Not necessarily. He definitely dropped the ball here (six months warrants at least a card), but he might not have realized that you guys would be exchanging gifts and is now scrambling to get you something. Give him until after New Year's. He might be looking for the right gift. Or he may take you out to dinner, or do something else nice for you-- a gift isn't as important at this point as a gesture that shows he cares.
The gift isn't really the issue, however. What we're dealing with is expectation versus reality. You've reached the point where you're expectations aren't matching up to the reality of the relationship. You would like to be with someone who, after six months, will give you at least a small gift or a card to show that he cares and is thinking of you at the holidays. After six months, that's not unreasonable. Will he match your expectations moving forward? Does he consider you a long-term prospect, or are things winding down for him? Is he thinking about your future together? Pay attention to how he handles other occasions (birthdays, Valentine's) moving forward.
Give him a chance to make up for it. This doesn't necessarily mean that he's over the relationship. If he was going to break up with you, he would probably have done it before the holidays to avoid the whole present thing in general. My guess is he didn't know that you would be exchanging gifts this year. I'm a big gift giver, but maybe this guy isn't. Allow him time to reciprocate. If he doesn't, it's fair to talk about it just to clear the air. Chances are, he feels a little awkward and is going to do something to make it up to you.
The gift isn't really the issue, however. What we're dealing with is expectation versus reality. You've reached the point where you're expectations aren't matching up to the reality of the relationship. You would like to be with someone who, after six months, will give you at least a small gift or a card to show that he cares and is thinking of you at the holidays. After six months, that's not unreasonable. Will he match your expectations moving forward? Does he consider you a long-term prospect, or are things winding down for him? Is he thinking about your future together? Pay attention to how he handles other occasions (birthdays, Valentine's) moving forward.
Give him a chance to make up for it. This doesn't necessarily mean that he's over the relationship. If he was going to break up with you, he would probably have done it before the holidays to avoid the whole present thing in general. My guess is he didn't know that you would be exchanging gifts this year. I'm a big gift giver, but maybe this guy isn't. Allow him time to reciprocate. If he doesn't, it's fair to talk about it just to clear the air. Chances are, he feels a little awkward and is going to do something to make it up to you.
Six months...and no gift? Whoaa.....
I know, right? My current boyfriend and I exchanged gifts and we had only been going out for a little over a month at the time but I guess every relationship is different?
I go six months without giving family members gifts. Why should someone I've not known my entire life get it just because she has some weird expectation?
A gift is something given freely w/o any expectations or strings. If and when it happens, it happens. If you want to discuss reciprocity, then we're no longer talking about gifts are we?
It seems to me that if you find yourself being thoughtful, buying gifts, writing poems, trusting your partner and letting yourself love him fully it is important to tell him how you feel honestly about holiday gifts or cards. He has the right to his own opinion about giving gifts/affection/attention/love but pay close attention to his actions. If you tell him your feelings and he seems combative or defensive in reaction to your being open and sharing your feelings it may be an opportune moment to weed out a partner who is either inadequate, incompatible, or that you have stronger feelings for than they for you. It is a rude awakening-but giving gifts to your partner that are unreciprocated can be a red flag for unrequited love. If your love is reciprocated your partner will reach for you, buy gifts unexpectedly, touch you and express physical intimacy even during quarrels, he will be more than just a boyfriend-a friend that is there for you in your darkest hour, you can trust his word-he does not “fake” things for some sort of imagined social benefit, you would be surprised at some of the things my boyfriends have told me that I have believed to my utter detriment! With your true love you can have the worst holiday in the world and count on him to show you the New Year’s eve of your life his best gifts are honesty and openness and embracing the feelings that you share with him as part of who you are-even if he does not agree with them. At times the one that you love and open up to the most- simply does not love you
It seems to me that if you find yourself being thoughtful, buying gifts, writing poems, trusting your partner and letting yourself love him fully it is important to tell him how you feel honestly about holiday gifts or cards. He has the right to his own opinion about giving gifts/affection/attention/love but pay close attention to his actions. If you tell him your feelings and he seems combative or defensive in reaction to your being open and sharing your feelings it may be an opportune moment to weed out a partner who is either inadequate, incompatible, or that you have stronger feelings for than they for you. It is a rude awakening-but giving gifts to your partner that are unreciprocated can be a red flag for unrequited love. If your love is reciprocated your partner will reach for you, buy gifts unexpectedly, touch you and express physical intimacy even during quarrels, he will be more than just a boyfriend-a friend that is there for you in your darkest hour, you can trust his word-he does not “fake” things for some sort of imagined social benefit, you would be surprised at some of the things my boyfriends have told me that I have believed to my utter detriment! With your true love you can have the worst holiday in the world and count on him to show you the New Year’s eve of your life his best gifts are honesty and openness and embracing the feelings that you share with him as part of who you are-even if he does not agree with them. At times the one that you love and open up to the most- simply does not love you.
It seems to me that if you find yourself being thoughtful, buying gifts, writing poems, trusting your partner and letting yourself love him fully it is important to tell him how you feel honestly about holiday gifts or cards. He has the right to his own opinion about giving gifts/affection/attention/love but pay close attention to his actions. If you tell him your feelings and he seems combative or defensive in reaction to your being open and sharing your feelings it may be an opportune moment to weed out a partner who is either inadequate, incompatible, or that you have stronger feelings for than they for you. It is a rude awakening-but giving gifts to your partner that are unreciprocated can be a red flag for unrequited love. If your love is reciprocated your partner will reach for you, buy gifts unexpectedly, touch you and express physical intimacy even during quarrels, he will be more than just a boyfriend-a friend that is there for you in your darkest hour, you can trust his word-he does not “fake” things for some sort of imagined social benefit, your would be surprised at some of the things my boyfriends have told me that I have believed to my utter detriment! With your true love you can have the worst holiday in the world and count on him to show you the New Year’s eve of your life his best gifts are honesty and openness and embracing the feelings that you share with him as part of who you are-even if he does not agree with them. At times the one that you love and open up to the most simply does not love you.