I don't get it, either. That's very odd. I can only guess that he's embarrassed, or just really doesn't like watching other people have sex, neither of which is completely uncommon. His reaction, though, is just a weeee bit over the top.
Have you asked him why he gets so bent out of shape about something so trivial? That's the first thing you should do. I'd love to hear his explanation, because I sure can't think of one that makes any sense. Maybe his parents forced him to watch Last Tango In Paris as a child, and now he has issues with sex (and butter.) Is he weird about sex in general or just big-screen boffing?
All I can say for sure is that his behavior is very odd and a little bit disturbing. You need to find out what that's all about. In the meantime, stick to PG-rated movies. We don't want the guy to implode.
Thanks for the question.
No movie shows actual sex, only HINT HINT. So yeah, he probably has a problem. Is he an adult yet? Sounds like hes a man-child. BEWARE...be very cautious of man-childs.
Hmm, well! I can understand religious people not wanting to watch sex scenes, and I actually respect their beliefs and convictions. Certainly if I had a GF like that, I'd respect her wishes and pick movies without sex scenes and nudity. Still, though, for non-religious people to get angry, is very, weird. To stay angry for any length, that's just weak and passive-aggressive. Red Flag Alert!!!
Even non religious people can think premarital sex is wrong. If he was a virgin and waiting for marriage, I would be okay with his reaction too. That's what concerns me the most though, I'm assuming this guy has sex, just won't watch a few images that suggest it. Definitely red flag!
He definitely has sex! 39-year-old man. Still confused!
with religion eliminated i wonder if he walked in on his parents one day, or worse, one of his parents with someone that they shouldn't have been with. i dont think he is weak or a man child, but do think his reaction certainly has a source. my guess is that he saw something once that upset him, and seeing it or even seeing hints of it again triggers that same reaction. it could be something as simple as the fact that he doesn't like the way hollywood sort of makes sex a casual thing, and if that is the case that's not a bad thing. the reaction though yes, a little strange. i agree with Cary. find out what the source of this reaction is and just talk it through in a non confrontational way, hopefully that will be enough.
I have a really close female friend who is the exact same way and I don't get it either. She has sex and talks about it all the time but refuses to watch any movie with a sex scene. Pretty much we don't ever watch movies together haha. She says it too uncomfortable, but with some of the sex stories she's told me I find that very hard to believe that a fake sex scene can be that awkward.
If your bf can't enjoy a movie because of a sex scene, even when it is just the two of you, then he probably needs some sort of help.
Maybe, since you referenced Rosemary's Baby and Fatal Attraction, it's about the scenes itself. Both movies have scenes were there is a dubious consent/nonconsenual issue going on. Maybe he's not comfortable watching scenes were there's any undercurrent of sexual violence, plus he's watching them with his girlfriend and that's bound to make any guy uncomfortable.
Very good point, Grace. As I recall, the sex scene in Match Point has dark undertones, too. Perhaps that's the problem.
The staying angry for the rest of the day doesn't sound like a very healthy way to deal with the situation. Either he should get some help about the sex scene fear or his anger management.
we don't know how old he is either, i was wondering about that as well. my 9 year old gets pretty angry for extended periods if switch teletoons off without sufficient heads up lol there's a reason those movies get adult ratings, they are for grownups that can handle it. like cary said, stick with PG for now lol
I would be concerned about him being upset the rest of the day as that could signal the need for control and a passive aggressive personality.
I don't know if anyone's said this already, but I know that my fiancé turns his head during sex scenes in movies out of respect for me, he says that I'm the only girl he wants to see naked. Personally I think it's sweet. Maybe it has nothing to do with other people having sex or his religion or his sexual activity, maybe he's just happy only seeing you naked and could care less about other people's love lives and sex lives.
I was shocked when I read your question and your boyfriends reaction after a sex scene comes on. I react the same exact way, and I honestly thought I was alone with this issue. I'm glad I'm not the only person who feels and acts this way, but I do admit that this is a problem. It has caused serious issues between my boyfriend and I, because he thinks I'm being childish. He doesn't take the time to understand how I feel, so that he can avoid putting in movies that will make me uncomfortable. After I leave the room, I'm still upset that he's still watching it. I don't think I'm jealous of the females on TV, because half of them are ugly anyway, but I would prefer that he not see any other women naked. I actually have a rule too, that most people think is stupid, but my boyfriend is not allowed to touch me or even try to have sex with me after seeing other women naked on TV. Sure call it dumb, but hey, that's just me. I'm pretty sure I will loose my man over this issue and I have agreed to get some professional help but he doesn't want to come with me, and I refuse to go alone. He says he doesn't need to see a therapist, but I do believe that part of the reason why I feel and act this way is because he doesn't give me the attention that I need. So I guess in a way I'm self conscious, but that's only because he makes me feel that way. So with that said, I believe it would be best that we both see a therapist, but I guess that's not going to happen. So I'll continue to be this way because I have tried to force myself to watch sex scenes without getting angry or uncomfortable and it simply doesn't work.
Have a similar problem. My mum was having sex infront of me so many times with my stepfather this is traumatising me forever. Didn`t bother to hide with it and when was in her bedroom then was making lots of noise! Was always very agresive and nasty to me and my sister. Few times ripped of my towel after i had a bath to see me naked and was screaming that she used to have breast like me but i distroyed them by breastfeeding after I was born ofcourse!
My husband doesnt understan and says that i am over reacting cos his mother and father was never even kissing infront of him so he has no idea how its creepy!
Ofcourse i am very shy in bed embarassed to do so many things i am so frustrated. cant even watch sex scenes on tv even normal kissing makes me sick! i am not even watching tv anymore with my husband unless its eastenders or something safe!
My husband frustrates me as well as he loves to watch porn a lot I hope not anymore as I was fighting about this a lot. everytime i ll tell him how i feel about this and about my mother he is understanding but later on laughs and does what he feels like. tells me that i am childish and ubnormal. sorry for my english but this is not my first launguage.
dnt know what to do love my husband have 2 kids and dnt want to loose him. he is a very good husband and a father in other ways.
I am a 24 yo female and I have felt the urge to get upset and walk out like that. I admit it is a jealousy and fear based issue. I don't want my boyfriend getting turned on by girls I can never look like, and I don't want to lose him because he knows I won't ever be those girls. The other piece of my story is that I have been sexually abused in the past. I eventually had to sit down and talk to him about how uncomfortable it makes me when we watch movies, especially horror movies with violent sexual acts, and why. Since then, he will turn his head when there is nudity on the screen, and help choose movies that aren't so violent and graphic, as well as refrain from looking at porn.
Watching other people's sexuality can be a fun event for a couple, but it has to be something everyone agrees with.
Maybe I am a little over sensitive, so even though he does all these wonderful things to try and respect me, I do try to work on my emotional/psychological well being and try to work past the deep rooted issues I have in regards to nudity.
I also think part of it is that I wouldn't look at other men, so I would expect him not to look at other women. He is all the man I need and want, and I want to be the same for him as a partner.
Personally, I have been struggling with this exact same issue for as long as I can remember and have actually lost boyfriends to it... I am unsure what to do. I am a 24 year old female and the guy I am with right now is someone that I would really not want to lose to this and the only reason I might is because of how his last girlfriend was for several years about this same thing. I don't get as angry as some people, ususally I just kind of sit there and let it build up and say something at the end about how horrible the movie was because of that and I cry.. It literally hurts me in some ways and I can't even figure out what caused this to take place in the beginning.
Does anyone know of ANY way that this can at least be soothed so I can watch normal movies.. Somehow even just seeing a girl in her bikini top/bra irritates me beyond belief in a movie.. I don't mind implied sex scenes at all, as long as no boobs or anything are shown. But, I don't know what to do and I don't want to lose my boyfriend I have currently to this because he fears I might become what he dated before.. I just can't stand (as stated by other posters) my boyfriend to see some other girl's body.. He does not watch porn out of respect for me and because he doesn't really feel like it so that should prove a lot to me..
Please, if anyone knows of any way at all that I can begin to work at this let me know, I would GREATLY appreciate it.
hi what u have is anxiety its a build up of feelings tht overtakes the way u think n act regarding to the situation u fear the most ie these girls in movies etc etc i have the same thing i can be watching a film or programme even to the point of dancing on ice and i feel this knot in my stumach watching my partners head movements incase he looks at a particular person i feel unloved as il never be like tht so i start to feel angry and start speaking b4 i think saying things like why do u like this programme?? yeh i know why ,, which causes arguments afterwards i feel angry with myself as i wish id not said anything thinking how silly .. but at the time anxiety takes over me ... lately i sit thru things still with anxiety but then i think will he really remember her in 5 mins its a programe but its hard and i understand 100 percent x becky x