Why are you wasting both my time and your own when you know what you should be doing? Lass, that is not a man you got there. That is a sewer overflow that has learned how to walk, pop it's collar and probably apply spray tan.
Go down to Home Depot. Buy the heaviest pair of steel toed boots you can find and a tape measure. Grab a 4 foot chunk of rebar and a couple of toolbelts while you are there. Put on the boots, strap the rebar to your spine using the toolbelts, then see just how far you can kick this douchenozzle.
Report your distance, for us to judge and laugh at him.
Seriously - no one should have to put up with that purile, immature, misogynistic sh*t, ever. Don't be a damned victim. You don't need it, don't want it and certainly don't deserve it.
He's not going to change. When he says these things and then tries to defuse your anger by saying that he was joking, it's indicative that he doesn't actually see a problem with calling you these names - he only "apologizes" because he doesn't want you to be angry.
This boy will not change as long as you stay with him. He doesn't think that he is in the wrong for calling you such awful things. Dump him! You deserve someone who speaks to you with respect.
Oh dear.
Been there, done that, get out!!!
It's not so much that you can't take a joke, that you're too sensitive, or that you have no sense of humour, but it more that he has the nerve to deliberately trample on your feelings.
I would point out his lack of respect for you, but he's already done that by calling you such degrading names.
On top of that, he tries to turn it on you by saying he's only joking, he's not.
So true ive been In a prob like tht b4 tell him "why thank you its so nice of you to think my life is that interesting!" that will back him off!;)
Is he still in 2nd grade?
"Lass?" What are you, a leprechaun?
Actually in Ireland we don't use lass. I have heard lassie in Scotland but mostly I believe it is a N.England (Geordie?) thing.
yes, do everything MM says, and take pictures as well please. your only alternative is to marry the guy and then keep the insults to yourself because by then you will be too mortified to tell anybody that your own husband calls you a whore and a dyke. not that you will have anybody to tell because he will do everything he can to cut every social support string you have and keep you isolated and all to himself *just in case* you get "weak" and decide to share your experiences with others. yes, pictures would be nice. the tags say it all. i have GOT to stop coming here before my first coffee is empty. *sigh*
Chrissie..., I usually grab the coffee & start reading. My life doesn’t seem so bad after a couple of these. :o)
(Love, love, love that reply Mist. I may steel it & send it to a friend’s whose husband talks to her with such viciousness)
Go for it!
lol "My life doesn’t seem so bad after a couple of these" so true. who was it that said misery loves company but only if the company is more miserable lol in all seriousness its not a terrible thing that shes asking the question, at least she is asking. the more she hears this is not ok the easier it will be to see the light. your friend is lucky to have you, never stop telling her, good luck with that.
maybe he's just joking. i always call my bf things like that and we always have a laugh about it. it's fun and sexy. but i guess you have to really be in love for that shit.
Its more of a respect thing Ree.
If you and your guy are comfortable with that kind of language, that's fine. But the woman asking this question isn't. So as MM, and everyone else said, move on and find a real man.
That's not fun and sexy in my opinion. It's borderline verbal abuse. I am really in love with my boyfriend and I would never consider it fun and sexy if he called me a slut, bitch whore or any other word like that. I have no idea what your relationship is like, so I'm not judging you. I'm simply saying that in most relationships that is not considered fun and sexy.
"Almost" nothing... it IS verbal abuse.
"Just joking" -- the stock lame excuse for assholes too chicken to admit they are assholes. Even if he were kidding (he's not), you've asked him to stop and he won't. Eject.
amen. every city should have a billboard with that.
Just because she doesn't want to be called "slut" by her boyfriend doesn't mean she doesn't love him. The problem, as JLove pointed out, is that what works for some people doesn't work for others. It's cool that you have something that works, but clearly there's a problem if he doesn't stop even when she tells him it hurts her. That is disrespectful and most definitely not funny. I don't think he's joking either. Or not entirely.
I lovingly call my boyfriend slutbitch but it is rooted in a joke between us that we both find amusing. I would never just randomly call him unpleasant names. Like Cary said, eject.
Do NOT stay with such a jerk. He's disrespecting you, doesn't care that much about it (and you), as he doesn't stop.
And what would be his reaction if you began to call him in such ways ? I'm not sure he'd appreciate..
(and I agree with MM, punch him fast, harm and at the right place. May it be his head or (and?) his family jewels. Stomach works pretty well too).
What an ass. Kick him to the curb. Thats no way to treat your GF if she doesn't want to be called those names. It's a REAL turn off for a guy to call a girl any of those names. One of my guy friends that liked me called me a bitch right AFTER I told him that I think it was a turn off for someone to call me bitch or anything like that for that matter and what does his dumb dense ass go and do? He went a called me a bitch I got pissed and punched him hard and stormed off, the next day he said he was sorry and that he was only joking and said that he really liked me and wanted me to be his gf so I said hell to the no you ass. I never gave him a second chance and I'm going to keep it that way. Just talking about this gets me so annoyed at him, he doesn't say that to me anymore since that one time but still.
Maybe stop being a slut then.
Maybe stop being a slut.
Megan, that was uncalled for. Do not do that again.
Speak up! people will not believe you otherwise. People get caught up having what they think is funny but to you it is infuriating. If a punch gets the message thru then that is communication in the language they understand. But be prepared to complain the first time and then walk away see if that computes in their organic cpu!
Name calling is NEVER appropriate! There are other ways to joke around. Develop those, and leave the nastiness out of your relationship.
Even teasing like that erodes romantic feelings. My last statement is regarding a new finding among romantic relationship therapists. Need I say more? It's difficult enough to keep romantic love alive. No need to kill nice fuzzy feelings with name calling of any kind!
i call my gf a ho, whore (sometimes), bitch(rarely). But its joking time. She knows this, i also call he Mi amor, my girl,my princes the time. She calls me random stuff to. But we are both joking, how we are. Probably the best relationship ive ever been in. I t shes told me all her secrets and diesires! Im talking about all of some of them are pretty... intreasting lol. She can tell me anythi wont judge her. Sex is amazing!!! Dirty names, hair pulling, scra biteing, she just like me to straight up use her. lol, not really my I love her. Shes 24 (third guy shes been with) Im 25 (4th girl ive I was with her before i started making six figs, so its not about Sigh.... I miss my cuddle slut. lol You personal could be passing best relationship ever. But it already sounds over. No commun
I'm really sorry for you because I am experiencing the same thing right now only it's bitch alone not the other words, doesn't matter. I get hurt every time and I really don't think he cares that it hurt's me when he calls me this.Thing is he knows what kind of women I am so for him to even do this is nothing but total disrespect, lack of care and maturity. I see for both of us that we have not a man but a little boy who has yet to become a man, that's if it's possible and who has yet to learn the definition between what is a woman and what is a bitch. I don't know anything to tell you really but to like myself be done with him.
I know its been a couple months since these comments, but just to let you know I have been dealing with this over four years. At first, it was a joke and I didn't like it told him he laughed. Second, it was during an argument while i was pregnant. I cried, he was sorry. Then it continued. This became a habit of which I became used to.. such in a way that anytime he would call me a bitch or whore or slut I would say yea so what?" So I began to believe him! The issue here is its wrong! Its verbal abuse and you start off strong with trying to stop it and end up like me.. oh yea I am a bi*ch so whatever that's not a bad thing.. but now I am going through domestic violence, and Ive realized this bi*ch thing is terrible (that's how I bumped into here).. He has ate in to my mind enough to put me as vulnerable as today and has even put his hands on me for the first time last night. So I need to leave and find a healthy environment.. as of you.. you need to leave him before you repeat my story. hope it helps.
Hey, why the fuck you are asking us? Did you ask us before you start dating him? If he sees you like this then he has the right to say it. You wanna leave then don't ask us. You wanna stay with him then check why he says those words to you. Nough said