Dump him. Change the locks. Leave his stuff out on the lawn. Even if he's concerned about your health, he's being a jerk about it. His constant complaining is ruining your self-esteem and not helping. I'm going to guess he isn't exactly Jake Gyllenhaal in Prince of Persia either. Chances are, he can stand to cut down on the pizza-flavored Doritos and hit the gym every once and a while.
Why do you need someone like him in your life? It's one thing to support you with life changes and encourage exercise and a healthy diet. Being a little whiny b-word and making snipe-y comments is counterproductive. He's damaging your self-esteem and not helping you to improve your life.
You don't need this negativity in your life. Weight loss should be something you do for your health and happiness, not to please your douche-troll boyfriend. I've got news for you: even if you lose weight, he's going to complain. He's looking for something to be unhappy about. It's his way of showing he's not happy in the relationship. Move on. It will be better for both of you. Find someone nice and supportive. Take care of yourself. This guy is a mental drain and a waste of oxygen.
Why do you need someone like him in your life? It's one thing to support you with life changes and encourage exercise and a healthy diet. Being a little whiny b-word and making snipe-y comments is counterproductive. He's damaging your self-esteem and not helping you to improve your life.
You don't need this negativity in your life. Weight loss should be something you do for your health and happiness, not to please your douche-troll boyfriend. I've got news for you: even if you lose weight, he's going to complain. He's looking for something to be unhappy about. It's his way of showing he's not happy in the relationship. Move on. It will be better for both of you. Find someone nice and supportive. Take care of yourself. This guy is a mental drain and a waste of oxygen.
*snap*! Way to lay it down there, Nick. Well said.
And to the questioner: Nick is SPOT ON with this advice.
I've been seeing a personal trainer who is at least 10 years younger than me with a rock solid body and I am a overweight, but he has only told me how beautiful I am and how attracted he is to me.
He only mentions my weight when I bring it up, and then he always says, "if you want to do it, I'll help you." Period.
THAT'S supportive. Go get you some of that. ;-).
Yes. That's a good guy right there. He's in the business of helping people get in shape and he doesn't feel the need to constantly put you down. He's a keeper.
Awwwww :)
I dated a guy like this and he splattered my self-esteem all over the sidewalk. Even if you could lose a few, this guy isn't doing you any favors.
If he can't accept you for who you are, right now, then you're better off without him. Otherwise you're going to get a complex and not trust anyone who says that you're beautiful, which, of course you are.
What's going to happen if you have kids with this guy and you're not able to lose that extra 20lbs?
There's too many good guys out there to waste a minute with a douche.
I'm guessing you could lose 175 pounds or so if you dumped him immediately.
Good one. :)
Enough. Seriously. Dump his immature ass and get urself a real man who appreciates real women. I can hook u up, girl, plenty of single dudes in my city who say I'm on the thin side (5'9" 143 lbs.) and like women with junk in the trunk and think a belly is feminine! Probably a cultural thing, my city is a hotbed for immigrants from northern Spain/Basque country. U can email me priv if u want unalocaamiga@hotmail.com
Cheers hon XD
Um... I don't mean to be rude, but you don't happen to be a spambot, do you?
Get on a stationary bike and put down the tub of ice cream? Ever thought of that one?
He will NOT change, I had a bf who complained about my weight for three years. Forced me to go to the gym, counted my calories, mafe fun of me etc. After much pressure I lost 15 lbs and it wasn't enough for him. finally I realized it was him I needed to lose! The best 180 lbs I ever shed! Haha A year later and I'm 30 lbs smaller then when we were together, the kicker is... His current girlfriend is heavier than I ever was.
I see him at the gym every now and then. I smile and just know in my heart that I did it for me, not a guy who will never be happy with himself or anyone else. My new boyfriend loves my body and compliments me everyday, I know he loves me for who I am, not what I look like! It's a wonderful feeling.
Jessica is right. I encountered, "I don't want to hear about you losing no 35 pounds. You're still overweight." What's more, it turns out I wasn't. I weighed exactly what I should have, but I had such a negative body image that I didn't know that. It was the boyfriend I needed to lose, not the weight. And Ed, you're a jerk.
wow! my boyfriend is always sayin i need to lose weight an he says its for my health an if he didnt like the way i looked he wouldnt be with me, but then later says stuff like he cant have sex like he wants to because my belly is in the way? whats that mean? are you kidding me so ill say why are you with me if you dont like fat girls because i wasnt small when we met an you could stand to lose the beer belly. i just dont understand it, an when he complains it makes me not give a damn if i lose any weight or not cause it aint gonna be good enough. an i often wonder if he is cheating he works in different states an when he came home this last time a girls picture came up on his phone askin if he was free tonight an the girl works as an escort he said it wasnt for him it was for his friend did i believe him hell no what do you think?