It's not okay. Why would you ask that? It's not like porn. You know that.
Right now, your boyfriend is thinking, "I can't believe she fell for that." What he doesn't know is that you don't really believe him. Because you don't. He's cranking it to photos of his friends, people you probably know and who know you. Those women who are sending him pics of their ta-tas know damn well what they're doing, too. Sabotaging your relationship.
You know it's not "nothing." And it's definitely not "porn." You can't normally call up the women you see in actual porn and say "Sup. Whutchoo doin'?"
He has gone to his friends, and told them this story, and they've all gone "DUDE! Is she stupid or cool?" The answer is you are neither. You are just terribly insecure. Now, take a moment. Go walk over to a mirror. Look in the mirror. You're beautiful. Strong. I bet your eyes have a wicked twinkle. Say out loud, to yourself, "I'm special. I'm the Mayor of Sexytown. The sun likes to catch some me-rays." Go. Go do it. I'll be here, eating some Steak-ums.
Back? Great! Your boyfriend is a dick, and you need to do some evolving, from a sea slug to a land animal with a spine. I don't know which is worse, you allowing him to flaunt his prelude to cheating, or the fact that he actually does have the balls to just go out, bang someone else, and put a bullet in the head of your relationship.
I think you should leave this dude with his boob pics. Let him sell his B.S. to another woman. Ideally, both of you should spend some time single. He's not ready to commit. And you're not ready to stand up for yourself.
PS. This is to your boyfriend: seriously? Telling her you're drooling over hot pix from lady pals does not absolve you of being a douchebag. I know what you're thinking. "At least I'm being honest!" That's crap.
And then there's your lame "defense," that's designed to make her question herself. Whatever. Act like a man, and dump her, or cheat on her. The latter is awful, but at least it will help her hate you. Which she needs to do, because you're gross and you deserve it. Sack up, you can take it.
WTF! the guy's a douche! (not john obviously).
He's stupid, she's obviously stupid and so are all of his female friends. "Is this okay?" She needs to get permission from someone else when she obviously feels that it isn't or else she wouldn't ask. She needs some self-esteem and confidence in trusting her own guts so she can dump that jackass of a boyfriend.
What woman would be friends with him after that request? Geezus.
Great advice, Reformed Player. Hopefully she'll listen but I don't have much faith in her abilties.
What about his female friends? Do you know them? I'd ask them whats up with them trying to mess with your relationship.
Although they obviously shouldn't be sending the pictures, I think it's hard to put a ton of blame on them. The guy has probably told them that it's cool, or that he's not officially with the girl, etc -- if he's been able to almost convince the asker that this is okay, he probably convinced the female friends too. I say leave them out of it -- this is really about the guy being absolute scum, not his friends trying to sabotage a relationship. The relationship, after all, has already been sabotaged enough. Maybe after the girl breaks up with this doucherocket she can tell the friends that she knew what was up, but I say leave 'em out of it until then.
I love that you told her to go look in the mirror and compliment herself....oh and her boyfriend sounds like a total dick.
John, by far my favorite answer from any of the guys! Couldn't have answered better myself!
John, this is not only a great answer, but really funny too!
Obviously this guy has a problem.
Make sure you tell him he HAS A PROBLEM!
Mayor of Sexytown... fantastic.
i got myself a lil' crush on the reformed player. haha
omg i think you're dating an ex boyfriend of mine!
he left an im convo up asking an old hookup for pics. i confronted him, and dumped him.. took him back.. and a year later he cheated on me, treated me like crap, and moved in w/ the girl he was cheating w/ just two weeks later.
do yourself a favor. end it now, and don't look back.
I LOVE the answer! LOL! It's awesome!
"You know it's not "nothing." And it's definitely not "porn." You can't normally call up the women you see in actual porn and say "Sup. Whutchoo doin'?" "
LMAO! Priceless...
Awesome answer, and right on point. Do I think I could honestly ask friends to email me shots of their breasts, and not a) feel like scum; b) not be questioned by my friends; and c) NOT GET CALLED ON IT BY MY WIFE.
Having two daughters, it pisses me off to see how some guys take every advantage of a chink in a girl's self-esteem.
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bwahahahah!!! this is not just the guy at fault for being a dick..
you are a FUCKING IDIOT!! why would you EVER EVER EVER think this is okay? THE FUCK?
this girl is fucking stupid.. and her bf is a duesheeee