Wow. That is a good question.
If I were you, I'd be concerned as well. I mean, even when me and my girl get into arguments, I can still get it up. Unintentionally most times too. Little Armstrong Jackson just has a mind of his own.
But this isn't about me.
Thankyajeefus.
Perhaps he's having some sort of stresses at work or in life. I've read where that can have an effect on a man's libido. Perhaps he's learned of some new insecurity that has rendered him a hostage to his mind and it's put sex on the backburner of his thoughts completely.
I know its frustrating for you but I'm sure its MORE frustrating for him. Heck, it isn't like he's saying he's too tired, you all are actually TRYING and ole boy's gone limber. Hell, he's probably scared to death that he can't get himself going. Have you tried pr0n? I hate to say that but perhaps something is just not connecting.
The fact that he's trying to still make whoopy with you means that he's still interested in you so I'd be more worried about him than yourself. Your man is going through something that no man ever wants to go through. You should just try to help him not feel bad about it. If you still believe he loves you and all and that he wants to schlump you then just help him get through this tough time.
Because you better believe, that if you all figure it out...
...ONCE AGAIN IT'S ON!
It was written.
If it doesn't pass in a day or two, see a Doctor there are many physical problems that can also cause erection problems. Some quite simple to fix such as maybe he's reacting to a new medication or discovered an allergy he didn't have before.
If it doesn't pass in a day or two, see a Doctor there are many physical problems that can also cause erection problems. Some quite simple to fix such as maybe he's reacting to a new medication or discovered an allergy he didn't have before.
And once you get weirded out about it, it gets to be a vicious cycle.
I read once that if you play the 'everything but' game for a couple of weeks and just make out (heavy petting or whatever the kids call it these days) it takes the focus away from The Issue. Then when you do get to have at it again, you're both ready to combust and theoretically, at least, that is that.
Plus, the more he freaks (and you) freak out about it, the worse it'll get. It's like a self fulfilling prophecy. He's stressed and worried that he won't be able to get it up, and therefore, he cannot get it up. You have to coax him into thinking about anything but what he's probably thinking, which is "why can't I get my effing dick up?!?!" that's stress enough, in of itself. It's probably something like Panama J said...work or school life, family life, a new insecurity something like that has affected him (whether he knows of it consciously or not) and thus, just one time of not being able to perform has got him stuck in a rut. Just try not to make a big deal of it....move on to another body part, like let him do stuff to you. Or, just try going without that until maybe a week or so, and hopefully that will be enough time for him to relax and not feel pressured to perform. I'm pretty sure it has nothing to do with you, or what you're not doing to him. My bf used to get this sometimes, and he'd get sooo mad, he'd start yelling or cussing at his thang, or punch a pillow...so I'd just calm him down and try to make him feel less pressured.
My ex had that problem and it turned out to be thyroid problems. The thyroid is a sneaky little bitch - causes all sorts of random things to go wrong. And yes, the stress of erectile dysfunction is self-perpetuating.
Even if the doctor doesn't know what's wrong, the mere fact that he goes to the doctor and tells him/her about this problem will probably result in a free sample of little blue pills, which should do the trick and hopefully break the cycle...