I can't believe this response. What an asshole both your boyfriend and mystery man are. Don't ever let the person you are sleeping with, who has the exclusive ability to see you naked and vulnerable, to make you feel bad about how you look. He needs to get the fuck over 7 pounds. If it was 25 I'd understand worry, but he is being selfish and whiny. If he has a problem with it, then that is exactly what it is- HIS problem, not yours.

7 pounds??? your boyfriend noticed 7 pounds??? mine didnt notice 12... what a prick.. sounds superficial

I'm guessing you had to start out pretty tiny for him to notice 7 pounds, or else he is Really sensitive. I gain/lose 5 every month, at that time...

I get that he might worry about the 7 turning into 25, but really, maybe gaining 25 would be healthy for you, in which case, you want a guy who like a healthy woman. If you - using your best judgment, common sense and a healthy self respect as a guide - know that this 7 pounds could be a health risk for you, then fine. Go ahead and hit the treadmill. AND find a new boyfriend.

HAHAH! Tell him you're pregnant! THAT'LL make him feel better!

"Oh yeah? You're pissed about 7lbs? Well that's YOUR BABY, asshole! Guess you're stuck with fatty now, muhahahaha!"

I totally love how this mystery guy says "If you're turning fat.." Like it's "turning gay" or "turning zombie."

If I was dating this dude and he was commenting on 7lbs I gained, and the guy I looked to for advice told me that 7lbs meant I was well on my way to "turning fat", I would just tell them both to stop pushing their insecurities about their microscopic testicles onto my appearance. This dude is trash, lady, and he knows it as well as we do. He's just trying to make you feel like crap so you don't leave him.

Telling me that I look like I've gained weight is a surfire way to land far far away from my vagina. Slap happy privledges have been revoked sir, take it or leave it. My guy knows this. Any man who's not a total ass knows this. He's a manipulator and will not start there. If he puts you down now, it will only get worse. Get out and be with someone who will love your body for the extra 7 stupid fucking pounds.

If he is making rude comments about your body, dump his ass. He's projecting his own negative self-image onto you.

i just read MM responsed to be entertained.
he definitely goes for the shock value and his validity is definitely minimal. i must say though, mm, in all your insolent comments there is sometimes a glimmer of truth. its like a treasure hunt in the atlantic without the help of aquatic gear to find it, but if you are lucky you will. this is not one of those times. this is a douchebag response...but you can be advisied by it. if your man's mind is aligned with MM's, then that is NO ONE you need to be around. or maybe, MM is just being a jerk purposely so you can see the truth. that 7 lbs is not important whatsoever. and if it is that important to whoever you are with (or in their minds equates massive obesity as MM so eloquently put it), you should reevaluate the relationship. just saying. i'm tryna catch on to your methods, MM...

**Who cares** Well one it doesn't matter how the weight got there. You put on 7lbs big flipping deal. I hope your boyfriend didn't expect you to look and be the same for the rest of your life. Obviously over time people change & grow. If he is too immature to do deal with that then let him go. That is what i would do. Don't tolerate anything you don't deserve. But if your just trying to come out and tell him you don't like it. Its not that hard, just think of the words and then tell him. Your body weight should not be an issue to him let alone you. If you don't like it you can do something about it, if you don't mind it..leave it. it doesn't matter how the weight got there. Just live your life.

It's weird I found this post because the SAME exact thing is happening to me...I gained 7 lbs over the past 6 or 7 months. 7 lbs isn't a big deal. It is noticable, and I can see that he may be scared I'd continue to gain weight. I've been about the same weight for the past couple months though, and my boyfriend hints at it ALL OF THE TIME. It's one thing to mention it nicely or state concern. Once. I'm not blind, I see myself in the mirror. Not all of the time, not for 7 lbs. My boyfriend and I agreed that it's shallow of him, which I commend him on for admitting. And we agree that the hinting must stop. I already wanted to lose the 7 lbs (obviously, I AM still a woman...hehe) and be back where I was. Otherwise, I eat pretty damn healthy: low red meat, no fried food, high fiber, lots of veggies...I do cardio twice a week and walk at 1-2 miles every day. Every Friday I work 4 hours in the field, hiking at working...I feel like because he's not there when I am doing all this activity he must assume I'm lazy. He sees me when i'm at home doing homework. No wonder. I can tell he is scared I'll end up fat. I wish he'd just follow me around 1 week and see what I actually do. I bet he'd fall over in my cardio class. He does maybe 10 min of that in his work out. Ahhh I could go on.