Congratulations. You've just won the award for possibly the most chaotic question I've read since starting here at Guyspeak.
You all have all kinds of things going on here that need Jesus.
Let's start with your beginning sentence. So your boyfriend WAS a virgin, not is. So you all slept together and you still call him a virgin? Perhaps that was a typo. Let's get our lives together people. Now he's mad at you because you weren't one (did you ever allude to him that you were?) and SOMEHOW he thinks he deserves a threesome because of that alleged deceit? I'm so confused by this logic that I actually spent two hours thinking about ways that might make sense.
I was left shaking in a room wearing one sock, a wire hanger, smoking a cigarello, and laughing at ants. That's how befuddled that logic made me. But you know what makes it worse? You don't seem to think it's unreasonable, but that it might end the relationship. LIke you're not incredulous at the logic. Just that it might end things. Where dey do dat at?
So what should you do? Date guys that make more sense. I'm being serious too. Oh, and be a little surprised the next time somebody suggests a threesome because you forgot to buy some ice cream.
(By the way, I'm fully aware that the people who wrote this question could very well be 16, but it seemed SO outrageously ridiculous that I couldn't help myself. Thank you and good night.)
Wow this boy is so immature, he needs to man up. What happened before they even met is none of his business (besides checking that the person got tested), yet he getsjealous...they hadn't even met yet! ugh what a ludicrous demand just because his ego is bruised.
Tell him you'll have a threesome...with another dude. Haha.
Seriously though, that is a ridiculous demand that has absolutely no connection to the fact that you were not a virgin and he was when the two of you slept together. I can see him getting jealous (it's not rational or right, but I can understand it), but that's still no reason to make a demand like this. Shut him down.
he's an idiot and you should dump him. also, there's a possibility he's lying to extort a threesome out of you. either way, dump him.
Tell him he sux with just one female, there is no way he could please two. Put him out like the trash he is. Crazy how these people find you Panama! (evil laugh)
I seriously want to laugh, but I don't know why I can't. There's got to be some serious mental and emotional issue with this guy, and I once again fail my grasp of reality after reading the question. (x_x)
Honestly, he was probably just looking for any excuse to have a threesome.
"You have all kinds of things going on that need Jesus."
I can't stop laughing.
Wow, that's the flimsiest attempt at entitlement I've ever heard, let alone emotional blackmail. Sex was not his only field of ignorance when he met you, girl. If you already think that a 3-some can be fatal to a relationship, then having one will definitely screw you up. As for his illogical anger, that alone is sign enough that he's probably not ready for a grown-up relationship.
1. What?
2. Your sexual past is none of his business.
3. His insecurity and embarrassment about being a virgin is not your problem.
4. No one is "entitled" to a threesome.
5. No one is "enititled" to any sexual acts with any other person(s), ever.
6. You don't owe him anything, and if he thinks you do, he is fucked up.
7. Even if you did, why the hell would person 3?
8. Reallly think about having sex with someone you're not into and your bf who's doing it only to get back at you for something that shouldn't even be a problem. I mean really, sex is supposed to happen because two people are into each other, not because someone feels they're owed, or wants to humiliate someone, or say, "this is what you get for having sex before me". How does a threesome even make up for that anyway? What's the conversion rate? You once kissed a girl? Then he's "entitled" to have an affair. You once contracted an STD? Then you have to marry him. By what logic does your past sexual activities "entitle" him to unrelated present sexual experiences? To be honest, anyone who uses the word "entitled" in describing sex sounds kinda rape-y to me. He obviously just wants a threesome, but instead of asking, he's trying to use guilt and coersion on you to force you into it. This is all kinds of wrong.
9. Wait... WHAT?!
you rock GBFF! this answer is awesomesauce!
you rock GBFF! this answer is awesomesauce!