You do whatever you need to. You sneak into his bedroom, or out of the house, or drill a hole in the wall between you. Space be damned...first anniversary's and 3000 mile visits are for sweet loving, and you can't carry on without getting that checked off the list first.
Life finds a way. Make like Jurassic Park denizens and improvise. If his mom really had a problem with sex, he wouldn't exist, let alone have a sister with a room she can use to cockblock you.
Presuming you're both adults, the decision is yours. Be courteous: no one wants to hear noisy lovin' coming from their child's room. But making it happen is well within your rights, and who are any of us to stand in the way of true love (or even fleeting lust)?
Despite what they'd have us believe, most mother's are not in fact omniscient. I'm sure you can find a quiet moment to sneak off and do what needs to be done, from cuddling to mega-cuddling and everything between.
Heck, the strained circumstances may spur you on to greater sexual heights than you ever imagined! There's nothing like a quickie in an elevator or a child's day-bed to remind you that you don't have your own place yet.
... ask him to buy a night at a hotel??? Come on...
If they're staying at his parents I doubt either can afford it. (Also, not going to bother arguing your blatant sexism...)
Oh, come on! She either paid for a flight, or paid all that gas to travel 3000 miles! Not to mention the time it must of took if she drove... I don't think it's entirely unreasonable for the guy to pay for the room. Especially since it's his mom that's stopping them on their anniversary.
Hmm, I don't know. I think it is a little disrespectful if the mother clearly stated she is not comfortable with them sharing a room. You do have to respect the person who is letting you stay in their house..for free I'm assuming.
And if it is that important to both of them, they should split the hotel room.
I have a feeling the asker is under 18, or at least not very much older. If you are staying in her house, it would be best to follow her rules. Me personally, I always felt weird fooling around with my boyfriend if parents or family are around. It's just too creepy thinking they might hear you. A few days of no sex won't kill you.
I would go with the others advice to follow her rules(at least while she's there), or go to a hotel.
I think the asker really wants to sleep with her boyfriend because it's most likely been wayyyy longer than "a few days of no sex", seeing as she's travelling 3000 miles to visit him. And there's nothing wrong with asking him to pay for the hotel, especially if she paid for her own plane ticket!
Dude, I went to a tiny private school, my dad is a preacher, and my husband (bf at the time) has a racist mom. I know all about "the watchful eye". Find a place to be alone (his car, hotel, shed in the back yard, etc.) and go at it quickly. It sucks not being able to see him everyday (I know. My hubs has been in Korea for a year), so make the most of the time you'll have together.
While I won't argue the (understandable) desire to spend nights with the boyfriend on a first anniversary and because the distance is so far, I do think it is very disrespectful to do anything in the house when his mother is so clearly uncomfortable with it. If you want to be alone, go with the advice already given by other posters and get a hotel room or something. If you are staying in her house, you should abide by her rules.