Pick up your phone. Type this as a text message: U SUK. GO AWAY 4 EVR. Then never speak to him again. Seriously, that is not okay. He shouldn't be breaking anything when he's mad, let alone your stuff. That means he gets angry enough to do some serious damage. And that damage is being inflicted on your personal property.
Really. Why are you allowing this to happen? It's classic abusive behavior. He is lashing out at you by destroying your stuff. It's controlling. He's saying, "If she won't do what I say, I'll break her possessions." It puts the constant threat of violence over your relationship. If he would do that to my belongings, would he do that to me? Even if he just takes his anger out on inanimate objects, it's still not okay. If he replaces your stuff after going on a Hulk-like rampage, it's still not okay. Imagine if you did sort of thing to him. He'd label you a psycho and bail. Why aren't you doing the same?
Why do you want to be with a guy who does that sort of thing? This guy has serious issues. Get out now. Send that text message. He doesn't deserve a face-to-face break-up. And then send him a bill for the damages.
Really. Why are you allowing this to happen? It's classic abusive behavior. He is lashing out at you by destroying your stuff. It's controlling. He's saying, "If she won't do what I say, I'll break her possessions." It puts the constant threat of violence over your relationship. If he would do that to my belongings, would he do that to me? Even if he just takes his anger out on inanimate objects, it's still not okay. If he replaces your stuff after going on a Hulk-like rampage, it's still not okay. Imagine if you did sort of thing to him. He'd label you a psycho and bail. Why aren't you doing the same?
Why do you want to be with a guy who does that sort of thing? This guy has serious issues. Get out now. Send that text message. He doesn't deserve a face-to-face break-up. And then send him a bill for the damages.
What, are you serious? If this rampaging beast can't even respect your possessions, imagine what he might do to you on a really bad day. Do you like having your stuff broken every time he gets mad about something, y/n? Do you think someone who loses their shit that easily is worth continuing to pursuit a relationship? Hell, do you even feel SAFE around this guy?
Send that text! Seriously, he might go nuts if you tell him you're leaving him in person. Better to be safe than sorry!
He breaks your $h!T & when that doesn't do it for him anymore..., he will break you. Literately. Leave him now, nuff said!
Wow..he is in serious need of some anger management...I knew someone like this..he wasnt an add all the time, so it was easy to want to look past it. When youre both in normal moods, talk to him about his issue and the fact he needs help. If he can not recognize his own issues or accept responsibility and truly want to get help..then its time to roll
Don't send a bitchy text message. Talk to him, tell him that what he's doing is not okay, get him to pay for the damages or replace what he's broken. Then send the bitchy text message.
Good advice - a text message is a lot safer than a face-to-face breakup. Guys like that tend to snap - and an abuser is never more dangerous than when you're trying to get away. If you decide to tell him goodbye in person, take backup. If he gets violent again, in any way, shape, or form, or threatens violence of any kind, call the cops. Immediately.
if you don't or havent sent the text, can almost guarantee there will be cops in your future in one way shape or form if you stay with him. abusers work by pushing the envelope just a smidge at a time to see what they can get away with. once they start getting away with one "little" thing, they move on to bigger steps of abuse and manipulation until they believe they have complete control over you. he is teaching you that he is one angry man and that he thinks you don't deserve better than what he is offering. teach him that you feel differently. you know what he is doing is wrong or you wouldn't have asked the question. your instinct is always going to be right in situations like this. great call, Nick, do NOT do this in person. good luck!
Get new locks and drop him like a hot potato. He obviously isn't good enough at communicating to listen to you if you were to ask nicely. He may be tempted to try to get your money back, but imagine how mad and dangerous that will make him. But your body is more important than your things. The text doesn't have to be bitchy, but it'll be safer for you!
My ex-husband used to break my stuff. Then he got tired of breaking my stuff and started breaking me. I went to family court, got a restraining order, filed for divorce and he was later deported (due to an unrelated issue) to his native Spain. Then I spent hundreds on therapy. Leave. Now. They never stop with your *things*, that's just where they start.
RUN!
Run away as fast as you can. This is a horrible display of control and anger issues! This can easily escalate from your stuff to YOU! Sadly, I was in a relationship like this for too many years until I GOT A CLUE!
You deserve better. Uhm, maybe a break up by email or text, I would be too scared to do it in person unless I had a bodyguard with me.
I was going out with a guy for 5 years -He broke all my stuff and one day he took a knife out on me. and i called the police.. I left him and I should of left the first 6 months when he broke my chair and table. he use to hit him self on the head and punch him self alot. OMG. Now i heard he is getting married . Oh well I hope she had metal stuff. ..
I just break my own, particularly things he buys me. You might ask why. I'm wrong, and I know it; there is no worst feeling than him buying you expensive stuff by expensive I mean 200.00 and up stuff. When he messes up, to then have that thrown in my face. Then he rages and fights me for not having money, Or low on funds cause of my watch, or purse,or shoes, or phone, or perfumes, earings ect... I don't ask for any of those things. I've never even thrown hints! If anything, i tell him pay the bills first then we can talk about it. But nooo he'll go behind my back and get them. I'm sick of it. Ive told him to stop. A purse, shoes, watch won't make me forget his cruel words or ways. I don't want perfumes, charms, necklases, I want him accept my heart, my kids, to grow with me, and stop throwing money at issues. The money runs out. And when it does we should enjoy each other. But instead me and the children sit at home and listen to him rant about money spent. Pout, stomp around, and huff and groan, and grunt and the good ole blame game. Had you just kept your mouth shut, I would've never said those things.
I just break my own, particularly things he buys me. You might ask why. I'm wrong, and I know it; there is no worst feeling than him buying you expensive stuff by expensive I mean 200.00 and up stuff. When he messes up, to then have that thrown in my face. Then he rages and fights me for not having money, Or low on funds cause of my watch, or purse,or shoes, or phone, or perfumes, earings ect... I don't ask for any of those things. I've never even thrown hints! If anything, i tell him pay the bills first then we can talk about it. But nooo he'll go behind my back and get them. I'm sick of it. Ive told him to stop. A purse, shoes, watch won't make me forget his cruel words or ways. I don't want perfumes, charms, necklases, I want him accept my heart, my kids, to grow with me, and stop throwing money at issues. The money runs out. And when it does we should enjoy each other. But instead me and the children sit at home and listen to him rant about money spent. Pout, stomp around, and huff and groan, and grunt and the good ole blame game. Had you just kept your mouth shut, I would've never said those things.
If the guy was always like that, your relationship would never have gone this far. May be there were a series of events that changed his behavior and attitude. Its probably a good idea to sit down with that guy and talk to him like a friend rather than like a business deal. The love that makes him do stuff is much more than the hatred with which he says and does stuff. That hatred can go away if you both think it is important and value the relationship more than your personal egos. If you cannot think beyond what you are seeing.... just give it one more thought. If you guys are meant to be with each other, nothing in this world can ever separate you'll.
II do these things and recognize its wrong. I've tried to control it myself and I haven't been completely successful, so now my gf and myself along with our son are finding family counseling. Our son is going because he has been around a few of the arguments and wet aren't sure if it has had any egret on him. Its very hard to control and wasnt always this way. Its not all a control thing a I have done this when my feelings have been hurt. Good luck, if he isn't willing to get help and change be done with it. Everyone can change if they want.
II do these things and recognize its wrong. I've tried to control it myself and I haven't been completely successful, so now my gf and myself along with our son are finding family counseling. Our son is going because he has been around a few of the arguments and wet aren't sure if it has had any egret on him. Its very hard to control and wasnt always this way. Its not all a control thing a I have done this when my feelings have been hurt. Good luck, if he isn't willing to get help and change be done with it. Everyone can change if they want.