If you want him to shave off the hipster beard, you need to tell him to shave off the hipster beard.
My philosophy regarding a guy's facial hair is as follows: If the guy is single, it's his call. If the guy isn't, it's his girlfriend's call. Guys wear facial hair for the same reason they do everything else - to be attractive to women. But if they've already attracted a woman, then their new goal should be to try and keep her. And their actions and facial hair choices should reflect that.
Given this, my advice is to tell him the truth and keep it as straightforward as possible. "I find you a lot more attractive without the beard, and I really want you to shave it off." Tell him that you don't want to be bossy, but you have a clear preference and you want him to know what it is. It doesn't have to be any more complicated than that. If your boyfriend is smart, he'll do what you're strongly recommending that he do.
Spell it out and don't feel bad. Good luck.
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He has an excuse for the mustache, at least.
Ahah I've had the same problem, and I sympathise of how much of an awkward situation it is! Luckily for me repeated comments of 'I LIKE YOUR CHIN, I MISS SEEING YOUR JAWLINE' worked enough for him to ask me outright whether I liked it or not.
Just tell him you don't like the look of it, since it is your honest opinion and it's bugging you, it still means he can decide whether to keep it or not but this time he can bear your thoughts in mind when he considers it. At the moment he's probably thinking you like him clean shaven but the beard's not bad too.
I ran into a friend who was a nasty, hairy mess & I asked him WTF was going on. He said he quick smoking 48 days ago & decided to not shave on the day he quit smoking. I asked him if his wife decided to do that, would it be cool? His face was terror stricken with the thought of it. (His friend busted out laughing.) Sometimes guys just don't get it what they project...
*quit, not quick..., dumb/smart phone! (I give up!)
Really? I don't understand. Is it also OK if the guy tells his significant female other that he doesn't like her new haistyle/haircolor etc., and tells her he finds her more attractive some other way? I'm female, so I like MM's answer, but is that really the way it works? What I don't understand about men is a lot.
By all means, I think the OP should tell her bf that she doesn't find the beard attractive, but what if he chooses not to shave it off? When women say things like, "My boyfriend doesn't like my [insert physical characteristic here]", everyone typically responds with, "don't change yourself for a man", "do what YOU want", etc. So why is it different for men? If OP lets him know how she feels, what more can she do? It's ultimately the bf's body, and his decision. If he likes the beard and the way it looks on him, why should he have to get rid of it? just seems like a double standard.
Noone's saying she should make him shave it off, I don't see what's wrong with her getting her feelings about it out in the open! It's bugging her so why not talk it through frankly with her boyfriend?
Usually the "My boyfriend doesn't like my [insert physical characteristic here]" is more changing something you've had since before you were going out. She started dating a beardless guy and now he's growing a beard. And beards are generally a way bigger turn off then your partner changing his or her hair color or style.
Some men can't pull off facial hair. There are guys with weird neck beards and guys who don't understand you sometimes need to trim it in some areas for you to not look homeless. Some girls (I'm one of them) don't like the feel of kissing guys with beards or mustaches or really anything longer then like 2 days of stubble.
Also, if you've been with someone for awhile, you should at least be able to talk about it. A guy who completely ignores his girlfriend when she tells him she isn't as attracted to him with a beard isn't someone you should be with. But if he listens to your opinion and responds in a manner that shows he's respecting what you say, whether he says he'll shave or not.
I disagree, you're going to have to get used to the beard. What if you decide to change your hair like dye it red and cut it short? Or get super long extensions? How would you feel if your boyfriend said you didn't look hot any more.
I understand if the beard is looking messy. You should tell him that he needs to keep it neat looking but that's it.
I think it's more like not shaving your armpits and legs, and walking around outside with it showing. While it's technically your call, most women understand that their boyfriends/husbands may not be cool with it.
Yes! This is precisely the case! One of the things I was attracted to in my wife was her long, jet black, silky hair. It's still what I think is hot on her. Were she to cut it and especially dye it blonde, that would be a big turn off to me. But it's still her hair to do as she pleases. Can you imagine the crap I got if I told her she didn't look hot anymore? I'd be lecture that I'm suppose to love the person, told not to be so superficial, not to be such a douche. Her hair, her choice to do what she wants with it and if I don't like it I can get lost.
You can ask ur bf directly about shaving his beard but do not start a fight if he refuses, after all that is his face he can wear the beard he as he wants,
I would expect him to shave if he cares about what u think and ur preference,
But if it doesn't, no big deal right?