Yes, you missed something. More so his body missed something - a completion to his arousal. What you are explaining and what he was going through is in some ways complex and in other ways quite simple. When a man rubs, grinds, humps and heaves his body on yours, it feels good. Really good. In some relationships and at some point in your life, the humping and so on will likely lead to more contact and more sexual activities -- activities that will culminate in ejaculation, orgasm.
So these days, your man is trying to physically and emotionally deal with the parameters that are set forth. He respects your sexual boundaries and that's a great thing. At the same time, his desires and biological urges kick in and he is working through them. His rudeness is rude. I am not excusing it. I am explaining where it's coming from. No acitivy should result in him ghosting you, ie shunning you, ignoring you and treating you like a villain. That isn't acceptable or something he's entiled to because his wang didn't get wet.
The answer isn't necessarily letting him/making him orgasm, or opting to not make out altogether. But rather, communicate your hurt, receive an apology and then talk through the whole issue. Sit down and explore options; perhaps meet in the middle -- a place where your boundaries aren't crossed and his rocks can get rocked. Working together you should be able to find a way to satiate everyone's needs.
Its gonna be hard to figure out a middle ground, cus in the heat of the moment you wont remember. My situation was the same (except the rudeness), he just sat in silence and said it was his problem but I caused it. Yeah it is HIS problem, but you shouldnt sacrifice your decision just because he didnt get a grand finale. I didnt, i didnt feel great for him but i respected my choice which is better..
My understanding is that blue balls hurt... like hell! If what the two of you do isn't going to get him off, at least let him finish the job in the bathroom.
I thought blue balls were caused by being on the very last second before orgasm but stopping yourself. I didn't think you could get blue balls just by abstaining from sex. And I think it's pretty safe to say he is finishing somewhere, so I wouldn't worry TOO much about that.
As my boyfriend explained to me, guys get blue balls when they're very turned on for a certain length of time and nothing comes of it.
Im having a similar situation ... My guy got really frustrated that I wouldnt go all the way, and now I keep giving him promises that I would. It's very confusing cause I dont want him to have to sleep with someone to feel good, but yet again I dont want to lose my virginity. And this is really confusing.
If you don't want to lose your virginity, then by all means, don't! But you need to stop promising your guy that you will, and be very clear with him that you don't want to. If he keeps pushing you, then you need to decide whether or not it's healthy for you to be with someone who doesn't respect your wishes. He doesn't have to sleep with someone to feel good(that's what masturbation is for), and if he told you otherwise, he's being an ass and trying to make you feel guilty.
just give him a hand or blow job I would prefer my hand but gotta give him something or just have sex with him I mean if you've been with him long enough and you use protection why not, I mean your both adults right.