He will absolutely cheat on you again. The only absolutes in life are death, taxes, and that creeps who cheat on you, get the girl pregnant, and then turn it back on you will definitely cheat on you second time. Why haven't you dumped him already? Why aren't his clothes strewn across the lawn? Why isn't his head swollen from the anvil that you dropped on him from the top of a building? Why do you want to have anything to do with a guy who would get another woman pregnant and then somehow blame it on you? Why haven't you left him to deal with the mess he's created?
I'm amazed by this guy's level of self-delusion. "How was your day, honey? Great, great. Hey, guess what? I'm cheating on you, and the girl's pregnant. Oh, and P.S., it's all your fault. What's for dinner?" That's some serious Don Draper/Talented Mr. Ripley style sociopathy right there. How do you spin something like that back on your girlfriend? I wonder how people like that sleep at night.
There is nothing to work out here. Why do you want to be a part of the drama he's created? If he was apologetic, and confessed to cheating on you and knocking up the girl, even then you'd have more than enough cause to dump him. But the fact that he tried to blame you for all the terrible things he's done? That's a guy who will make your life miserable without an ounce of remorse. I could see you being conflicted if it was a one time thing and he was freaking out about the mess he's put everyone in. It wouldn't make what he did okay, but at least he would seem like a human being and not a psychopath. In a way, it's better than he acted the way he did. Now you should have no trouble walking away from this mess.
I'm amazed by this guy's level of self-delusion. "How was your day, honey? Great, great. Hey, guess what? I'm cheating on you, and the girl's pregnant. Oh, and P.S., it's all your fault. What's for dinner?" That's some serious Don Draper/Talented Mr. Ripley style sociopathy right there. How do you spin something like that back on your girlfriend? I wonder how people like that sleep at night.
There is nothing to work out here. Why do you want to be a part of the drama he's created? If he was apologetic, and confessed to cheating on you and knocking up the girl, even then you'd have more than enough cause to dump him. But the fact that he tried to blame you for all the terrible things he's done? That's a guy who will make your life miserable without an ounce of remorse. I could see you being conflicted if it was a one time thing and he was freaking out about the mess he's put everyone in. It wouldn't make what he did okay, but at least he would seem like a human being and not a psychopath. In a way, it's better than he acted the way he did. Now you should have no trouble walking away from this mess.
Holy cow, girlfriend! You WANT to stay with this man?? Really? Come here, let me slap you.... slap some sense into you. HE GOT ANOTHER WOMAN PREGNANT while he was supposedly your boyfriend. Wow.
My dad cheated on my mom while she was pregnant AND got the other woman pregnant at the same time.. Even though he was only 20 at the time, he never outgrew his douchiness and has never been a good father. I'm so glad my mom left him when she found out. Don't be dumb, you know what to do
My ex blamed me for everything. I once gave him my credit card so he could spend $100 playing poker. He spent $700 and then blamed me, said it was my fault for giving him the card in the first place. Men like this will never take responsibility for anything including their kids. I should know, I was stupid enough to have two with him but I LEFT HIM! A little too late but I left him just the same and you should too. RUN FAR FAR AWAY AS FAST AS YOU CAN! He will make you miserable for as long as you stay with him. Take it from someone that has been there...
You deserve love and respect. Respect yourself by leaving him.
he is emotionally manipulating you to see how far he can push you, let this one go and the next one will be bigger. but before you do anything, answer all of the why's nick asked above, very very good questions that will give you some perspective honey, write the answers down if you have to to get it. let this one go, and the next one will be bigger. why wait for it?
Are you that insecure that you would even consider staying with this man? Either this man is a sugar daddy and paying all of your expenses or he is one hell of a lover who makes you tingle from head to toe. If he can cheat on you, get another woman pregnant,blame you, and YOU ACCEPT ALL THIS AND COME BACK TO HIM, then you can damn well be sure he's going to pursue other women. I won't even refer to it as cheating after this time, becuase if you take him back, then that means you know what he is doing, so it's not cheating --- you just made the decision that it's okay to share your man with other women.
I have just had a similar experience, and I'm struggling to leave him also. Despite what you guys might think, I really do/did have a special relationship with him, only problem was that he had issues with fidelity. But we tried to get to a point where I would let him be with other women if he was honest. But then I realised I couldn't take it, and moved out so he could sort his head out. On day 8 (which he knew was the worst day of my life, coincidentally) he got someone pregnant. We didn't know, and we were all happy and I was going to move back in because I thought we could work things out, and he made promises that he hadn't made before, and then this comes out of the woodwork. I'm trying to walk away, but I don't know how. Although he's considering being with her, even though he barely knows her (apparently), just for the sake of the baby.
My god what a mess. And yet I still have feelings for him. Lots of them. So who here can help me get a grip???
Please please please LEAVE THIS MAN! HE IS MANIPULATING YOU! Please forgive me if I come of rude, I am absolutely not trying to be. I just have a hard time understanding "we had a great relationship, except for the infidelity". Without mutual respect, love and trust, there is no such thing as a "great relationship". You obviously love and respect this man, or you would have left a long time ago. However, I do not think he feels any of those for you. If he did, he would not have looked else where for love, not knocked another girl up and would have thought of your feelings instead of his own. Why would you consider sharing this man with another woman? Do you think he is the only man in the world for you or do you not have self-esteem? Seriously, I do not mean to sound harsh, I just think he is a selfish, narcissistic asshole and he doesn't deserve to have a person like you. You are willing to lower your standards to keep him in your life and that is a huge RED FLAG. There is a big difference in compromising to make each other happy and allowing someone to walk all over you, make lame bs promises he never intends on keeping and expecting you to wait for him to decide which girl he really wants to be with. If I was in the situation I would leave. I know it is easier said then done, but he is stringing you along. Have some self respect and let him go with the other woman, because you do not want that drama and headache anymore. When will his bullshit be enough? You deserved to be loved and treated with respect. From what you have said, he does neither. I hope some of what I have said makes sense and is helpful. Good luck..
Song Title: What did I do
Subject: R& B song about infidelity. The lyrics also address the new tinsel town bogus "sex addict" cop-out. Video is the lyric sheet synchronized to the audio recording.
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Once you close that door you will find way better. Be strong its time to move on. Think about it he is now is tied to another life and person for the next 18 years. . Whoops? . You will find better! Don't look back.
Leave him or you will end up like me with a 49 year old man who cheated before I took him back only for years later a family a home everything wAs destroyed he just waked out again to start a new family. Save yourself the heartache from marrying a creep who cheats who you've known cheats. You will always wonder always question his fidelity believe me it's no way to live or raise kids so their hearts are broken because of your love for the man. It's not worth it, move on and hugs I know it hurts awfully bad
Hi, my name is Lois, I just need someone to listen. I have a 3 in a half year old little girl, my fiance' and me have been together sense she was about 4 months old. He's been a great daddy to her sense her real father doesn't come around. Things have been great, we laugh, play like school kids, and make amazing love together. So this is why I had no clue he had been having an affair with a girl he works with. Now it turns out she's pregnante. At first he was a little confused because he thought he should be with her because of the baby that's on the way. He realized though that allthough he would be happy being there with his child as a full time dad, he wouldn't be fullfilled because he wouldn't be happy with her because he says he doesn't love her, her loves me and wants to be with me. I'm an emotional wreck. I've forgiven him because I love him unconditionally and maybe he is sorry for his mistake but I have all kinds of thoughts going through my head and I try to figure out what made him do this. When I question him he says it's not my fault, he's happy with me, but he doesn't know why he done it. I'm all to peices, one day I'm fine and the next I'm falling apart. My heart is broken, I love him and my daughter more than I think I love myself, they are my world. I don't know if I can trust him and deal with this, I will be apart of the child and my daughter will have a sibling, it's not the childs fault I know but I also know in reality I won't show alot of love towards the child because of the recentment of the affair and I'm sure not going to help my fiance prepare for this baby and buy him stuff. I love him so much and he says he loves me. He says if he didn't he could just make it easy and be with her because of the baby and not have to worry financialy about paying child support. Because this girl threatens him if he don't leave me he won't be a part of the baby's life but he says he'll take her to court for legal rights and pay child support because he wants to be with me and loves me. I know most men have atleast one affair because mens emotions don't run the same as a womans. Women tend to be more commited than men and love stronger than men. I'm willing to try and give it my all to make this work but I just don't know if I can handle all these emotions that will be there and trust issues, however on the other hand I don't think I can handle being without him either and that would make me an emotional wreck too, so either way I'm going to be a wreck and I'm trying to not let my daughter see me when I'm breaking down, she needs him, she loves her daddy and I do as well. I don't know what to do. I feel so lost and alone. I feel I've lost my best friend. Thanks for listening... well reading.
Hi, my name is Lois, I just need someone to listen. I have a 3 in a half year old little girl, my fiance' and me have been together sense she was about 4 months old. He's been a great daddy to her sense her real father doesn't come around. Things have been great, we laugh, play like school kids, and make amazing love together. So this is why I had no clue he had been having an affair with a girl he works with. Now it turns out she's pregnante. At first he was a little confused because he thought he should be with her because of the baby that's on the way. He realized though that allthough he would be happy being there with his child as a full time dad, he wouldn't be fullfilled because he wouldn't be happy with her because he says he doesn't love her, her loves me and wants to be with me. I'm an emotional wreck. I've forgiven him because I love him unconditionally and maybe he is sorry for his mistake but I have all kinds of thoughts going through my head and I try to figure out what made him do this. When I question him he says it's not my fault, he's happy with me, but he doesn't know why he done it. I'm all to peices, one day I'm fine and the next I'm falling apart. My heart is broken, I love him and my daughter more than I think I love myself, they are my world. I don't know if I can trust him and deal with this, I will be apart of the child and my daughter will have a sibling, it's not the childs fault I know but I also know in reality I won't show alot of love towards the child because of the recentment of the affair and I'm sure not going to help my fiance prepare for this baby and buy him stuff. I love him so much and he says he loves me. He says if he didn't he could just make it easy and be with her because of the baby and not have to worry financialy about paying child support. Because this girl threatens him if he don't leave me he won't be a part of the baby's life but he says he'll take her to court for legal rights and pay child support because he wants to be with me and loves me. I know most men have atleast one affair because mens emotions don't run the same as a womans. Women tend to be more commited than men and love stronger than men. I'm willing to try and give it my all to make this work but I just don't know if I can handle all these emotions that will be there and trust issues, however on the other hand I don't think I can handle being without him either and that would make me an emotional wreck too, so either way I'm going to be a wreck and I'm trying to not let my daughter see me when I'm breaking down, she needs him, she loves her daddy and I do as well. I don't know what to do. I feel so lost and alone. I feel I've lost my best friend. Thanks for listening... well reading.
I know this post was from a while ago but i would still like to say something. I am now in a similar situation. Me and my ex had been dating for 3years and he got his ex pregnant while we were together. Then he lied about it for a couple months sayin it wasnt his. In the past we had both been unfaithful but it was a kiss or something little and forgiveable. We wroked through our problems and became a better couple so i thought until this happened. The point is though even though i left him the thought of taking him back still crosses my mind. Its not because your stupid or necessarily insecure because regardless of what he did to you, you really loved him. That is what makes you want to hold on. Despite the current situation yall did probably have good times and youur love makes you want to hold on to the good times and just believe that thats the real him and yall can get back to that point. What you are feeling is normal, but it probably isnt the best idea to get back with him. Not because he cant change but because if he cheated on you he doesnt deserve the chance to change. Sometimes the decision that is hardest to make it the best choice and you have to do it. It is very hard. No one knows yall relationship so only you know what the right decision is. So best of luck even thought youve more than likely been made your decsion.
im going throught this right now! it really sucks because you dont know what to do. im in high school and really like this boy. i have been with him sense november and we were doing really good. i dont even know if its true or not but more than one person has said it to me, so do i believe what others are saying and break my trust with him or do i keep the relationship going and just see what happends and take the chance of getting my heart broke?
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My boyfriend of 4 years who is also the father of my child, cheated on me and got a girl pregnant. He says that he never loved her. He only used her for sex. I told him to get out of my life. I've even moved away once and changed my number twice Just to escape his lies. I'm always wondering why I wasn't good enough and why it took him making this mistake to realize what he had with me. I'm struggling ....my head says tell him to go away.....my heart still smiles when I see face. I pray and ask the lord to take him out of my life if he's not the one and bring ame a man that is all of the things that I desire. When I pray that prayer, he either calls or texts. I'm so confused. We have so many things in common. We used to talk and laugh and play. Even after he cheated we've had dates and everything but I can't stop feeling like he's up to no good. Why wont he just leave me alone if that's the case? Please help me!!!
My boyfriend of 4 years who is also the father of my child, cheated on me and got a girl pregnant. He says that he never loved her. He only used her for sex. I told him to get out of my life. I've even moved away once and changed my number twice Just to escape his lies. I'm always wondering why I wasn't good enough and why it took him making this mistake to realize what he had with me. I'm struggling ....my head says tell him to go away.....my heart still smiles when I see face. I pray and ask the lord to take him out of my life if he's not the one and bring ame a man that is all of the things that I desire. When I pray that prayer, he either calls or texts. I'm so confused. We have so many things in common. We used to talk and laugh and play. Even after he cheated we've had dates and everything but I can't stop feeling like he's up to no good. Why wont he just leave me alone if that's the case? Please help me!!!
Well I have a similar situation... My ex boyfriend and I were having unprotected sex I at first wasn't sure if he had someone because he lied so many times or he'll get mad and the conversation somehow ends. But when I found out the truth by her calling me I was hurt so of course I left him alone but then he was texting, calling me like crazy & still saying he loved me & we been together 4 years why would he wanna throw it all away! Those were the lines I believed because I thought he wouldn't waste his time saying this if he didn't mean it especially if I now know the truth about this girl! Now we continues to have sex and meet up and everything my reason being because he told me we will be together he just had to wait on his money so he can leave her house so at first I didn't buy that I was upset but he hit me with if I love him I'll wait & stick it out for him! Being that I love this guy so much I waited uncomfortably but I did. Anyways October 2011 I found out I was pregnant and I've been telling him I thought I was since I missed my period so he knew but when I clarified it he like went into a trance. I would cry everyday & argue with him because he wanted me to abort my baby & I've done this before with him but it was me who wanted it and now its him! So since I haven't since october thats been the last time we were on good terms & now I would literally pop up to his job leave notes & everything just because he has dogged me out since I said I'm keeping my baby. He doesn't talk to me and if I reach him he always angry he says because he is upset I kept my baby & now I'm 31 weeks and he still hasn't shown me any love or respect all he talks about is he want a dna & he going to court! His girlfriend didn't know much about me or the pregnancy and thats because he don't tell plus I know he's telling her its not his! But I'm wondering is he going to change for better when my baby comes and act more like a mature adult & is she going to stay with him because truth be told I would want us to be a family instead of my daughter having to live two lives forever. Because he says he doesn't want me ever again & I just found out he cheated on me with this girl for longer than I thought... Its been since 2010 up until now so maybe its serious but maybe not because we've been talking since then also but he tells me his love was fading during that time supposedly and he never let me go because he didn't want to hurt me!? Now I think thats some BS plus if he cheated on me shit he cheated on her and their ENTIRE relationship been a lie right!??
Well I have a similar situation... My ex boyfriend and I were having unprotected sex I at first wasn't sure if he had someone because he lied so many times or he'll get mad and the conversation somehow ends. But when I found out the truth by her calling me I was hurt so of course I left him alone but then he was texting, calling me like crazy & still saying he loved me & we been together 4 years why would he wanna throw it all away! Those were the lines I believed because I thought he wouldn't waste his time saying this if he didn't mean it especially if I now know the truth about this girl! Now we continues to have sex and meet up and everything my reason being because he told me we will be together he just had to wait on his money so he can leave her house so at first I didn't buy that I was upset but he hit me with if I love him I'll wait & stick it out for him! Being that I love this guy so much I waited uncomfortably but I did. Anyways October 2011 I found out I was pregnant and I've been telling him I thought I was since I missed my period so he knew but when I clarified it he like went into a trance. I would cry everyday & argue with him because he wanted me to abort my baby & I've done this before with him but it was me who wanted it and now its him! So since I haven't since october thats been the last time we were on good terms & now I would literally pop up to his job leave notes & everything just because he has dogged me out since I said I'm keeping my baby. He doesn't talk to me and if I reach him he always angry he says because he is upset I kept my baby & now I'm 31 weeks and he still hasn't shown me any love or respect all he talks about is he want a dna & he going to court! His girlfriend didn't know much about me or the pregnancy and thats because he don't tell plus I know he's telling her its not his! But I'm wondering is he going to change for better when my baby comes and act more like a mature adult & is she going to stay with him because truth be told I would want us to be a family instead of my daughter having to live two lives forever. Because he says he doesn't want me ever again & I just found out he cheated on me with this girl for longer than I thought... Its been since 2010 up until now so maybe its serious but maybe not because we've been talking since then also but he tells me his love was fading during that time supposedly and he never let me go because he didn't want to hurt me!? Now I think thats some BS plus if he cheated on me shit he cheated on her and their ENTIRE relationship been a lie right!??
My common law husband of 24yrs, we have 3 kids 18, 16 and 14 together. he got his best friend pregnant and now has a baby boy in March of this year 2012. He claims that he didnt mean to hurt me, and he didnt want the child and he told her was to abort it, but she didnt. it really isnt easy for me to forgive and forget. This keep pooping in my head every mins of the day.
Please give me some reasonable advice. I think i also need counciling.
MC
I have been with my boyfriend for 1/2 yrs now. But he never said he loves me. One day I can't stand this anymore, then I asked him why he doesn't say "I love you" to me ever? His answer is he doesn't feel he loves me. He tried and thought he can develop love for me, but it doesn't seem working. Later, he even told me he doesn't know what he wants from me and from our relationship. Altho I am a greatest person, he can't love me, and I can't force him to love me. But the more I am with him, the more I fall in love with him. Just he doesn't feel the same way-still stays in the same stage as the beginning-likes me. How can I make him love me? I need "love" from my boyfriend. If there's no "love" in a relationship, it's a dead relationship. I went online for online spell casters and i saw this temple ancientijebudespelltemple@gmail.com who helped me to make him love me and come back to me if not for the help of Dr Ijebu i would have single till to day all thanks to ancientijebudespelltemple@gmail.com I am Clark Tamara