Yes, he would. He's obviously not that into you. Sorry to be blunt, but that's my job.
Look, a guy will find a way to spend time with a woman he likes, whether he's a student, a janitor or the president. Your dude likes you, but only on a casual basis. Even if he's in an advanced, intensive program -- med or law or grad school -- he really might not be able to see you much more, but he could at least return your calls, or text you, or e-mail you, or do something, anything, to show that he gives a crap.
My guess is that he likes you and a few other girls as well, and splits his free time among you. He's playing the field. Sowing his oats. Workin' it. Or maybe he's just really that serious about school (cough BULLSHIT! cough) or something else, like his friends or partying or Jesus or World Of Warcraft. Either way, if the extent of his romantic attention is your weekly dinner and a poke, then you are not a priority in his life.
Some women are fine with that; they're having fun and playing the field, too. If you aren't, if you need more, tell him so. If he's not willing to invest any more time or effort in your relationship, then amscray the heck out of Dodge. Life is too short not to go after exactly what you want.
Good luck.
Look, a guy will find a way to spend time with a woman he likes, whether he's a student, a janitor or the president. Your dude likes you, but only on a casual basis. Even if he's in an advanced, intensive program -- med or law or grad school -- he really might not be able to see you much more, but he could at least return your calls, or text you, or e-mail you, or do something, anything, to show that he gives a crap.
My guess is that he likes you and a few other girls as well, and splits his free time among you. He's playing the field. Sowing his oats. Workin' it. Or maybe he's just really that serious about school (cough BULLSHIT! cough) or something else, like his friends or partying or Jesus or World Of Warcraft. Either way, if the extent of his romantic attention is your weekly dinner and a poke, then you are not a priority in his life.
Some women are fine with that; they're having fun and playing the field, too. If you aren't, if you need more, tell him so. If he's not willing to invest any more time or effort in your relationship, then amscray the heck out of Dodge. Life is too short not to go after exactly what you want.
Good luck.
WAM! McNeal puts another one to bed! He...is...on...FIRE!
Hey guys, my new thing is to be the group's cheerleader. I hope that's okay.
Just promise that you'll keep your pom poms to your self, Mr. Swaim.
Thanks.
This reminds me of a guy I dated for a while in college. He was a med student. He broke things off with me using the excuse that he needed to focus on his studies and his career and just didn't have any extra time to spend with me. I was hurt, but I took him at his word, accepted it, and moved on.
Later on I found out that, yes, he had been focusing on "other things," but apparently those "other things" didn't include his studies. He didn't make it through med school.
He looked me up a couple of years later. He suddenly thought that it would be a really good idea for us to see each other again. He had some free time on his hands and wanted to spend it with me. This was when he also told me as some sort of way to try and excuse himself for breaking things off with me, "You're not the kind of girl that guys want to date. You're the kind of girl that guys want to marry."
Well, wasn't that nice! *said with one eyebrow arched higher than the other* Hmmpf! Unfortunately for him, I no longer had any free time that I wished to waste by spending it with him.
Cary gave it to you straight. If making time for you is not a priority for this guy, he's not worth YOUR time.
I agree mostly with with Wise Guy's answer. This guy should be able to at least call you back. However, as a graduate student, I am CRAZY busy and as much as I want to spend time with my SO, sometimes once a week of quality time is all I can give. However, I do my best to show my man I care in lots of other ways (texting, calling, emailing) anything that shows while I'm stressing over school, I do still think of him.
So, I wouldn't totally call it quits with this guy. If you really like him and he honestly is that busy with school, then his lack of time is something that you'll have to learn to compromise on. You can tell him you get that he's busy but if you call him, he needs to at least return that call.
At the same time, know your worth and if he's not really into the relationship, then you don't need to waste your time with him.
I agree with you Kylie. As a law school graduate, I know that it can be difficult to find time to spend with someone you care about when you are busy with school. However, there is no excuse for not calling or texting. He isn't always in the library cramming. He drives to and from school - that's a great time to make phone calls. And texting can be done just about anywhere, even in the library - it takes all of 30 seconds to send someone a short text saying "Hi, how is your day?"
I agree with wise guy. I dated a guy once who would always say he was busy with his part time job and college and that was why we would see each other only once every week or fortnightly. Being naive at the time, I believed him. He then decided we should not do anything together for new years (should have been the ultimate red flag) and after he and i broke up, I found out he was cheating on me with this girl in our class. Classy.