He's not necessarily sleeping with her now, but there is a very good chance it will happen again. The thing is, guys tend to look at their past lovers the same way armies do after they've planted a flag on a foreign country. That is, it's conquered ground and he can do with it what he chooses even after the initial invasion is over. There is a good chance he put a lot of effort into scoring with her in the first place and he doesn't want all of that work to go to waste. Thus he will go back and dip when he chooses.
Don't worry, it's probably not emotional, just sex. He probably just says he loves here in a friendly way.
Are both of you serious? I say MM is being sarcastic? Why are you with him still? Are you really into sharing a man physically and mentally? If you are, then you might be into sharing STDs too. Dump him. He is not committed to you at all.
so agree!!! omg first of all after the first time he slept with his ex, you should have dumped his ass like last weeks smelly garbage. You deserve to get hurt if your stupid enough to stay with a cheater, then your just asking for it. Get rid of his ass and find a guy who will be loyal and love you and ONLY you!
that's BULLSHIT. he's a huge piece of shit. leave his ass nowwwwww.
and spit on him for me. ..also the ex, if you get a chance :)
0 tolerance for that shit.
MM.. you let me down on this one buddy, no one deserves to be cheated on no matter how much effort was put into a relationship before. dont start a new one if thats the mind frame..
I think he was being sarcastic.
This is such a stupid question it's almost a joke. No woman on the face of the Earth needs to be told the answer to this question, it's completely obvious. If your boyfriend says that he loves his ex there is only one thing you have to do. Break up with him.
if it was he's horrible at being sarcastic..
Maybe you just are horrible at reading sarcasm?
Okay umm...
He's not sleeping with her NOW ... but he may be later tonight. Or when you're at work tomorrow. Or he did last night.
He's got two women right now and won't change unless you do something about it - meaning kick his ass out.
And do what Candice said - spit on him.
haha!
I concur with the above comments, it is only a matter of time before he leaves your ass. I am pretty sure the ex doesnt want him back yet which is why he's still with you. He doesnt want to blow all his bridges. Aside from that, the moment he cheated on you with his ex was the time you should have kicked him to the curb. Your man is no good and he certainly doesnt love or care for you or your feelings. MOVE ON...
What kind of answer is that?!!! He loves her in a friendly way? The three words that we have to pull teeth to hear from a guy...and he's just being friendly by telling is ex that he loves her?
This guy has already spelt with the ex and texts..what are you still doing in the relationship woman?
Women with dust on the brain annoy me.Its one of those things where if she were standing in ur face askin this question silence would stretch for miles until u hear the famous.......*cricket*..... followed by the question "you're kidding right?" complete with a look that says "if ur not u betta pretend to be because no1 would blame me for kicking you in the butt!".
Bottom line, the guy is a cheater, liar, and a CUNT. That's right, I said it, this girls bf is a cunt. Dump him like the piece of crap he is.
I WAS ACTUALLY SERIOUS ABOUT THE QUESTION FOR ALL THE INSULTS THAT WERE THROWN AT ME FOR THIS QUESTION.! I ACTUALLY LOVE HIM AND HE ONLY SLEPT WITH HER ONCE FROM WAT THEY {BOTH} HAVE SAID. AND HE DOESNT ACTUALLY SAY HE LOVE HER SHE SAYS I LOVE YOU AND HE REPLIES BAK U 2.,! IT BOTHERS ME BUT HE SAYS ITS NOTHING, I WAS JUST ASKING..--HE'S NEVER LIED TO ME BEFORE
Sorry, if you feel insulted. I lack tact at times. So forgive me. The point we all are making is that you deserve better. Just because you love someone does not mean that you have to put up with disrespect and second class treatment on so many levels. One lie can (and, more than likely, will) lead to another. If he loves you and is in a committed relationship with you, why is he answering her texts and calls? In healthy and mature relationships, this behavior would not be. He would not do it in front of you or behind your back out of respect for you and the relationship you two have. Hearts heal with time. Do not let love mislead you until something that could have been avoided happens. Since, you are black, I want to add that black women are the ones that have the highest rate of newly contracted HIV. I hope that your decision will be based on wisdom and education from more than one source.
Not sure why her color really matters, John - regardless of her color, STDs (and emotional abuse) are terrible risks she's running. Clearly her guy doesn't care about her enough to be honest with her, and that's enough criteria for breaking up right there.
JOHN??wow dude I was kinda with ya til that whole "black" thing came into play making your answer be one to disreguard all together!!& you should never ever speak for other people "The point we all are making is that you deserve better." if youre gonna say things that are completely not needed.TO MISS "ILOVEUJAY......the fact that you asked for advice means that you know theres something wrong with that & you only came here either to have us agree or talk you out of what youre thinking but honey theres NO way of getting around the fact that you are indeed in love with a dirtbag!!I say this because in a relationship you cant change people but if someone realizes they are doing something to cause the person they love discomfort they change on their own out of love & respect!!You are in no way asking for much so he should do what pleases you by granting your wishes to not contact her.& to me,& THIS MAY JUST BE ME,but the worst kind of cheating is emotional cheating.So while it may not be physical the bond they started before you only continues to grow between them making them share something he just doesnt have with you.HOPE THIS HELPS BECAUSE YOU SHOULD PUT YOUR BIG GIRLS DRAWS ON & SEE IT FOR WHAT IT IS.good luck.
This isn't the first question you've asked about (I'm assuming) the same guy. He sounds like a creep and everybody senses it - you do too, which is why you keep asking questions. He's not worth all the time and energy and love you're giving him and you have to realize how much better you deserve. HE'S NOT GOING TO CHANGE and you could get hurt really badly in the future (emotionally or even with an STD) by putting up with his crap. And it is crap. He's not going to change unless you change (and maybe not even then) and realize that you ARE worth so much more than what he offers.
Guys are really good saying what they know we want to hear. Actions speak louder than words, honey. You're a beautiful girl and someone out there is going to treat you like a princess but you need to stop kissing frogs first.
Please, please, PLEASE realize how awesome you are and dump this guy for good.
He's playing with you like a little toy and you'll honestly never know how many times he's lied before - (I'd bet money that he has).
dump him.
dont defend him.
dump him.
youve already asked sketchy questions about your relationship that ive seen.... thats much too much trouble.
Seriously DUMP HIS SORRY EXCUSE FOR A MAN!!! I've been there done that before. I was SO in 'love' with a guy that I stayed with him for almost 3 years despite losing all my friends, having him CHEAT on me with 'just friends' , and constantly coming home after midnight saying he worked on 'cars'... what finally did it for me was him pointing a GUN at me. Yes that's right a GUN and his excuse was he was just 'testing' the scope on it. Still even after that it took me a week to fully dump him.
Sweetie honsetly if a guy puts his man part into another's personal space he has no care for what you two have. He's getting to have his feet in both camps so to say. What it comes down to is he's not ready to commit to ANYTHING yet and you can't and never will get him to be able to either. HE has to want to and while he's waiting for his time he's playing you and her.
When I left my ex I not only heard from friends but saw for myself that he had 2 girls coming around after I left so even though we'd been together for awhile he still wasn't serious enough about what we had to stop foolong around, he just got better at hiding it. So as tacky as this may seem you gotta play a bit of dective work here. Does he get wierd about you touching or looking at his phone? Does he come home at strange hours? Does he reply to that dumb bitches texts after a certian time? Find this stuff out for your sake cuz honey when you leave it won't hurt him as he has an ex he can apparently go running to for any needs you aren't there to help with anymore.
Oh and I call her a dumb bitch because my current man's ex keeps trying to make him jealous by saying she's engaged or dating a 22 YO fire chief and other obvious bullshit to try and get him to leave me, but jokes on her it doesn't work with him at all and he openly shows me what she texts and I tell him what to say to shut her the fuck up and it either works or makes her angry that not only he but I as well saw through her petty attempts.
O girl please please dump this stupid fucker. My ex was cheating on me also. I had been having suspicions for a while but a never really had want proof. But he used act suspect about me going near his phone. I went to go pick him up from school one day cuz he didn't have his car I thought (he never told me that it was fixed and that he didn't need me to pick him up) and watched him with a group of friends and has his arm around some random girl. I pulled him aside and confronted him immediately. He of course said that it was nothing and that she was just a friend. I didn't buy it but let him think I did. I wanted to wait for undeniable proof. So about a week later after going out with some girlfriends and him texted me all night to see if I we dancing with othr guys, I decided to check his myspace page I had his password. I found messages between him and another high school age girl planning on have oral sex. I flipped I went to confront him and broke up with him on the spot. Later he admitted to me that he had been cheating our entire relationship. My point is that there is no way you know how much he's lied or how many times that he's cheated. I believe cheating is the greatest act of disrespect that you can show a relationship or a loved one.
okay i know this question is a joke right ?. first of all the guy sounds like an asshole. why still be with him. you are giving yourself up into being hurt ... it dont make any sense. when he doesnt have enough respect to be discreet about it then he doesnt care about you ... obviously you have proven yourself previously to be willing too stick around with him thru his shit... simply why he doesnt care about you now.. i say leave him because once a cheater always a cheater .. i mean no woman who has self respect and self morals should even have to ask strangers for their opinion on what too do wit a sleez bag.. tell him BYE. you'll catch him on the flip slide
well if hes having sex with ur ex or u think he is u dont trust him and shouldnt be with him
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