I can relate. I don't love texting. I accept that it's part of the way we communicate now, but if I have to punch buttons on my phone for any other reason than dialing a number, I would rather it be while playing Ms. Pac-Man or posting to Twitter. Often my girlfriend, or a friend, will text me throughout the day and I won't respond because I'm busy and figure I will get back to them but then it gets to be too late and there are three texts ahead of the one that I haven't responded to and I might as well just call them at this point.
So, yeah. I feel ya, dawg. I think we can both text back and say, "Hey, I'm busy now, but I will get back to you soon. Luv ya!" That seems reasonable. (Unless you work for the C.I.A., in which case you're probably too busy reading through everyone else's texts to respond to the ones on your own phone.) And, in turn, your boyfriend should be cool with that.(Were I him I would assume that you not texting back implies that you're busy, but these are the things we have to do for love in 2010...) He's probably just upset about not getting any response at all. Or maybe he's bored and wants attention.
If he's asking you about dinner plans or something important, writing a quick text back when you can should suffice. If he's just writing to see what's up every hour or so, you should probably talk to him and let him know that you love him, but you simply do not have time to text. Tell him that you don't have time to respond to anyone in any way-- be it your friend who wants to Gchat, Mom who called to remind you about Dad's birthday party, or your coworker who is bored and wants see if you're free for a game of Bejeweled.
Another option is to tell him that you have to turn off your phone during the workday, that it's too much of a distraction. Say you're worried about your job if you have to. And then turn your phone off and act like it's 1996 when cell phones were huge and could barely even make calls.
So, yeah. I feel ya, dawg. I think we can both text back and say, "Hey, I'm busy now, but I will get back to you soon. Luv ya!" That seems reasonable. (Unless you work for the C.I.A., in which case you're probably too busy reading through everyone else's texts to respond to the ones on your own phone.) And, in turn, your boyfriend should be cool with that.(Were I him I would assume that you not texting back implies that you're busy, but these are the things we have to do for love in 2010...) He's probably just upset about not getting any response at all. Or maybe he's bored and wants attention.
If he's asking you about dinner plans or something important, writing a quick text back when you can should suffice. If he's just writing to see what's up every hour or so, you should probably talk to him and let him know that you love him, but you simply do not have time to text. Tell him that you don't have time to respond to anyone in any way-- be it your friend who wants to Gchat, Mom who called to remind you about Dad's birthday party, or your coworker who is bored and wants see if you're free for a game of Bejeweled.
Another option is to tell him that you have to turn off your phone during the workday, that it's too much of a distraction. Say you're worried about your job if you have to. And then turn your phone off and act like it's 1996 when cell phones were huge and could barely even make calls.
Um, lying!?!? No. One of my friends has a rule that texting is fine to confirm/make quick plans to meet up, but for conversation purposes she requires a phone call. I respect her wishes and comply. If your bf loves you, he will do the same. There should never be a need to lie (I need to turn my phone off during the day...??) What if she needs her phone on in case of emergency or her mother calls, etc. There are reasons - and sometimes you are waiting for a text to confirm a plan for later.
Just speak up, COMMUNICATE - really important in a relationship, and all should be well.
I don't mean lie. Texting during work could legitimately affect her job and get her in trouble with her boss. Why does anyone need to text during work unless it's an emergency? I can't stand when store clerks are texting when I'm trying to purchase something and leave. She's busy. He should understand that.
I totally agree with you Nick. I worked for a few places where, while yes you could have cell phones at work, you just couldn't use them unless it was a break or something otherwise it MEANT you would be written up unless you showed just cause for using your phone while on the clock. I know some places of work do require you to have some form of mobile communications but seriously a cashier at ANY store really doesn't have much need to be on any phone other than the company phone for customer calls and the like. Cell phones are fine and all but still the work place isn't the time to be casually flirting/ talking about what someone's pet just did. Right now I'm pretty sure it's a serious thing to use cell phones on the clock instead of working considering the economy so if a company is hiring someone they had better be showing they are happy to have work instead of wasting time texting... After all when 170 people apply for ONE subway job opening the one person to get it had better be really grateful to have that work right now.
I do text when I'm at work, but only because I have a kid and only when I absolutely have to. I never do it when I have customers waiting unless it's really important (ie. my kid hurt herself or something). A boyfriend is not a child; he should be able to wait until she gets off work without whining like a little bitch. This guy sounds really possessive and jealous. What's he going to do, lock her in her house if she doesn't answer back?
I would find this behavior creepy. He needs to get a life.