Oh FFS, seriously? What are you, 10?
Completely unacceptable. He's your boyfriend, not your dad and not your nutritionist. It's not his place to tell you what you can and cannot eat. You're an adult, right? Do you let anyone else stop you from eating what you want to eat? I didn't think so.
Why would you allow anyone to treat you like this? I don't care if he claims to be looking out for your health; it still doesn't give him the right to control you. Forgive my bluntness, but your guy sounds like a domineering ass. He won't change, either. Today it's food, tomorrow it's what you wear or which friends you can see or how late you can stay out. It's not normal boyfriend behavior, and you will resent it in the long run, if you don't already.
If it's a father figure you want, he's your guy. Otherwise, stand up for yourself and dump this chump. Or, at the very least, tell him that he no longer has the power to "let" you make choices. They're your choices, and you will make them with or without his approval.
I still think you should boot him, though. He's bad news. Such arrogance. I would never dream of telling my wife what she can or cannot eat, and not just because I would spend the next hour prying her foot out of my ass.
On a positive note, I did like your "thrice...rice" line. Very clever.
Thanks for the question.
Run!
I agree with Cary. This guy sounds like bad news. I know how easy it is to rationalize this kind of behavior but trust me when I say that you don't deserve to be treated that way.
And it would be wrong whether you were rail thin or obese. We have the right to eat what we want without being degraded or denied like a toddler, no matter our size.
Yes! Her weight is irrelevant.
i got angry reading this too, and echo Cary's abbreviated cursing. my ex husband used to do this too, but at 5'11 and 130 lbs it was because he thought i was fat and "just needed help". he would hide sweets on me, limited my meals to 5g of fat a meal. when i rebelled, which is only natural and you will too eventually, it went to some seriously ugly name calling. it was pretty bad. he just didn't want his girl making poor choices either. so i stopped making those choices, and started making good ones. thats why he's my EX. you've got some trash to take out, sweetheart, and it sure as hell ain't rice.
Sounds like he's the one with the eating problem.
Sounds like he overly controlling and may turn abusive. There is a book called Why Does he Do That which is really a good read on controlling men.
Ha, sounds like many women I've seen in the past. Always harping on the man when we happen to eat something deemed "not healthy". Wouldn't matter if I did two sessions of intensive cardio per day over the last few days, wouldn't matter if all I eaten the rest of the week were egg whites, chicken breasts, plain salads, plain whole wheat toast, but god forbid if on a Friday night I wanted to help myself to some ice cream! Some dudes couldn't even bite into a candy bar without their woman going into a tirade.
I hope the women reading WA's excellent advice remember it when they decided they want to try to control what their man eats. It works both ways!
Thin and healthy do not necessarily equate. It is a body type, not a state of health. That being said, this guy is a control freak and you need to make him disappear from your life. Thrice and rice is indeed clever.
He's not gonna let his girlfriend make poor choices? Well, you know what, he's your boyfriend not your decision maker. Sure that argument would fly if you were sticking a needle in your arm, or shoving powder up your nose, but eating rice? Give me a break.
Lady, just woman-up and tell him to shove it or the next place your fork is going isn't gonna be into your meal.