You absolutely should give him his money back and tell him to kick rocks. I don't know what he was doing or why, but he just wantonly decided he wanted no parts of your birthday. Didn't even offer a phone call or text?
Not even an eensy weensy text?
Yeah. He gotz ta go. Family vacations are times to spend with people who care about you and your well-being. Your chico doesn't. Granted, I have no clue if he offered a response or if you even asked for one. So PERHAPS he has the greatest reason (short of getting shot or dying) as to why he couldn't be there. Perhaps but if he did, he would have called and offered that explanation at the time.
Unless he was wrestling a honeybadger, in which he couldn't because he was losing that battle since honeybadgers don't care. Honeybadgers don't give a *CENSORED*.
Either way, I say he's out on the family trip. Hell, let me go with you. I'm SO in need of a vacation right about now and I promise to text you on your birthday to tell you why Im not coming. Honest!
Scout's honor!
I spy a Cracked reference.
loool @ wrestling a honeybadger. That made me smile so much! Thank you for that.
I can be your cuz & take his sea side spot. You can also tell me what a horrible BF he was the whole time….
Wow. I'd be really curious to know if you have gotten any explanation from him. Everything depends on that.
If the cruise line won't refund his trip don't worry about it. I know sometimes once you've paid that's it. If they won't give his money back that's too bad. He should have thought about that before he decided to be a total jerk. I'm guessing this isn't the first time he's let you down.
First, happy belated birthday.
Second, maybe you just don't tell him that he's not going on the cruise. You just blow him off. No call. No text.
Hmmm. Kinda like he did on your birthday.
PJ was being very kind. If there was ever a reason to use the term d-bag for a guy in a reply, this was it.
Good luck to you girlie...and have a great trip!
seriously if it was me i wouldn't give the money back. if he can afford to go on a cruise, he can afford a GD text message or a birthday card. i like goodkarma's response. give him what he gave you which is a whole lotta nuthin. so sorry that happened, and yes, happy belated birthday!
I didn't read the part where you asked him why he didn't come. You should probably start there.
Wrong. She shouldn't have to ask.
Not showing up to a birthday party isn't as inalienable an offense as cheating or forgetting an anniversary. I'm going to assume that since the asker doesn't know where her boyfriend was or what he was doing that day that you don't either. As far as we know (nothing), it could be an inane and completely embarrassing circumstance that prevented him from coming.
Assuming the worst and not bothering to do something as simple as asking about it is frankly a lazy way of approaching what should be a 50/50 relationship. It says "accommodate me at all times, no compromise, if you don't, I'm breaking up with you." If the guy doesn't have any history of this kind of behavior to begin with, he deserves to be heard out before being kicked to the curb.
Forgetting your "loved one's" birthday is as great an "offense" as forgetting an anniversary.
The asker didn't state that she didn't ask him why he didn't show up, call, or text his girlfriend of over a year that he wasn't showing up to her birthday party... which means that not only did he hurt her directly, but I'm sure she was embarrassed as hell in front of her friends and family.
Further, someone who can be so cold as to do what he did would easily be so cold as to cheat, lie, betray her, etc.
If someone can go out of one's way to hurt and humiliate me without a blink of an eye (or a text), then I'm sure not going to beg him to profess his "love" to me.
>>Assuming the worst and not bothering to do something as simple as asking about it is frankly a lazy way of approaching what should be a 50/50 relationship. It says "accommodate me at all times, no compromise, if you don't, I'm breaking up with you."
A birthday party isn't accommodating someone at all times. It is showing up ONE DAY A YEAR. How is a relationship 50/50 when someone can't do something as simple as that, without even a simple text message to say, "Sorry hon, I can't make it because ___?"
Someone with a "good" excuse will call or text... or better yet, make an appearance when there were PLANS in the first place!
Don't worry about him or giving him the money back. Enjoy your cruise.
Seriously even if a guy is ill he'll still at the VERY least txt you happy b-day if he even SLIGHTLY cares that you'll have a good day.
My BF and his kids had the flu on my bday and for a whole week. So obviously I could go over/ him come over. But he did txt several times and tried to call til he needed to visit the porcelain god XD
So point is, just short of someone like his mom or himself having been hurt badly or some other dire thing, he would have made SOME kind of contact on that day. Or even a "oh my gosh I forgot so sorry" the day after might have been ok. But he didn't make any efforts at all so I'd call it a wash give the money back and move on.
Maybe someone on the cruise can help mend the hurt?
seriously. my boyfriend (at the time) didn't come to what i feel was one of boyfriend of a year plus should be there, a day for me to celebrate getting good results and getting a scholarship to go overseas. my parents went all out with catering and everything. he didn't come. i expected him to stay for at least half of the occasion, like how i stayed for his sister's birthday party the entire time. i was pissed off. i went over his house later that day to ask for an explanation, and all he said was, "i was tired.plus, it's not like you will have time to spend with me." i was "WTF!" but it seemed so immature to break things of with him because of that. but after i dumped him for cheating on me, i got to thinking, he never stayed around for my birthday parties (even when he knows about it weeks earlier, he made other plans), never came and help. i'm not saying that he'll cheat on you, i'm saying, please think. if he's being an ass, don't be like me and always work through it and make excuses for him. dump him because face it, you deserve a lot better.