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My boyfriend and I are both 20. He went to s strip club and paid $300 for a hand job. His friends told me but he continues to deny and lie about it. We have a 3 year old and can barely make the bills. How do I get him to tell me the truth and do have the right to be mad or worried about anything?

Before I give you my thoughts on the matter, I have to ask you about your boyfriend's friends. Are they trustworthy? And do you believe them when they told you about the strip club hand job? For sake of what my advice is going to be, I'm going to assume they're being truthful. But, if after you think through the matter, you decide they're lying, then forget about what I'm going to say.

Alright? Alright.

Your boyfriend went to a strip club and got a hand job. That means that he cheated on you. He cheated on you while surrounded by his friends, knowing that he has a girlfriend and a three year old at home. Not only did he cheat on you, he spent $300 (which is money he knows you both can't afford) for the right to cheat on you. And then he lied about it to you repeatedly.

If I were you, I would demand he tell you the truth, and then I would think long and hard about leaving him. He owes you answers, and you owe yourself self-respect. Being a single mom is hard, but I don't know if it could possibly be harder than spending the next fifty years with a man that thinks he can treat his family so horribly.

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$300 for a hand job? remind me ...why did I go to college?

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Probably for the self-respect.

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Gah I know! Even the brothels in Reno only charge around $50 for an HJ...so I've heard.

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This is about more than the $300...this is about betrayal. This would be something that I could never forgive. The poor girl is afraid of the truth. I feel for her. She's going to be devastated.

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BUGGER THAT! im sorry but despite, that's not acceptable. It has been widely debated about males going to strip clubs and if it is borderline cheating. Paying for a hand job. ERRRR! get out of their girl!

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why did he have to pay for a handjob in the first place?

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You are off to a bad start. It must be hard to be pre med with a three year old. What, no college? Then look forward to a lifetime of this type of behavior. How did he get into a strip club when under 21? What makes you think that a 20 yr old with a kid is smart? He is still a kid. Let him get a hand job, let him live. Just because you pop out babies, the world doesn't stop, or care. What about marriage? Why is he a boyfriend? It is because he is not committed to you. Move on. Find a man who loves you enough to marry you and be committed. You have a "boy" that likes his "friends" more than being tied down to a dumb 20 yr old that puts out for free. Are you parents dead? If not, go live with them. Save your money and get an education. Start with sex ed so you don't have more babies.

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You are off to a bad start. It must be hard to be pre med with a three year old. What, no college? Then look forward to a lifetime of this type of behavior. How did he get into a strip club when under 21? What makes you think that a 20 yr old with a kid is smart? He is still a kid. Let him get a hand job, let him live. Just because you pop out babies, the world doesn't stop, or care. What about marriage? Why is he a boyfriend? It is because he is not committed to you. Move on. Find a man who loves you enough to marry you and be committed. You have a "boy" that likes his "friends" more than being tied down to a dumb 20 yr old that puts out for free. Are you parents dead? If not, go live with them. Save your money and get an education. Start with sex ed so you don't have more babies.

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