Ah, she seeks a second opinion. Okay, I'll play.
With all due respect to my colleague--we are an opinionated bunch, which is why we're here--no, I do not agree. I can't imagine he was being totally serious, but it's a good topic, so let's talk about it.
Yes, some divorced people have baggage. So do married people. So do widowed people. So do single people. If divorced people are undateable because of their baggage, then everyone is undateable, because everyone has baggage. People like to think that certain kinds of baggage are worse than others, but they are not. Baggage is baggage.
You can't generalize about people and their hangups. Not all divorced people have been scarred by the experience. Some unloaded their baggage by getting divorced, and now they are as happy as can be. We like to think we can predict what kinds of people have issues, but we can be wrong. Some of the most grounded people I know have experienced devastating personal tragedy, and some of the most troubled people I know have had what many would consider an easy life. These people might be the exceptions to the rule, but they prove that exceptions exist.
If we're going to generalize, here's mine: the divorced people I know are some of the most self-aware folks you will ever meet. Going through the pain of a broken marriage has taught them much about themselves and how they deal with others, and they are determined not to make the same mistakes again. If practice makes perfect, divorced people are one up on the rest of us: they made a wrong choice and learned a painful, indelible lesson. They are wiser for the experience.
Are divorced people damaged goods? Absolutely. We are all damaged goods. That's what makes us human.
Thanks for the question.