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my bestfriend who is a male tells me that i need to stop searching for a man because he will come to me, now is he telling me this because he wants me?

This is one of those slippery slope questions that I think more women should ask men. You see, you are attempting to come to conclusions on your own that would be best left to..well...him.

Some guys speak in code. Some guys do not. This little piggy went to market. This one went to Costco and saved lots of money.

Might he be interested in you? Perhaps, but if he was really planning on making some sort of move, I'm sure you'd have an inkling. Most guys get real dumb when it comes to love. Even the smoothest player on the court loses some cool when it comes to meeting his romantic match. We do and say things that we wouldn't normally do. And hell, we probably will TELL you that we usually don't say or do such things but we can't help it.

At the same time, he might just be giving you some advice. Straight, no chaser. Perhaps he sees you going for the wrong men. Or he sees the lengths your going to in order to procure a man and they're failing miserably and it hurts him to see you in such a state.

Either way, my guess is that he's not telling you to stop searching for men because he wants you. If he did, he probably would say something to the effect of "stop looking for men when good ones are right under your nose."

He'd say something to indicate that you should look his direction or closer to home. You know, that movie stuff. I think he's just telling you to take a chill pill, regroup, do you and the right man will come along at the right time.

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MaggieG

Interesting. I didn't realize I sent in a question. The catch, in my case, is that I think I want him to want me because I think I want him. But I don't know if I want him because I'm getting out of a bad marriage and he's comfortable and familiar or if I really want him because I think we're a good match. Hormones! They suck sometimes.

Kim

OMG...Maggie, that is my exact situation. I've been involved with my best guy friend for almost a year. (Casually for the first 6 months, then exclusive from July). He keeps thinking that I "fell back" into him because he's a known quantity and therefore, easy to love. In reality, I had been over my marriage for years before I got around to filing for divorce, and over time, realized I'd had a great guy in front of me all the time.
MY problem is that he has been hurt badly, and now can't feel ANYTHING love-like. He keeps telling me he WANTS to say he loves me, but he doesn't feel that he does. Meanwhile, we get along great, have lots of fun together, and have amazing chemistry....this is what makes me just wanna throw my hands up in the air and shout "MEN!!!!"

Panama Jackson

shout, shout, let it all out, these are the things i can do without...c'mon...

you man want to throw your hands in the air (and wave them like you just don't care), but at least he's being open with his feelings. he sounds confused and conflicted about things. at least he's talking though. a lot of guys just shut down on stuff like that (i've been known to shut down a time or 4,189).

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