Well, first of all, he needs better lines. Not only are his jokes cheesy, but he's also implying that he's Speedy Gonzales in the bedroom. The next time he uses that line, say, "Really? Ten minutes is all you'll need? I'll pass." Give it back to him and see how he reacts.
Is he into you? Possibly. He could have suddenly realized his feelings for you, and this is his awkward way of letting you know. He could be trying to steer the relationship into the "friends with benefits" territory, and making jokes to gauge your reaction to the idea of sleeping with him. Or he could just be making stupid jokes. Maybe he feels comfortable enough with you to make crass jokes. If it makes you uncomfortable, tell him to cut it out. If he persists, firmly tell him to stop it, that you're not interested in him in that way. It sounds like he's an okay guy, so hopefully he'll take the hint. But definitely tell him he needs to work on his zingers.
Is he into you? Possibly. He could have suddenly realized his feelings for you, and this is his awkward way of letting you know. He could be trying to steer the relationship into the "friends with benefits" territory, and making jokes to gauge your reaction to the idea of sleeping with him. Or he could just be making stupid jokes. Maybe he feels comfortable enough with you to make crass jokes. If it makes you uncomfortable, tell him to cut it out. If he persists, firmly tell him to stop it, that you're not interested in him in that way. It sounds like he's an okay guy, so hopefully he'll take the hint. But definitely tell him he needs to work on his zingers.
I've got a guy friend that does the same thing.Like,"Climb in the backseat and I'll give you the best birthday present ever" or "Your hands are cold,I have a warm spot you can put them".Then the next moment he's paying my way in or giving me his jacket and putting my arm through his or around my shoulders.Like you,I just laugh it off but you can't help but wonder if he's hinting at something or really just joking around.....
I have a friend that does that that has pretty much expressly told me he has no interest in me, though. Sooooo...it could just be a really bad ongoing joke =D
"Really? Ten minutes is all you'll need? I'll pass."
haha! I have a (male) friend that jokes around sometimes too. I have to remember this for next time.
come on guys...wake up and smell the coffee. That is obviously his way of seeing whether she's feeling him or not. He sounds like he is unsure of her reaction and is hiding behind his jokes. Try and gauge how much you like him so you can save him from his corny lines, not to mention yourself...
Sexual Jokes can be just that: Only Jokes. It does mean he is comfortable enough to say those things around you. But I use the word "comfortable" because there is a difference between sexual comfort and sexual attraction. All guys think of sex and like to joke about sex. He may even be curious about what sex would be like with a girl he's joking with. But there is a big difference between curiosity and genuine attraction and even further to feelings of love. Guys may be curious about sex with someone, but not have any feelings other than that. It comes down to your history with the guy. He may be "testing the waters" to see how you react to him bringing up sex. The only way you will truely know is to ask him the next time he brings it up. You can be discrete and say "If I didn't know better I'd think that's an invitation." But he may not be ready to admit his true feelings. But be careful as he may only be interested in sex and nothing else.
I'm having the exact dillema. My really good guy friend is always making remarks such as when someone asked me "are you coming out?" He responded "no she's coming back to my room" when clearly I wasn't. Or if jokingly I say "I hate you" he'll respond "that's not what you said last night". He makes sexual comments and jokes about the two of us. They don't make me uncomfortable, I'd actually like them to mean something. How do I know if he's serious?
Ask him, honey! Say, "Are you serious?" If you want more, ask him flat-out. He might say yes or he might say no, but at least you'll know.
Good luck!
I have exactly the same situation, except that he has a girlfriend and at the beginning of our friendship i was not into him...but now, getting to know him etc i am EVEN though he's not the sort of guy i usually go for.
he tried to have sex with me once, i pretend to be asleep, and then i tried to have sex with him and we messed around but eventually he said it would be a bad idea if we slept together...and yet...
he's always holding my hand in the street, sleeping over, and taking me out and stuff...why? i'm not his girlfriend!
he sleeps with other girls as well as his girlfriend but not me, but he does girlfriendy things with me! whats the point?
rahhhh men really are from mars!
I have a similar situation but I'm a guy with my best guy friend. We are really close friends and we spend a lot of time together but we do gay sexual jokes a lot. We consider ourselves straight, but I think some times we go too far. Some times I make him feel uncomfortable for going too far sometimes he makes me feel uncomfortable. Like a spank or touch the leg. Never done anything more than just that. I used to be the one joking all the time but now he beats me to it. Sometimes I can't stop him. We do hug, and go on what we call man dates to drink, eat and talk. But that's all it is a good friendship. What u guys think of this? Normal?
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I grew up with five brothers. It was kind of a clicky thing, my older two brothers were 'cool' and I was the 'dorky' sister. As we got older, I picked up on my brothers 'cool' sexual jokes that everyone laughed at. My new sister-in-law told 'cool' sexual jokes that everyone laughed at too. Needless to say, I've grown up telling sexual jokes to be 'cool', to be funny, to make people laugh.
Well, after twenty something years of marriage, my husband blew a gasket after I joked around with our neighbor who is 21. My husband painted a picture for me that this young neighbor takes it more serious than I. He opened my eyes to the fact that telling jokes may be considered inappropriate and can be misconstrued. So I make a conscious effort not to do it anymore. Sadly, my husband has become very jealous of this young man, and he believes we are still making sexual jokes to each other, but we're not. We just had another big fight over it. What hurts is that I assumed my husband knew me all these years enough to trust me as a fairly decent person, much like Old Faithful. He has made me feel dirty and I didn't do anything wrong. He even brought up something from years ago from when I poked my friends neighbor in the belly cuz he said he had a six-pack, like a test. He had a shirt on. I just don't get it. Sigh.
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Yeah my guy friend does these things he says jokes like "We should fuck sometime" nd asking me bwt my boobs nd period cycles..he also touches me..an occasionaly squeeze of the but or boobs
Ok so i am in this situation this boy we have only been friends for like 2 months hes really comfortable with me but almost everyone i know gets used to me pretty fast i think people just feel comfort towards me anyways he said a few sexual jokes towards me im only 14 hes 15.. in the beginging id laugh i was comfortable then he said other think i didnt like i told him " no seriously stop it " and right after i changed the subject and said what are u doing did he get the ;point to calm down with all the sexual jokes or not really was i firm enough this was all on messenger chat
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