I can relate. I don’t love texting. I accept that it’s part of the way we communicate now, but if I have to punch buttons on my phone for any other reason than dialing a number, I would rather it be while playing Ms. Pac-Man or posting to Twitter. Often my girlfriend, or a friend, will text me throughout the day and I won’t respond because I’m busy and figure I will get back to them but then it gets to be too late and there are three texts ahead of the one that I haven’t responded to and I might as well just call them at this point.
So, yeah. I feel ya, dawg. I think we can both text back and say, “Hey, I’m busy now, but I will get back to you soon. Luv ya!” That seems reasonable. (Unless you work for the C.I.A., in which case you’re probably too busy reading through everyone else’s texts to respond to the ones on your own phone.) And, in turn, your boyfriend should be cool with that.(Were I him I would assume that you not texting back implies that you’re
busy, but these are the things we have to do for love in 2010…) He’s probably just upset about not getting any response at all. Or maybe he’s bored and wants attention.
If he’s asking you about dinner plans or something important, writing a quick text back when you can should suffice. If he’s just writing to see what’s up every hour or so, you should probably talk to him and let him know that you love him, but you simply do not have time to text. Tell him that you don’t have time to respond to anyone in any way– be it your friend who wants to Gchat, Mom who called to remind you about Dad’s birthday party, or your coworker who is bored and wants see if you’re free for a game of Bejeweled.
Another option is to tell him that you have to turn off your phone during the workday, that it’s too much of a distraction. Say you’re worried about your job if you have to. And then turn your phone off and act like it’s 1996 when cell phones were huge and could barely even make calls.