As well you should. Not only did he flirt with someone else, but he did it publicly for the whole world to see, including you. Did he think you wouldn't see it, or did he just not care?
The best way to bring it up? The direct approach. Just tell him what you told me: you saw it and you don't like it. You feel hurt and insulted, and it makes you feel insecure about your relationship with him. Is he satisfied with you, and, if so, why would he flirt with other girls?
What he did isn't the worst thing I've ever heard, but it definitely warrants a conversation about what is and isn't appropriate in a relationship (since he doesn't seem to know already). How would he feel if you wrote the exact same words on some guy's Facebook page? He needs to know that you consider this disrespectful and unacceptable behavior. Just be candid and direct with him.
Thanks for the question.
What a dick.
yeah, what Sopie said was kind of my gut reaction too when i read this question. it would be very difficult for me to handle this without being confrontational, so Cary's advice is really great. just tell him exactly what you told us, that he disrespected and disappointed you. as gently as you can, ask him how he would feel if the shoe was on the other foot. "how would you feel if i posted on my lab partner's wall how i couldn't concentrate on my lab because i couldn't take my eyes off of him." he will respond one of two ways, 1.) like a piece of crap for doing something that made you feel like a piece of crap, or 2.) like a dick that will try and make you feel like you are making a mountain out of a molehill and brush it off, or excuse the disrespect. in the first way he will do what he can to stop making you feel like a piece of crap, in the second he will expect you to do that work. what happens after that is up to you, but take ownership of it, because you teach people how to treat you and letting it go will mean you are opening the door for him to do it again without any accountability whatsoever. good luck!
I might have added to that FB conversation by saying, "Well, it's a good thing you're single :)"
But seriously guys, have a discussion with him telling him how this behavior makes you feel? Do you think this might be news to him? I think this might be erring on the side of being a patsy. He knows what he did was wrong and he disregarded his girlfriend. He threw the girl a pick-up line and was likely hoping for a response. Facebook might not be real life, however real life hookups occur through facebook.
If this was my situation and we were in a committed relationship he would totally lose my trust. The only conversation I would have with him would be to tell him he is an ass for being so brazen, flirting with another girl in front of my face not to mention publicly. Then I would likely tell him go pound sand.
No kidding... what a dick
agree with Sopie.
I would forget about him. Seriously. And be a free agent.
What could he possibly say that would make things better? Nothing.
Clearly going too far! Seriously, its one thing to give a compliment, but this is a blatant flirt, and a fairly strong one at that! He can't keep his eyes off her, fine, leave him and he'll have all the time to have his eyes on her, and given his character, that's all he'll have on her...
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