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I've been told that guys are attracted to girls who are super confident. However, I see girls in bars who are "being confident" and they're just embarrassing themselves because they are trying too hard. I'm afraid I'm being that type of girl, too. Any advice on how to be sexy and confident without being obnoxious?

There are three types of girls at bars:

The fierce and calculating Tiger Girl who struts it up, begs for attention and is willing to lock her bestie in the bathroom if she is getting too much attention.

The Hamster Gal who is prone to hiding in corners and avoids contact when possible.

And the Woman Girl who's comfortable with herself and attracts guys based on a cool flow of give and take.

The latter is really the key. Yes, dress sexy if you wish, tell a joke and take a shot or two, but keep it real. This is the best way to make an impact and attract guys.

The chicks that are 100% Chris Farley in stilettos 100% of the time are going to attract a portion of men, but often just the icky, alpha apes standing under the neon Jaeger signage.

Likewise, the super passive girl doesn't get in the mix enough and is limiting herself to chance encounters with the skittish fellows waiting on line for the restroom.
Remember sexiness and confidence is something that exudes naturally. You can amplify it here and there, but being the chick who has to enter the bar in a giant egg and then sing every Bon Jovi song at Karaoke, translates to needy not hotty.

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Great advice! Just wanted to add from my own personal experience...It's really easy to fall into one of those extremes if you don't have your act together. One thing I would avoid doing is going to a bar with a girl who is desperate for male attention. She'll just inspire you to act desperate yourself, and people tend to judge you by who you're with. Rather, go with a group so that you're more relaxed. Guys will read that vibe and will be more likely to put in the effort to talk to you if you feel good.

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Oh, come on, Bon Jovi rocks!

Bibonoshoes

not as a giant egg, though. lol

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hahahahahaha

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