Who says all guys like Playboy models and porn stars? All guys aren't Charlie Sheen, David Spade, and other gross celebri-dudes who flash their CBS sitcom money at anything with fake breasts, orange skin, and daddy issues. In fact, I would say that most men do not want to date stripper and porn star types with tiny waists and gigantic inflatable breasts.
I'm going to let you in on a little secret: Men like healthy women. We want you to be happy with yourself and your body. Some go for athletic, toned types, while others prefer curves. Sure, some guys like Victoria's Secret models. But just as many more prefer the models in the Lane Bryant catalog. But I have never heard a guy say, "Man, look at the protruding collar bone on that chick. Girls with iron deficiency can get it!"
So if your boyfriend is telling you he doesn't want a stick-figure girlfriend who could hang-glide on a Dorito, believe him. Clearly he wants something to hold on to and likes you the way you are. That said, you should do whatever you want in terms of your body and health. If you want to lose weight for health reasons, then he should understand that. But don't lose weight because you assume all men want to date a toothpick with two bowling balls attached to her chest.
I'm going to let you in on a little secret: Men like healthy women. We want you to be happy with yourself and your body. Some go for athletic, toned types, while others prefer curves. Sure, some guys like Victoria's Secret models. But just as many more prefer the models in the Lane Bryant catalog. But I have never heard a guy say, "Man, look at the protruding collar bone on that chick. Girls with iron deficiency can get it!"
So if your boyfriend is telling you he doesn't want a stick-figure girlfriend who could hang-glide on a Dorito, believe him. Clearly he wants something to hold on to and likes you the way you are. That said, you should do whatever you want in terms of your body and health. If you want to lose weight for health reasons, then he should understand that. But don't lose weight because you assume all men want to date a toothpick with two bowling balls attached to her chest.
Chic Geek you are awesome!
To the OP: Congrats on your weight loss! He may have made that comment because of an underlying concern. Address it, sure, but don't stop a healthy lifestyle because of his say so.
Mmm. Us men are attracted to all kinds of types. If this is truly your motivation, I'd say you're better off working with the hand you've been dealt. Besides, if your boyfriend is concerned that you'll become TOO skinny of all things, you're probably already at a healthy size as is and should stop worrying and live your life.
LOL hang glide on a dorito. that killed me.
Okay, so maybe your man wouldn't want to DATE a porn star, but that doesn't mean he doesn't jerk off to them. Sorry for that incredibly harsh truth that I've luckily come to grips with. That's one major life-battle down.
Secondly, there's a difference between being slender and being "twiggy." When I think of someone "twiggy", I think of a general lack of curves. You can be slender yet still curvy, which is how I'd describe a VS model.
Ultimately, just look however the fack you want. It's really not that hard, ladies. If he's a good guy, he won't make dickish comments like that to put you down. It frustrates me to see question after question about "why would he say *insert degrading comment here*. He'd say it because he's a shit-head.
I love you.
...why does the boyfriend have any right to dictate what her body looks like? If the OP wants to lose weight in a healthy way, then it's not really his place to whine about how he prefers her body. Kind of sounds like a doucher to me.
Men who voice their opinion = douche?! Bit harsh don`t you think. He just made a single comment (maybe even a playful one - you don`t know the context in which it took place), he didn`t tell her to do anything.
You're right, I don't know the context. However, it seems to have bothered the OP enough to write in about it. Maybe it's just me, but I've always thought it's beyond rude to comment on someone's body type. It seems like the kind of subject where one should keep one's opinion to one's self (especially if it's unsolicited).
While i agree with you that a comment about one`s bodytype can easily offend someone, i do feel that women in general are a bit too sensitive about their weight. Small things tend to get blown to epic proportions for nothing. Like in this case, guy basically (however clumsily) says: i like you just as you are now, no need to work out like mad so you can look like a playboy model.
P.S.
I get the feeling she`s working out for him, and now that he doesn`t want that, she`s confused because all men are expected to want their woman to look like P-stars.
He does't have the right to dictate what her body looks like, but he does have the right to express his opinion.
We don't date people just for what's inside their heads.
Depending on the change, I may end up supporting your decision and plans while dating someone else.
This is the reason why the BF is not supposed to be on this site defending himself...Lol! " This dude is like "you weren't there...so..."
HA! I think in a very nice way he was saying "baby you are starting to act like an anorexic. Eat a bag of dorito's and chill." Solution?
Take your girl out once a week to Chile's or Red Lobster. No can resist those damm "chocolatey lava cakes!" or" Cheese bread hot in the center"...yummy....
Damn that sounds so good right now...
Suddenly I'm craving cheddar bay biscuits...
"Girls with iron deficiency can get it!"
i lol'd hard core
I may be pilloried for this but here it goes:
My weight can fluctuate +/- up to 5 lbs in a day (depending on if I've had breakfast, brunch, lunch, snackies, dinner, and dessert and I'm on the thin side) If he's noticed a 2 lbs weight loss (and I've gotten haircuts, piercings, tattoos that my boyfriend hasn't noticed) maybe you may be getting a little on the too -thin side (and I don't know, since you could weigh 100-500 lbs). Not right now, but at your next doctor's appointment, talk to your dr about all those important numbers, like cholesterol, blood pressure, blood sugar and stuff like that to make sure that you're at a good weight for your age and body type. And if you wake up full of energy and feeling good, be proud of yourself. Yoga is harder than I thought it would be.
Dump this bum fast! He sounds like an insecure twit. He is the one who can't stand a hot GF because all the guys will want her too and then he will have to step up to the plate. Those who like Lane Bryant perhaps they a big breasts are everything or can't get and don't try to get a hot GF. Keep eating healthy and exercising and 28 years from now when he waddles by laugh!. Go Due waht is good for you No man (or woman) is worth your health or self!
Marcel the shell reference?