No, you're not overreacting. While I understand what he's saying - to a degree - the fact is that if he always does it, it makes you seem marginal. You're just the person he's there with, not somebody anybody else needs to know exists.
Dat very rude.
The fact that you mentioned it to him and his immediate reaction was, "well, those people aren't important" let's you know his mind is in the wrong place. He should have said, "baby, I'm sorry. You are important to me and I'm not trying to make you feel important. I will do better."
And the next time you all were out, he should have made it a point to introduce you to people. Because you know what, other people notice when somebody DOESN'T get introduced. It's awkward for everybody.
So you have a legitimate beef there, chica. All you can really do is keep letting him know how you feel, and if he keeps letting you know that how you feel is wrong...well, you should very well know where you stand.
Anytime I was out with my ex-boyfriend and he when he didn't introduce to people he would immediately say it was because he didn't remember their name and didn't want to make it obvious.
So you are definitely justified in feeling hurt. You should really talk to him about it and find out how he really feels about your relationship.
Agreed! My boyfriend is SO bad with names that, even if we run into someone and he knows there name, there's still that 'deer in the headlights/what if I forget their name' feeling of dread.
We agreed that if he doesn't introduce me within the first few words exchanged, I introduce myself.
My current boyfriend does the same damn thing for the same reason and it leaves me feeling like I am the unimportant one. It's like "Hello, I am right here!!"
Why can't you introduce yourself?? Sometimes just out of forgetfullness or lack of manners my boyfriend has done this but I know it isn't personal. Sometimes my friends or even my Mum on occasion can do this. So I just introduce myself. Otherwise it can be really awkward. I mean your standing there and the other person is eyeing you up sceptically, addressing both you and whoever you are with in conversation and you're looking at them trying to figure out the connection whilst your boyfriend/friend/mum is just chatting away. So yea just break the ice, introduce yourself "Hi, I'm ___, X's girlfriend/friend from school/daughter".
@encantada - I DO end up introducing myself, every time. I don't mind doing it. I just want him to do it because that's good manners and says to the other person that I am important enough to be acknowledged.
I have been with my boyfriend for two years and the first time he did this to me it really upset me. It was at his family's Christmas party. I knew most of the people there but there were at least six of his family members I have never met. As soon as I walked in with him they were standing there but he didn't introduce me to them. I didn't introduce myself because I am really shy when it comes to new people. We got in a huge fight afterwards but it didn't seem to bother him that much. The second time was at a wedding. I didn't know the couple getting married but I went with him anyway. The whole time he didn't introduce me to anyone! Not even the bride and groom. He knew a lot of people there too so I was just left by myself:( So now he wants me to go to another wedding with him and I told him no this time because of how he doesn't introduce me to anyone. He got really upset because he is one of the groom's men. But I told him that it really hurts my feelings and why would I want to go through that again? But this time when I asked him why he does it he said that it just "slips his mind." BUT I'M RIGHT THERE. How could I just slip his mind when I'm right next to him in front of people I don't know? Can anyone help me with this situation? I don't understand.