Two to three times! That’s a lot by most standards. Guy Standards for sure. Are you a pilot seeking coordinates from him? Are you tracking an Al-Qaeda operative? Long distance relationships are killers. They’re the number two most stressful thing a relationship can endure; the first being the discovery that your man has been dating a tribe of Filipino transsexuals and selling your dirty underwear for Crack-cocaine money.â€¨
You’re asking me, “can one phone call mean that much?” yet asking him to engage in up to 3 phone calls a day. Sounds like you’re trying to overcome the distance by tethering him to the phone. That’s not going to work. When you’re not sharing the same physical space – the rules change. You don’t need to report about every little thing that happened to you in the line at Walgreen’s. You’re not supplying the relationship with oxygen; you’re strangling it.
You can’t trick the god of distance by creating a news ticker of each other’s day-to-day. Imagine how psyched one of the civil war era couples were to get a letter from their beau –it was special and instantly took them to that cloud of love in the sky. You’re using the phone like a telemarketer on commission. Chill girl.
I will also add, that you guys should figure out a happy medium where you feel connected and filled in on his life, but he feels he can make a car payment without telling you what mailbox he used. Get it?