A month might be a little too soon for the two of you to become boyfriend and girlfriend. I said "might."
Ask him if he's seeing anyone else. He might not be. If he isn't, then let things be for a few weeks before talking about making official what already exists between you two. If he is dating around, then thank him for his honesty, and take the night to think if he's worth your time.
I have to find out myself if I guy I potentially want to date is invlolved already. Call me old fashioned if you want but I believe that if anyone wants to date a specific person it shows their intentions alot clearer if they aren't playing the field while trying to woo you. If the guy says he wants to be with me but a few days later goes to a party and tells me about how the girl he made out with all night reminded him of me he's outta here, but if he says he wants to date me and is taking time to tell me about his past and make plans with me with most of his spare time I'd be more inclined to date him. But that's just old fashioned anymore I guess but at least people who adopt some of the old fashioned rules tend to have more self worth and respect for things than the kids who just shoot first ask later.
I love that answer..thanks!
I am a woman who gets a lot of attention. So when I am available I get guys trying to lock me down rather quickly. But when it does not come naturally it feels desperate. If it were me I would not ask him if he is dating others girls. Two things, if he is he's most likely going to say "NO" because that's "the right answer" and two you will look desperate. What do you know about this guy in one month’s time that's got you so impressed? Unless neither of you work that's only four weekends. If you show this guy you are desperate now he will see that you are weak and he will always have the power. Just keep talking to other guys to keep your confidence in check until you guys really have something more than calendar time.
It seems like it would be a good idea to find out his dating style before you get intimate with him. I agree with John 100% that it involves your health. It doesn't cross any lines when you are trying to protect yourself.
'm in a relationship with my soulmate, we love each other and have an amazing sex life, (yes, that's what he told me)
two weeks ago we went to a club for adults where we can be uninhibated on the dance floor, I wore 6 inch heels, boy shorts and a sexy top. I loved the concept that I could dance and feel really sexy with my man, BUT, I'm a bit jealous of other woman. I'm 43 and honestly have a really tight body, i'm just setting the stage, nothing i have to worry about, not to mention he is really into me and reassured me he's not interested in other women, How can I get past my nerves of going there again and get past that there may be other sexy women there?? Do men really need to look at other women? ng and get real answers...