It's still messed up, but it probably is very common. I think the least you can do is peace somebody out via phone. But then again, it is 2011. Some people only speak to one another when they see eachother. I know people whose entire conversation history consists of text messages.
Though I do think the rules behind all of this are definitely changing, I also think that traditional forms of kicking somebody to the curb are best practices. Folks do deserve at least a phone call. I'm not saying it even has to be a long one. A text-break up is also kind of selfish. It's done entirely to avoid having to deal with whatever emotions the person will have...because of you.
However, I also think it depends on why you're dropping somebody. If they did you wrong, then forget them. If you're just deciding to move on, then I think you owe them at least a phone call. But to each his own, and the damage is done so may you have a wonderful weekend perusing happy hours.
Cheers.
I had a guy once break up via text, to which I replied, “This deserves an actually conversation.” Of course he ignored it. Fast forward, he has been mad texting me lately, telling me how he was wrong & he wants me back bla bla bla. Guess what?!? I ignored it…
break=broke (my bad)
same exact thing happened to me; from the break up and the trying to get back togerther... i did what you did - ignore! :)
same exact thing happened to me; from the break up and the trying to get back togerther... i did what you did - ignore! :)
together** woopsie
together** woopsie
Uhhh definitely messed up. You've been dating this person for 5 months, they deserve some respect and a break-up text message is one of the douchiest things you can do.
I think it depends on a few factors, like why you're dumping them and the type of person they are. I broke up with a guy of 11 months over the phone because he was manipulative. I knew if I went anywhere near him he'd pull me back, and I definitely didn't want that.
I generally agree with this --taking into account the circumstances/type of person thing. I dated a guy for 4 months and he broke things off via text too. I was nothing but understanding and patient with him throughout our short relationship and I guess he wasn't used to that; he was used to being treated badly by psycho chicks. He had a host of other issues as well, low self-esteem, MAJOR commitaphobe, so I guess it was best in the end, but I still think considering that I took the time and made the effort to treat him with respect, he should have returned the favor and either have done it in person or at least over the phone. 'Whatever happened to class?' says I.
I agree with Morgan. I finalized the break up with someone by returning their things without giving them a call or seeing them. Reason? I was afraid he'd hit me.
Was it a jerk move? My take:self protection.