Somewhere between our hard to shake fear of having the folks hear us whacking off, and the fear of yelping something odd or insane during sex, many guys mute the volume button. If it weren't for the boner and faint breath it'd be hard to confirm another human is actually in the room.
Don't worry; there isn't really a one to one correlation between their enjoyment and their not sounding off. Sometimes guys enjoy or feel they need to concentrate on the sex to such a degree that they'll involuntary shut off other parts of their body. Have you ever watched a scary movie and realized your shoulders have been up at your neck and you haven't exhaled in 35 minutes. Same with a killer blowjob.
But like any habit, that's not particularly awesome or necessary, there's no harm in bringing it up; seeing if there's room for a little shift. I understand, your need or desire for some audio during the flesh feast. It adds another dynamic layer and makes you feel like you're not having sex in a deep space air vacuum.
Hopefully, your insight will be music to his ears; and he can start incorporating some decibels to the dirty. But take it slow - authenticity is where it's at. You don't want him to fake grunt and moan for your pleasure. Nobody is going to be a Charlie Chaplin mute one day and get all Steven Tyler on your ass, the next.
Some guys just really don't make much noise (I'm one of them). Many times it just feels so good I just can't talk or breathe. With 3 kids in the house my wife and I are both having to be quiet.
Maybe he's a little embarrassed.
I say gently encourage your man, "Hey, baby, tell me how this feels.... do you like it when I do this?" He'll start to feel more comfortable I think and open up. That's what it took for me.
My boyfriend and I are in opposite roles which seems to be an oddity from what I hear. He's the noisy one, and I'm the one that (admittedly) could be mistaken for dead at any point:P. Noises just don't come natural to me. I'm so used to covering them up that letting any vocalization out feels...odd? I feel awful because he's mentioned more than once he really enjoys when I make noise, but I won't make any if all it is is faked. I try and let one out every now and again, but its really something I have to think about.
I think Mike had great advice. If that doesn't work, just get used to it. Nothing wrong if that's how your man is:). Trust me, coming from someone who is usually dead silent, that doesn't mean it's not being enjoyed! Some of us just keep it to ourselves as to not get the cops called;). How loud we are has nothing to do with whether or not it feels good.
I'm not at all saying that this is the case with the OP's boyfriend but I just wanted to share a "Bastard Ex-Boyfriend" story.
I once had a boyfriend who would make no noises during sex AT ALL. He even, somewhat proudly, told me once that no woman has ever made him ejaculate from a blowjob.
Fast-forward two months later during our breakup and he explains that he never made noise during sex, called me beautiful, etc. because he "did not want it to go to my head" and that it would make him "feel weak."
What a nutter.
Thanks, Amit. It could definitely be something to do with not getting caught, considering after he moved out of his parents and bought this house, he has always had a roomate on the other side of the wall. When the roomate is home and my BF wants to do something, he tries to get me to be quiet, and I can usually manage it but it takes so much concentration, and once I finish the whole quiet thing goes out the window hehe. So maybe it takes him just as much concentration to make noises as it does for me to be quiet. I never really thought about it that way.
I did talk to him, and he has started randomly interjecting things like, "That feels so good," and "Keep doing that right there," and I know he likes it, so I guess thats the important thing.