You got needs. He is not meeting those needs. You picked up something that will meet those needs without breaking your marriage vows.
I salute you. Mucho respect.
Now, for him, and the language, even with censoring, might be a touch vigorous.
Hey as*hole! Get yer fat a*s off the [CENSORED] couch and do the stuff you are supposed to do as a man and husband. Stop retreating from your [CENSORED] failure as a [CENSORED] man.
You are a contemptable, pathetic maggot, yet may possibly prove to be a decent person one day. I'll not hold my breath you [CENSORED] piece of [CENSORED] I would wipe off my boot in disgust.
You revolt me. One tiny [CENSORED] problem and you run and hide. You show your true colors if you are threatened by a bit of plastic and a pair of batteries. Man up or [CENSORED] the [CENSORED] off and stop messing up this ladies life! A man doesn't pull this crap on his wife. Ever.
I feel much better. Hope you do too, and best wishes to you, questioner.
That was [CENSORED] awesome!!!
Funny, when I read it, my mind "automatically inserted" words where you said "censored".
What a fun version of Mad Libs this would be!!!!
You frequently say despicable things. Why are you on this site?
People, you need to stop responding to trolls! The only reason he keeps coming back is because he knows he can get under your skin. If you want them to leave and not come back, conduct the comment threads as if they never commented. Unlike sometimes in the real world, you can ignore sad trolls. They thrive on negative attention, they giggle and play with themselves when someone says their name.
Don't reply under them, don't try to correct them, don't insult them, hell, don't even give them down votes. Just act like they are not even there.
no really, tell us how you really feel MM lol to the OP, i could have written that about 8 or 9 years ago when i was married. discovering that world that "doesn't talk back" was quite enlightening for me. work it girlfriend.
Anyone wanna take a bet on how long before Corey's lady asks a question asking why her man is constantly an ass?
Oh, right. They won't. Because his only lady friend is named Rosie Palms.
The guys on this site do not give 'female opinions.' They give the opinions of intelligent, compassionate, mature people. I'm sorry if you feel threatened by them, but maybe you should try taking notes instead of spreading your crap to an audience that knows better.
You're assuming that this creature could get a woman.
Oh, sorry--Rosie Palms! Sometimes I'm slow on the draw.
It's true---maybe I am a nutcase. But I am a nutcase who can recover. You, my lad, are a douche through and through. I would say that mine is the lesser evil of the two.
So, now that you've found that. Clearly you can read, so do so. Mystery Man's answer to me was not that of someone being paid to cater to the estrogen brigade, but was, as I have said, that of one who is intelligent, compassionate, and mature.
Unless you can see through the internet, which I take to be unlikely as your head is probably so far up your own ass by now that you're blinded to all but your own intestines, you don't know what the OP looks like. Even Jessica Alba could be saddled with someone that's less than satisfactory.
TL;DR: You're not helping your case. I still think you should be taking notes and letting the grown-ups do the talking.
Very nice of you Sparrow, but sadly he don't care, he's not interested in discussion or understanding, he just wants to piss people off. Don't let him know he's succeeding.
I read your post, and I do hope and believe you can overcome! You are already a far better person than these trolls!
get. a. life. thanksandgoodbye!
I do see why you are unhappy, OP, what I don't understand is why don't you simply leave the guy. Then you don't have to worry about cheating, divorce is freedom. Seriously, if he's out of work and not even trying to find a job, if he spends too much time playing games, and you have problems with him being fat, clearly this marriage is not for you anymore. Get rid of this baggage, and you can once again enjoy the real thing along with your toy.
Sometimes people stay way too long in a relationship that is clearly dead, buried but showing no signs of being resurrected...
Corey
I have asked you nicely. Last warning.
I am a lot less tolerant than RP is.
Imma go a little bit out on a branch here...
Not saying she's not within her rights to be upset, not saying this is an excuse for hubby to be this way, but communication is important. JUST AS IMPORTANT is HOW you communicate.
if you've talked to him over and over about this issue, that's a good start, but HOW are you talking to him? are you calling him a loser? a failure? a worthless piece of sh!t?
Like I said, he might actually be all of these things and she's well within her rights to be so frustrated and upset with him. I just got the teensiest-tiniest sense that there's a lack of compassionate communication from the OP. That's all.
I am the OP. Hubby and I have been together for over 10 years. We have 4 children and alot of history. I would not and have not outright called my husband a loser, slob, piece of sh*t or anything else along those lines. We have tried counseling as well. He recently started acting this way( a few months). Communication is a two way street. Does not work if he is unwilling to participate.
Corey you seem to have a few issues as well my dear. You may want to talk to someone about them.
I never said I WANTED to cheat on my husband. I said he gets worked up over the IDEA that I may cheat on him. Cheating isn't an out for me. It only makes the situation worse. If I ever felt that strongly to cheat I'd get a divorce first. It's the same courtesy I would want.
I have been my husbands cheerleader for as long as we've been together. No one, not even his own mother, has been there like I have. But like I said...this actions are a recent and mindbogglingly.
MM Thank you!! you said everything I say in my head lol. Actually I showed this page to my hubby. He said, "That women is crazy..she needs to leave the guy!!"
I told him I wrote it. The look of shock on his face was, well...Kodak moment!
But we talked again and he seems to be getting it, slowly but surely.
Again I say thank you
You tell him, from me, that yeah, being unemployed hurts. It is a real kick in the b*lls for most guys.
No excuse to give up on being a man though. We are more than "what we do"
corey. you need to get a life.
Lol! Flipping' awesome reply,MMan!! I feel like I'd hug you for your great advice that you write all the time if I could! Keep it up! :)
sounds like my ex....that being one of the many reasons he is now my ex. :)