I’m not sure how you get him to want to have sex again, since I’m pretty sure he’s having sex somewhere. Not to be the bearer of bad news, non-diplomatically, but I find it REALLY hard to believe that a man who was (I’m assuming) sexually active for 4 years than all of a sudden just doesn’t want to have sex anymore isn’t getting some somewhere.
What happened? Did his johnson stop working one day? Look, DO NOT BELIEVE him when he says he just doesn’t want it. Straight up, he is lying. Unless you two are having major relationship issues – which it appears isn’t the case – the only reason a man who’s been getting some on the regular would just go cold turkey with you is if he’s got some side piece somewhere “making him feel like a man.”
You can’t make a man want to have sex with you BECAUSE IT’S OUR DEFAULT DESIRE. The only way we go is down. We stop at some point and usually don’t want to do it again. The fact that he is affectionate and you all have a good time isn’t lost on me. Either he’s a good actor or because he’s getting what he wants elsewhere, he’s able to compartmentalize each relationship and give you the “quality time” and her the milkbone.
The fact that you have to even have a discussion about having sex – once again, without relationship drama – is indicative that despite the good times, somethings wrong and you need to get to the bottom of it. Because he might be your boyfriend in title but not action. I know it sounds harsh, but I’d ask him if he was cheating on you and watch his body language.
And at the end of the day, what are you willing to live with? How long are you willing to wait for him to need sex again? Men and women both have needs, especially a long-term relationship like you two have.
Basically, there aren’t enough batteries in the world to sustain you.
It was written.