Well, I don't know about you or the readers, but my alarm bells are ringing loud enough to call out every fire truck in about a 60 mile radius.
Looks like one of the big three. He's cheating, he's going to cheat or he's going to leave.
I am gonna go for actively cheating. The worries about his looks and the mood swings as far as you are concerned are dead giveaways. He's feeling guilty - so he takes it out on you.
Dump him, unless there is an over-riding reason, like you are pregnant or have a kid with him, to try to make it work out. Better a clean break than a long and painful dwindling.
I agree 100 % with mm. kick him to the curb if you find proof of his infidelity and have no kids together.
In a word... yes. Probably. I mean, once or twice a year I'll delete my texts but that's more of a storage space thing. I'm still kinda stuck in the past like that. Everything else though, they're all the classic symptoms of cheating rolled into one big nasty package. Confront him directly, see what he has to say.
Um....trolling much??
yeah, honey, i think you answered your own question in the question and you probably know that but are hoping you are wrong. been there and i really feel for you. sadly my experience has 100% of the time been that if you're suspecting something based on actual evidence in changes of behavior your intuition is trying to tell you something. good boyfriends don't go from loving to hating on a dime without a reason. unless like MM said there are bigger issues here, send him out with the trash stat. even IF there is an outside chance that his brain chemistry has altered sufficiently in a short period of time so much so that treating you like crap is a nasty side effect, you deserve better whether he knows enough to treat you accordingly or not. the longer you let him get away with it the worse it is going to get. that i can guarantee you. good luck!!
I'm sad for you...
Bottom line, even if he's not cheating the fact that he's treating you like this is cause enough to dump him. You don't need proof, you need to get out.
This sucks! I'm so sorry!
On another note... what does sparky mean in this context?
Electrician or electrical worker.
Thanks!!
It may just be my experience, but I don't think guys delete anything unless there's a compelling reason. I just read some juicy and dangerous emails between two guys at work and they know I have access to their work email and they have months worth of messages with this-could-get-you-fired incriminating emails which they haven't bothered to delete. So if your boyfriend is being conscientious about deleting the evidence...I think that means there's evidence worth deleting. His behavior seems so blatant though...could he be trying to get your attention? Want you to find out and confront him about the cheating? I dunno...just wondering.
I could only imagine how it is; having to see the change of behavior and not really knowing the cause... That, and not having the courage to confront him because of this fear you are about to lose him. There could be a lot of reasons, but it really is best to ask him soon. Don't prolong the agony, and once you're in that space of finding out, try to keep your cool. It's always nice to move with grace despite the troubling realities we face in our lives.
Even if you're not pregnant/have kid(s) with this guy, leave. Better to grow up in a household with separated parents than a couple that are miserable and lying to each other.
My bf is doing this to me right now too. I looked this up because i wanted to know what was going on desperatly. Im 12 and hes 13 and he has always been just amazing. I had my first kiss and make out with him and then out of the blue he just starts acting wieird. Even my friends are noticing it and every time I ask him what's wrong he just denys it and says the only thing bugging him is that I keep asking what's wrong. So i know how you feel completely.