Intersting. I'm not so sure I'd agree with you. I try to side on the side of reality and truth. For example, if a woman gets cheated on, I tend to "side" or support her. If a woman is painfully shy or has the flabbiest boobs in her friend group, I try to empower her and remind her 99% of all men can handle flab and have less than perfect pricks or jaw lines. But if a woman is the cheater, or isn't "hearing" that her man no longer likes her, I do my best to tell her that. Perhaps at times I coat the truth with sugar, but it's still there for the swallowing.
When you speak of women at fault for their own bullshit, I agree to the extent that we all are victim to our own personality bullshit and unchecked habits. If every woman who asked a question on this site looked like Sofia Veraga, had the spiritual core of Gandhi and could suck a hose like Jenna Jameson I suppose we'd be out of business. But that's not the case, and so me and the other Guys do our best to lay down the truth and invite the questioner to take stock of their situation and get on with it.
Let me know if you agree with that summation. Are the GUYS and I too soft?
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I have to diagree with the OP. You should read the website a little bit more. The other day MM and the commenters let a woman know that her close minded view of other religions is probably the reason why she's still single. When its obvious that a woman has done something wrong or wants to do something wrong (cheat, take someone else's man, etc) the guys let her know that she's dead wrong. Just keep reading the site.
You guys are not soft. You guys tend to be more like the women, and not so much the guys the women are hating on. I dont know if this is a good thing or a bad thing lol. Nice guys?
No! OMG most of the time I think you guys are too harsh!
Wow, clearly this person needs to read guyspeak more often. Like Amit said, they give the truth, whether we want to hear it or not. Sometimes women ask their questions in a way that demonstrates they clearly know the answer themselves but just can't accept it as the answer. Other times, they need a dose of harsh reality to get them to give up on false hope or remove themselves from a dangerous situation. I think they deliver their answers with grace because "screaming" at these women or demeaning them to prove they are wrong won't help them at all.
If you don't like the way they answer questions, don't read their posts. I think all of the guys give excellent insight. They give the truth when it's needed, even if it is harsh. I appreciate the honest and respectful posts from all of the guyspeak men!
Thank you guys! :)
"most of these women are maybe at fault for all or most of the BS they asked on here" Sounds to me like you are the kind of guy the women write in about..."my boyfriend is a chauvinistic pig who thinks he can do no wrong and blames me for everything, what should I do?"
The Guys advice..."dump his sorry butt"...
It's not taking sides...it's stating the obvious...no woman deserves to be treated like crap.
I suppose there is some truth in what the questioner says... but I would say it has more to do with the fact that the questions on this site are asked from the perspective of one person.
Of course some chick is going to ask a question in a way that puts the blame on the other person! I'll bet that, if their SO were to ask the question, we might side with him... it's all in the angle the question is asked.
But, overall, our GuySpeak men do a fantastic job of being fair in their responses :)
Maybe, but looking in the archives, I've seen some real WTF questions that I was amazed were even asked. Questions along the lines "I cheated and my BF is angry, why?".
I have traveled around the sun a few times (read into that "is no longer a spring chicken"), am fairly educated, and believe I have a level head full of common sense and yet I am very impressed with the wisdom and manner the GuySpeak panel speak. I believe they give sound advice in an upbeat and encouraging way, but they are also masters of tough love and will call someone out if need be, (but never in a degrading nor disrespectful way).
You guys, keep up the good work! I know you have helped many souls on this journey of life and we are all better for it!