I have no idea how old you are, but I decided to answer this one anyway. I figure you're probably in your late teens but let this serve as a life lesson.
You're boyfriend is being smart. You are not. You've already stated that you're not on birth control. What do you want to get pregnant?? Hell, even if you were taking birth control he'd be smart to still use condoms. Forgive him for not wanting to sign up for a chance at fatherhood before he's ready.
Here's my question, why are you okay without using them? Especially without any birth control being used? What gives for you? There is absolutely nothing wrong with your boyfriend's mentality. Though I do question why he's continuing to have sex with you knowing that you might not mind being pregnant right now. Maybe it's a mentality thing because I don't view abortion as a form of birth control. Maybe you do. Maybe you don't. I don't know and I don't want to put words in your mouth.
You're asking him to take a big risk he's not willing to take. Smart man. Very smart man.
But truth is, you're making some bad decisions and I'm kind of glad and feel that you're lucky to have a boyfriend who is able to be smart enough in a compromising situation to forego that desire to run raw. Maybe he knows something I don't know. Or perhaps he's just like, you know what, hell naw.
Bottom line, nothing gives. He doesn't want to be a daddy right now. So he's doing one thing to hopefully ensure that he won't.
great advice- i deff agree- why would you be willing to risk pregnancy? for the life of me i cant understand why you wouldnt want ur bf to wear a condom if ur not even on birth control?
because from the way u phrased it- its not as if ur trying to start a family anyways or anything liek that- so why???
Argh 16 and pregnant anyone?
This is ridiculous... USE A COMDOM! You are a bright, intelligent woman I am sure! Look after your health and the people you sleep with! If you don't want a child, protect yourself! This question is a no brainer, he doesn't want std's or a baby =condom SOLVES BOTH ISSUES!
Da daaaaaa!
Actually, this question itself is evidence against her being bright OR intelligent.
Yeah I know... i didn't want to insult her... but she can't be really think... she knows the risks.
Rahhh this girl makes me angry!
Sounds like you're only thinking of yourself here... maybe you don't have any STD's, but he might. Good Advice from everyone, Use a condom!
Ughh this girl sounds like a dumbass!! she is whats wrong with relationships these days!! i have so many friends who WHOOPS got pregnant and it just makes me angry. They spend all their time bitching about their boyfriends and how they aren't stepping up to the plate and taking responsibility when they didn't want a kid in the first place! plus the guys i know in these situations ARE doing what they need to do to be great fathers they just aren't fulfilling the husband roles to these girls and thats what these girls are really complaining about. MAYBE YOU SHOULDN'T GET PREGNANT ON PURPOSE THEN!! ughh what do women expect!! if you don't plan a baby with a man when your married or in a healthy relationship of course its going to go badly!! This girl is an idiot and will probably end up getting pregnant by someone before he is ready and messing up his life and hers not to mention the baby. COME ON GIRLS YOUR GIVING ALL OF US A BAD REP WHEN YOU GET PREGNANT BY "ACCIDENT".
Do you want a child? Because that is the only reason you would have sex without protectoin. Not using protection IS the same as trying to get pregnant.
You know something, I do not agree with the 'asker' either. But could we all step back a moment and consider that she could be naive and possibly not realize how easy it would be to get pregnant and how hard it can be for guys to climax when they are terrified they won't evacuate when they need to?
Take a breath, this site is here for people to have their questions answered no matter how silly they may seem. If she wanted a lecture she would have asked someone in person.
I've got news for you. That whole "evacuate when they need to" thing is a MYTH, and a dangerous one. I ought to know... my 24 yr. old son is living proof.
AH, sorry for the double post! My first one didn't go through (again!), and that usually means that it won't, ever.
Be safe. Be responsible. Your are playing russian roulette if you let life decide what it wants for you.
Dear. No questions. He needs to wear the condom. He's looking out for your health far better than you are. If you think he doesn't need a condom then you are certainly not ready to bring a child into this world.
Sorry, I didn't mean to post twice.
Condoms may not be the greatest feeling thing ever for guys, buy I'm pretty sure they beat having to take care of a child you were unprepared for. This girl is lucky to have a reasonable boyfriend, for the sake of all involved.
Am I the only one who gathered the guy might have had an STD without telling her? I'm pretty sure that's a huge motive to wear a condom at all times too, lol.
maybe he has a std!
Pregnancy and STD concerns aside, he may simply be trying to last longer. Going raw feels pretty intense, especially if the guy is used to wearing condoms... He could just be making sure he doesn't climax quickly.