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I hit it off with this guy I met last year. We ended up sleeping together. He stopped talking to me because he "hits it and quits it". I'm going to be seeing him this Thursday. I was wondering if I had a chance with this guy or not?

A chance at what? A chance at sleeping with him, and then weeping over a wedge of coffee cake because he won't call you back? Again? Yes. There is an 95% chance that he is a man of his word. A chance at him becoming your boyfriend? Oh, my God, I am laughing out loud on the internet.

The dude outlined his modus operandi: he "hits it and quits it." What more do you need to know? I have a measure of respect for straight-up, self-aware doucheaholics. He has told you what to expect from him. Therefore, you have to take responsibility for what happens. If you see him, and bang it out, and then he disappears, the subsequent disappointment is your fault. I can't say this enough.

Go for it. Just don't complain to your friends, or family or to me.

This is pure ego, isn't it? You don't love this guy. It's the challenge, isn't it? He pushes you away, and it drives you bat nutters. I get that. Scaling the summit is more exciting than the actual view.

You don't have a chance at an actual relationship with this bro. But that doesn't mean you can't have any fun. It's not like I'm anti-fun. It's just that sometimes bruises and fun go hand and hand, so just be aware of that.

See him on Thursday. Sleep with him if he makes you steamy. Then return the favor: don't call him back. Don't text him. Move on.

He hits it and quits it. So you can rail and bail.


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Yeah...Pretty much dead on with that answer. Its an old formula, treat a woman like shit and watch her grovel . Be above it, move on .

Right now it may seem like he has feelings for you (because your sleeping together so you think that equates feelings) but he's an upfront douche about it.

I've been with a guy who's mo was this, all I can say girl is RUNNNN!!! RUN FOR THE HILLS !!

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LOL @ rail and bail!

cropcircles

Bah, I love the challenge.

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I probably sound like the OP, but I'm not. I just love a challenge.

prettylady

I love a challenge too... but not with a guy who's probably slept with more women than there are Omish people as a religious group! (I was trying to go for an adequate number of like 300 lol) Can you say chlamydia?
My friend and I have a policy for these boys: "tease but no please!" I say flirt with him all night.... and at the last minute...REJECT him when he tries to take you home. Its way more satisfying than the sex you'd have with him!

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When someone tells you up front who he is, you ought to believe him.

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I agree with said information, hit him where it hurts! The ego! Your attitude needs to be more like, yeah you may have had me once, but you wont get me all the time! Good luck!

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"he hits it then quits it" WTF! what a prince! RUN AWAYYYYYYYYYY!

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Why would you want to have anything to do with a man who thinks it is intelligent to rhyme when referring to his sexual skills - what a loser.

PartyInMyPants

You have to learn to play the same game that *they* play with you.

Not saying that "sleeping around/flings" is a game..(may be for some), but these men are simply the players. So, dont hate the playa, hate the game sweetheart.

Frenchie

It is such a typical girl thing to hope for change in men.
DON'T.
It is a mistake ahaha. It happens VERY VERY rarely. And mostly when you don't expect it.

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I wrote a note to a guy asking if he would like to get together for a drink? I waited for a phone call but never got it. One week later, I saw him, and he massaged my neck and then later he said what that your number and I replied yest, what's up, he said "I'm good."

What does that mean, he is good with the drink or he is good with his situation right now and not looking for a change? Please give me your thoughts, I am confused.

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