Yeah, its suspicious. Any time somebody is hiding something from you, it's because they don't want you to know about it. Of course, a guy is going to tell you he hid it because its no big deal and he didn't want it to cause an unnecessary argument, but...if it's not big deal, why hide it anyway?
See what I did there?
If the coworker knows you exist and is still texting and calling late then she's just disrespectful and you have the right to tell your man to tell her to cut it off. But you need to realize that he hasn't done so and is basically encouraging it by accepting and responding to her text messages. So two people are being disrespectful, him and her. You should let hi know that you aren't feeling it and he needs to let that chick know to cut it out. If he tries to tell you that it's nothing, then he's very selfish and inconsiderate of your feelings and probably long donging her. Sad but true. He's already hiding her contact info.
Point is, you should be suspicious but instead you should make him put up or shut up. Either cut that stuff out or get to steppin'.
It does sound suspicious and you should ask your boyfriend why she keeps texting and calling him so late. He could explain that the coworker is just trying to get her work done off-hours...
You had to go through his iPhone in order to find out he hid her email address in Notes which I think is a bigger deal having to do with trust especially IF in the end he did nothing wrong... OR maybe you caught him redhanded...
the guy I'm dating has a couple of female friends that call him, he says it's not a big deal because they are like "sisters" to him and he only speaks them once every few weeks... and yet, he hasn't told them that he's dating me... (and it's been a little over a year now that we've been together)
he says he's a very private person... doesn't like to "broadcast his emotions like a sign for all the world to see" and that's why he hasn't told a lot of people that he's dating someone... but I'm not sure if I believe that or not...
Yeah, don't believe that private person stuff. It's just a way to make sure he doesn't ruin the possiblity of dating another chick with enough sense to leave a guy alone who has a girlfriend.
What a fuk wade..., sorry.
“If he tries to tell you that it's nothing” like Panama said, then tell him it would be nothing for him to tell her to stop then. If he doesn’t…, he is sending you a bigger message. Do you care to hear it?
I wish there was an easier way easy to deal with things when it comes to trust. :(
I'm now dealing with "I'm a very private person", "You have your own support network, I have mine", "I have personal space issues" -> reasons I'm doubting whether or not my relationship is going to head somewhere. Then again, I have to consider, my significant other was diagnosed with ADD and has social anxiety as co-morbidity. So I guess that's a different story?
Yeah, it's a big red flag. I was very close & flirty with a co-worker who I found out had me listed in his cell as "Home" so his girlfriend wouldn't know who it was - I found out when he lost his phone in a restaurant and the waitress called the Home number.
Yipes!
What happened next?! (GuySpeak always have juicy stories! lol)
I am the original poster with the "to be cont'd" part ...
I was sorting through papers and bills (my boyfriend and I live together) and found his cell phone bill... found out that he calls this female coworker about once a month (can't check if she calls him more often though because dial-ins are not listed) ... which doesn't sound so bad considering she lives in another city ... the strange thing is, he deletes his call list on his phone so that there's no trace of it .... What's going on?!