If your boyfriend was going to turn into a poet, it would’ve happened already. I’m sorry to say that the man he is now is the man he’s going to be for as long as you know him.
He’s set decades worth of precedent in terms of his actions and words (and lack of words), so even if he loves you, you’re not going to hear about it from him. Your boyfriend, like some guys, just doesn’t ever express his emotions. Why this is the case is up for debate – his father might have been similarly dour, or he sees emotion as a sign of weakness. Whatever the reason, I’m willing to bet this lack of expression has contributed to his nearly fifty years of bachelorhood. And it may, eventually, contribute to you breaking up with him unless you can get past this and accept him for the silent type he is.
I think you should talk to him, and ask him if he cares about you. And if he says yes, ask him why he never says anything to that effect. Regardless of the reason he gives, tell him that hearing something like that from him would mean a lot. See what he does, or what he doesn’t do. I think we both know the outcome, but you owe it to yourself to see if you can wring some honest emotion out of your boyfriend.
Ladies, do any of you date the strong, silent types? What have you done?
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