Stop. Back away from Facebook. No good will come from comparing the relationship he had with his ex to yours. You know the biggest difference between that relationship and the one you now have? Theirs didn't work. Why are you comparing what you have to his failed relationship?
Clearly he's chosen to do things differently with you. Maybe all of their Facebook PDA ultimately damaged the relationship. Or maybe he has matured, and the idea of plastering his Facebook feed with kissy photos and cute-sy status messages seems childish. If you know that he loves you, that should be enough. He shouldn't have to show off that love to everyone he went to high school with just to make you feel secure.
Also, how are you seeing this photos? Are they on his ex's page? Does he still have them on his page? If there's a photo of him making out with his ex right next to one of the two of you bowling, that's not cool. But if you're going out of your way to find these photos, you need to stop.
As for him not being in a relationship on Facebook, there are two schools of thought on that one. On the one hand, if he's faithful, it shouldn't matter how he fills out a profile on a silly social networking site. On the other, if he loves you, what's the harm in showing that he's not single? Does his status say "single," or is it left blank? If it's blank, don't worry about it. If it's set to single, I don't see the harm in asking him why he hasn't changed it. But if he doesn't want to, let it go. If he's a good boyfriend in every other way, it shouldn't matter whether or not he wants to click a button on Facebook and put more money into Mark Zuckerberg's pocket.
I can understand how it's hard to see how he was with his ex and not get jealous. The only thing you can do is avoid any reminder of his ex, and remember that he loves you more. Facebook provides far too many opportunities for jealousy. Recent studies have shown that it is driving up the divorce rate. It's even rougher relationships, particularly in the early stages. When will Facebook stop having such power over us? Why can't we-- Sorry. My friend Tim just posted a hilarious Yogi Bear parody to his feed. Oh, Boo-Boo. How could you do that to poor Yogi?
Clearly he's chosen to do things differently with you. Maybe all of their Facebook PDA ultimately damaged the relationship. Or maybe he has matured, and the idea of plastering his Facebook feed with kissy photos and cute-sy status messages seems childish. If you know that he loves you, that should be enough. He shouldn't have to show off that love to everyone he went to high school with just to make you feel secure.
Also, how are you seeing this photos? Are they on his ex's page? Does he still have them on his page? If there's a photo of him making out with his ex right next to one of the two of you bowling, that's not cool. But if you're going out of your way to find these photos, you need to stop.
As for him not being in a relationship on Facebook, there are two schools of thought on that one. On the one hand, if he's faithful, it shouldn't matter how he fills out a profile on a silly social networking site. On the other, if he loves you, what's the harm in showing that he's not single? Does his status say "single," or is it left blank? If it's blank, don't worry about it. If it's set to single, I don't see the harm in asking him why he hasn't changed it. But if he doesn't want to, let it go. If he's a good boyfriend in every other way, it shouldn't matter whether or not he wants to click a button on Facebook and put more money into Mark Zuckerberg's pocket.
I can understand how it's hard to see how he was with his ex and not get jealous. The only thing you can do is avoid any reminder of his ex, and remember that he loves you more. Facebook provides far too many opportunities for jealousy. Recent studies have shown that it is driving up the divorce rate. It's even rougher relationships, particularly in the early stages. When will Facebook stop having such power over us? Why can't we-- Sorry. My friend Tim just posted a hilarious Yogi Bear parody to his feed. Oh, Boo-Boo. How could you do that to poor Yogi?
don't let facebook define your relationship. facebook is not your life, your life is your life. let it go.
Thank you. The internet is not real life, people. Real life happens in the real world.
The Female's view on FB status..I see her point, I totally get it. Yea, it's weird and it sucks when your guy has his ex's crap still on his FB page. I would reccomend that anyone after a break-up do some housecleaning, which includes the FB page. normal people that are over their ex don't keep pictures of their ex around their house, so the same should apply to FB. Now if this stuff is embedded in old wall posts, then I'd let it go. If photos are included in clearly marked albums of her, well, I think that's inconsiderate and should be cleared out. Not only bc you don't want to see it, but it can generate some FB confusion. I was with a guy that updated his FB to say simply in a "relationship." Well, he still had some stuff on his FB from his ex and some of his friends that were a little out of the loop assumed he got back his ex and posted their thoughts about that on his page. Yikes! FB can be a great way to connect, but it's an opening for confusion and noseiness too. I think most people are still figuring out the rules.
As to how the asker saw the photos, he was most likely still tagged in them (since who's going to go through 200+ photos and untag themselves in each and every one) and she was just looking at the photos he was tagged in. Frankly, I get uncomfortable looking at ANY Facebook PDA, let alone pictures involving my current boyfriend and his ex. Good advice though, Nick.
I feel like most people who flaunt their relationships on Facebook have something to prove.
At the same time, I can't help but be a little suspicious of this guy. I'm biased, though. I was in the exact same situation once. The guy cheated on me with said ex and later got back together with her. He wasn't plastering me all over his Facebook because, well...you get it.
I'm sorry, but if he objects to, at the very least, listing himself as "in a relationship" with you when he's done it for exes, that's incredibly sketchy.
"I feel like most people who flaunt their relationships on Facebook have something to prove."
Ding ding ding! We have a winner. They're the same kind of people who go on and on about how happy they are whenever you run into them at the supermarket.
My boyfriend and I have not posted relationship statuses at all on facebook, and except for two times when we posted on one anothers' walls, we rarely communicate on it! Fortunately, he does not have mushy ex photos on facebook... but he does have tagged pictures of him with girls, generally one-night stands (as I can tell from the comments...). Not his pictures, and he probably doesn't even realise they're up there, since they're quite far back in his tagged photos. But it bugs me.
Facebook is evil.
It's a constant source of anxiety for me, because although I know my boyfriend is very much in love with me, seeing those things suuuucks. Can't ask him to take them down, cause I'd feel creepy.
And having anxiety for a very long-distance relationship is not fun!