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My boyfriend has just told me that he has had sex with another man before. We have a very close relationship and we do have a healthy sexual relationship. I have no doubt he loves me, but I do worry about his sexuality. Is this something I should worry about?

Your sexual relationship is healthy, and your overall relationship is healthy. Your sexual and overall relationships are so healthy, in fact, that he was comfortable telling you something very personal that he probably hasn't told many people.

Men who identify themselves as heterosexual don't, generally, have sex with other men. But it's certainly not unheard of, and sexual orientation is a bit more complex than "Straight or Gay." There's nothing wrong with your boyfriend, and there's nothing wrong with your relationship. His past is his past and now you're the only person he's sleeping with... hopefully.

Don't be any more concerned about him sneaking off to have sex with a man than you would be about him sneaking off to have sex with a woman. If he does either of those things, he'd be a cheater, and that's bad, but he's not (nor was he ever) some horrible sexual deviant.

Enjoy your relationship, enjoy the fact that he loves you, and plan for a happy future.

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Uh yeah, I would be a little worried too =/.....thing is, your man must trust you a lot to tell you something that personal. I think you know him better than anyone else. Trust your intuition.

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he told her because he wants threesome with another man

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My boyfriend opened up and told me the very same thing last week. I was a bit floored by the revelation initially. But once I thought about it, I realized that he had opened up to me about something he had never told anyone before and that really meant something. And how was this any different than him sleeping with another woman in his past? In the end, I love him and as long as he wants me and only me, I don't care who he has been with.

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my name is gemma and my boyfriend as been sleeping with my sisters ex boyfriend who shes got kids too and she had a miss carrage to him well he was sleeping with another man and two days ago we found out my boyfriend has been sleeping with him for five weeks and went all the way what shall we do ????????????????????????

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