Congratulations, Mystery Man. You just emotionally beat up on someone who gets emotionally beat up by her boyfriend? Didn't want to miss out on the "fun"?

To the questioner: The only time you really need to sneak away is if your bf is physically abusive and you feel your safety is in danger. If so, then by all means, make sure you protect yourself while getting out. But emotional abuse is also difficult, and more insidious since it can be hard to recognize how badly you are being treated. But you are being mistreated, and while Mystery Man was being a douche in his answer, he is essentially correct: the way to get out is just to leave, and recognize the urge to get back with him (when it rears his head) is not a desire to be with him, but part of a lack of self-worth. So, since you want to leave/break up, leave/break up and get with a counselor immediately to find out why you would allow yourself to be mistreated like this. But whatever you do, you need help to break the cycle of being a victim. Good luck.

Sometimes people need tough love. The thing is she isn't ready to let go of him. Look i've had my fair share of my heart being broken and taking the guy back but until i wasn't emotionally ready to let go I didn't let go. So as for the guy who keeps getting cheated on....I've cheated my fair times and everytime i say ok this was the last time but once you lose enough respect for someone to cheat on them it is all done because you wouldn't have cheated on them in the first place if something wasn't missing or if you loved and respected them enough. so as much as it sucks he's not going to stop cheating or change. Take a guy for how he is and do not expect him to change because his personality is as is. If you get back hoping someone will change you're in for serious dissapointment. Example i am clingy and some guys have not minded ( i love partying too and am a pretty good time) other have minded it and i've tried changing works for 1 month or so then i go back because its your personality. i hope it all works out for you!

i know how u feel.cos ur the one whos stupid enough to take him back, u keep thinking he will change, you fell in love with him for some reason and u want that reason to come back.
You say u want to leave, why are u then still there?
How do u know he cheated?
My bf cheated on me and I caught him, I was stupid enough to forgive him and then he changed but now hes out gettin drunk again and comin home in the early morning! I dont know what to believe anymore. I know hes got a problem with alcohol and it could be that he was so fucked up that he passed out somewhere like he said or he was with someone.At some point he got aggressive and i had to call the cops.
But i still love him, love is blind and stupid.We cant do anything about.
When I read what I just wrote down I look at it from a 3rd person,thats not me Im not in love with that person,but we still cant let go.
Scary!

Love is blind? That's the dumbest cliche ever. Think about why you want to be with him. Then decide whether or not it's worth it to stay with him. Stop being a victim. If you choose to stay with him, it's your own decision - although, from the description, it doesn't sound like he has any redeeming qualities.

You need to start taking responsibility for your own happiness. Frankly, I hate girls like you. Your wishy-washiness conditions men to think they can get away with this kind of behaviour with every girl. .