Personally, having been to many for both work and social purposes (in fact going to a new one tonight to review it), I dislike them immensely. Strip clubs, lap clubs, topless bars - all the same thing in my mind. Demeaning, not just to women, but to men too.
While I am a huge fan of women in various stages of undress, and applaud anyone who is comfortable with their body, strip clubs are like going to an all you can eat buffet and finding out that all the food is made of wax.
If I really want an attractive woman, worried about covering the bills this week while getting undressed in front of me, I'll just go home.
Still, if watching a woman peel off in the company of loud, rowdy and flop sweat covered strangers while paying through the nose for watered drinks is a guy's way of relaxing, who am I to judge?
As long as the punters respect and tip the waitress' well (they are the ones who get the serious harrassment), I am fine with it.
Brothels get a pass, though, they actually provide a service.
I know a lot of guys that LOVE strip clubs and I know a small handful that can do without them. It just depends on the male. Its just like with women, some love male strip clubs and others won't go near them. It doesn't mean something is wrong, its just a personal preference.
Also depends on the strip club they go to - I have heard guys raving about the high end ones.
Reminds me of the movie Hall Pass, where the guy takes those mental pics of a hot chick that he uses later to pleasure himself. Pretty McNasty…, but hey…, I’m not a guy either.
(ps: I think If a girl can give sex away for free, she should be able to make a buck at it too.)
I'm sure most men like seeing hot women taking their clothes off, but I doubt seeing that with lots of other men there with you in a potentially sleazy feeling establishment with girls just doing their job instead of necessarily doing it for enjoyment is for everyone.
I am a man and I approve of this message.
Oh, except the brothel part, for legal reasons I must say that brothels are no good. Haha. Strip Clubs are just not fun, some men like it of course, but I can't stand them.
I agree with the part about a woman worried about paying the billa this week gettting undressed you can get that at home lol my husband hasnt been and its his prefrence. I respect any woman with that courage if shes.happy. But its a waste of money especially if you've got a partner at home.
I really don't know any men who like strip clubs. I think they go for bachelor parties and get drunk but they really don't like the women flopping around in their face. I totally agree with this answer.
I got the "my friend is peer pressuring me to go" excuse from my ex. He still went and I was a little pissed about it, but he didn't get a lapdance so I guess it was okay...
Hi! I am the enemy a (striper!)
I will let you all in on a secret? We are just attractive woman like all of you! We just put more effort into it and you all can too! So instead of hating us the next time your man wants to go to a club tell him you have a surprise for him dress up put makeup on and do your hair just more dramatic ! then put on some music on, and suduce, and dance for your man! Yes its that easy. then befor you know it he wont want to go to the club anymore.I hope this dosen't hurt are business lol .
What's a striper?
A good reason to stay in school.
you're killin me lol
Okay, so the above person seemed a little on the...illiterate side. But I'm halfway through my career at a good university, where I consistently make good grades. I'm planning on becoming a stripper next year (the only reason I wasn't this past year was the lack of a car).
I know you weren't implying that all strippers are uneducated, MM, but just for good measure, I would like to take this opportunity to remind people that many strippers are actually doing it to pay their way through school, like myself. Not all of us are stripping as a career choice or because we flunked out of high school, as the stereotype would have people believe!
My 21 year old very straight son despises strip clubs and refuses to go to them. He feels that they are demeaning to women. Guys like this are in the minority, but they are out there, and I applaud them.
I am a straight woman but I get embarrassed rather than turned on when some guy I don't know is shaking his butt or manhood in my face. I think that strip clubs are really kind of dehumanizing. I know a lot of people enjoy them, though.
i know the women are gonna hate on me for this, but i'm a pick your battles kind of girl. with this, and porn, they're just battles i dont choose to pick. because you cant win 'em. the men that like it (which is most of them by the way, the ones that say they dont are afraid of you), they're gonna do it, it isn't personal to you so it's easier, way easier, to just be secure about it. noowwwww, this also means when i pull out all six seasons of sex and the city, thats a battle you dont get to choose either, buddy. you get to keep your porn, i get to keep mine.
No hate from me! I agree with you, Chrissie. Sure, it may have its awkward aspects, but at the end of the day, most guys who claim to not enjoy strip clubs at all are most likely trying to placate you.
Now, even though I'm planning on stripping next year, I gotta admit that even I have some reservations about strip clubs in general. My ex went to one with his fraternity over spring break year-before-last, (not while we were together, thankfully) and he was told by some girl that she would give him a blowjob for 100 bucks. He was wasted (and also a complete douche) so he actually said yes! =O Luckily, he didn't have enough money, and he was relieved that he didn't the next day (according to him, she "wasn't even hot"--like THAT was supposed to make me feel better, right? Oh, so you were going to pay a /busted/ chick 100 bucks to suck your d. Well THAT'S okay then. Idiot.)
Anywhoo, I think a lot of the stupidity that guys do comes from the pack mentality of being with their friends and feeling pressured to behave like a drunk idiot. My strategy is this: if I can get PAID to undress in front of guys, I'll pick that over having a bunch of random sex with guys for FREE (i.e. what most girls do in college). And if guys are going to get drunk and blow their money anyway, I might as well capitalize on it while I still can!
i always enjoy reading your comments, carly. I do believe one of the guys, (amit maybe?) did a blog post on this very thing recently. i modelled thru school for the same reasons, we live in a consumer driven society where sex sells, and in some cases there is a very fine line of difference. i didn't do any nude shoots but i will say being half british and born baptist my mother did not see all of my portfolio either lol your ex sounds like a piece of work, guys do such stupid things sometimes when there is alcohol and naked women involved *eyeroll*
Aw thanks, Chrissie, same to you! I'm glad to see that I'm not the only woman who's realized that the battle against porn and such things is a futile one haha. You seem like a realistic person, like me.
My ex isn't a bad guy, just an extremely immature and impulsive one. Still, his little tale gave me a different idea about what sometimes goes on in these clubs. It'll be interesting to see what all I encounter next year, from an insider perspective. But yeah, NO amount of money is worth putting my mouth on a stranger's bits and pieces, that's for sure =/
Agreeing with Chrissie. LOL "the ones that say they don't are afraid of you"
She's absolutely right.
As a straight guy, I do love seeing a woman undress and dance around a pole to repetitive music. But it really only works in an intimate setting and being in the presence of other men really kills the mood, especially when they're drunk, loud and competing for personal attention. So I love strippers but I hate strip bars. And for the record, any woman who is brave and comfortable enough with herself to undress in front of strangers instantly wins my respect.
Friends took me to a strip club when I turned 18; it sucked. I was expecting beautiful women slinking out of their clothes while convincing me I was the sexiest man alive. What I got was a bunch of stretch mark clad mercenaries with soul-dead eyes and poorly concealed contempt. I quickly savvied up and now I can easily get all the destitute schlub condescension I want for free. Although, I’ve still got to go out of my way for the entire arousal-shame-disgust combo.
It's been my experience that strip clubs are like any other preference, some like them and others don't. And it's been pretty much split down the middle. My boyfriend doesn't care for them, and neither did my last one. It's a personal preference. I've been to a few with friends and they are not all created equal, just like not all people are the same. As for my current boyfriend, his reason has nothing to do with anything more than he'd rather spend his money elsewhere. He's a geek and would rather drop the money on his gadgets, video games, and whatever his geeky little heart desires. He definitely appreciates an attractive woman, but doesn't have any desire to just give away his money. My ex also doesn't want to give strangers his money and doesn't feel the need to have to pay for attention. Different motivations for the same reason. Personally, I don't care if a guy wants to go. I just see it as entertainment like any other. That would be like telling me I can't go to concerts. It's nothing personal, at least not for me, and so I really don't see it as an issue.
Maybe it's because I'm proud but....
Personally, even as a straight, non-religious, very sexually active (deviant?) Male, in my mid twenties--I'm disgusted by the whole thing. If I needed to see a woman naked, I could have my lady strip, or seduce a girl in a singles joint. The fact of the matter is stripping IS sex.
I don't Pay for sex. Ever. I've never needed to, nor will ever have the desire to pay for sex.
Does that mean I will never enter a strip-club? I honestly couldn't say.
I enjoy Burlesque, simply because it's actually theater.
I like a naked woman just as much as the next bloke--I've seen... and had my fair share bare-ladies.
But strip clubs gross me out, they're simply Brothels with a different Menu.
The only way I would find my way into either, is if my closest friend INSISTED that we got for his Bachelor Party. Even then, I would protest... and try to find something better to do.
OR if I was so horribly disfigured that I needed to pay for sex to have it.
Now, that said... My Lady does go to the Male strip joints in Vegas, which I'm not thrilled about, but it's because her friends wanna go, (so she says... Meh, Whatever.) She also says she does enjoy the power of being able to tell the ugly-gay-boys to go away, and the hot ones to stay.
I guess it just comes down to being the center of focus... and having power.
It's not my place to judge, I guess... but I do.
I think strip-clubs, and their patrons are both Pathetic.
That's my two-cents.