I'm going to take a wild guess here and assume he's either a gentlemen or religious.
Really, best thing to do? Ask him. That's the best way to resolve this.
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 months but he won't have sex with me and Everytime we are together he has a hard...why???
Dan Seitz answered this question on February 1, 2012 12:30 PM
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I dated a guy about 2 years ago who was similar. He told me (at our 3 month "where are we going" talk) that sex meant a relationship commitment at the "next level"...(above dinner dates, I assume) and he didn't want to go past that line because he just wasn't ready for a full on relationship.
I would sleep over, we would kiss and cuddle but that's it...had oral a few times and YES, he got hard all the time with me. Weird.
I let it ride for 4 more months, a total of 7, and he started getting squirrly when I asked about meeting his friends, etc.
I even asked him if he thinks he could be gay (in a nice way). Nope. He said that he is just different that way.
We talked every night...and texted daily...he didn't have a porn addiction, wasn't seeing anyone else, had guy friends to do guy stuff all the time....and he was just avoiding commitment and intimacy.
I finally gave up trying to wear him down...haha....and I moved on.
Just sharing that it was a weird sitch, and if I had to do it again, or advise others, I'd say, even if he is a great guy, sexual compatibility is uber important in the long run.
Better to evaluate sooner than later.
Good luck.
check. check. and check. been there. didn't do that. didn't even get a lousy tshirt. lol i did get a really nice CD though. not exactly the same thing as a committment, but you know, starts with the same letter lol i was actually honored at first. awww he wants to wait for me.....like, a lot. lol yep, RP you forgot option C, the one in between being a gentleman and being religious. C. committment phobe. a very gentlemanly one lol
Asker, on the off chance that you are living in southern california, and your boyfriend's initials are CP and he loves surfing, let me know.
bahahaha i could say the same damn thing, different state, different initials, and it would be golf and horseback riding lolol
I'm just curious... Has he agreed that you guys are bf/gf? Or are you just labeling it because you feel that it may as well be a relationship except for the sex?
I'm just curious... Has he agreed that you guys are bf/gf? Or are you just labeling it because you feel that it may as well be a relationship except for the sex?