girl you need to kick him to the curb! trust me, i was once in the same situation and if there's one thing i learned its: once a cheater, ALWAYS a cheater. no acceptions. i know its hard but break it off now before you get your heart broken even more.

and no matter what he says, hes a liar. hes a player and hes probably been playing you for a while now.

Yep. Move it along; nothing to see here. He's lost his chance with you; hopefully you leaving will be enough of a slap in the face for him to treat the next gal differently.

That is, if the "sneaking around behind your back" is actually something serious, and not eating your special yogurts out of the fridge (dick-ish as that may be).

its true i was with a guy for 2 years and the whole 2 year of my life i was miserable! ... first it starts with hey can i borrow some money ill give it back you know i have a job, to well i quite my job (and tells you some lame story of what happened) , then hes to askin you for money every day!, it came to the point where he stole my bank card and took 300 dollars, which over drafted my account. Thats just a little piece of what he did. He cheated on me the whole two years with a nasty ass girl and got her pregnaunt while having one nite stands after he went clubbin. He would tell me he was too tired to drive back from clubbin and would rent a hotel. I mean go figure right? I was just too nieve at that point because this was the longest most dedicated relationship i had been in.

But trust me you learn from your mistakes! And thats a good thing because you dont have to go through it again cuz you know the signs. Get out while you can and be happy for once with someone who appreciates you. I will never understand why i could not let my ex go even though he always made me feel like i was completly ugly and he told me that no one else would want me. Guys are such douches sometimes and it is going to be hard to find any that want to appreciate you.

You know I've said this before, but if you're having trouble running your brain, stand on your head and let some blood flow into it. C'mon, if you're still hanging around a guy who has been cheating and lying for THREE years, you're either a masochist or a moron.

Let's examine the reasons why you are still with him...I'm just postulating here, but I'm gonna give it a shot.

1. You really love him, and don't wanna lose him. You don't have him now; he has you, as an option or a last resort.

2. You know he can change and be the really great guy you see. This is the Fool's Gold syndrome or the CZ syndrome. This great guy you see is really just a pile of shit. He's not a piece of gold that needs polishing, and he's not a diamond in the rough. Polishing a turd will never make it into a diamond. Frogs never turn into Prince Charming either, just in case you are under that particular misconception.

3. No one else is gonna want you. He doesn't want you now. You have nothing with this guy. There's nothing there. If you say, but we live together or we are committed to each other, I'll puke. No he isn't committed to you; you might be committed to him, but he isn't to you. Men who are really committed to a relationship don't cheat. And staying with this douche isn't upping your value to the next guy you meet. And worse yet, it will put your self esteem in the crapper and make you bitter, so that when the next guy does come along, you'll spend all your time being a crazy, obsessive stalker. The song "Crazy Bitch" comes to mind.

4. But I know he really loves me, even though he cheats on me. Yeah, God isn't telling you to drive your car into someone because they are the Devil and you are Superman either. This is a delusion, and if you continue to have them, I would recommend you seek psychiatric help. If he loved you, he wouldn't purposely and knowingly lie and cheat.

5. The sex is fantastic, and he's hung like a horse. There are lots of men out there with big equipment first of all, and second, big isn't the end all be all. And most men are trainable, if you're willing to put in the time and effort. Besides, my motto is "if the sex ain't good, tie him up and have it your way." If he complains too much, gag him. So find yourself another guy and have great sex with him.

6. He's your meal ticket and sugar daddy. Then by all means, continue to be essentially one of his many prostitutes. Degrade and debase yourself as much as possible. That's a great plan. My advice though would be to get a job, and get a life.

You're this guy's "I ain't got nothing better" girl. When he can't find any other piece of ass to take home, he comes to you. Let him lose you, and don't EVER go back to him. He knows you'll let him treat you this way for the privilege of calling yourself his girlfriend. It ain't a privilege. At this point it is a huge liability...like mystery man said, you are likely to get a gift that keeps on giving, or else you are likely to freakin' marry him when he asks to shut you up about his extracurricular activities.

I have to say... I believe it has to do with respect. People will treat you the way they think you expect them to.

DUMP him ! You deserve better and not to be disprespected. Every time He does things like this, it only reinforces to him that You allow it and that he doesn't have to treat you better. And that old adage and leopard can't change his spots, is true. Sure people can change but only if they want to. And why would He ? he has it just the way he likes it.. he can have his cake and eat it too and keep coming back for more cake. We women set the tone in our relationships and if you allow it, He will only continue to mistreat you.

Wow Nicole....loved your answers!!! DO NOT BE HIS DOORMAT!

i have a friend whu was in thss EXACT situation . we juss recentLy became friends bcus thee quy that did that to her is thee one i'm w/noww &&he's doinq it to me . i noee , stupidd riqhtt ? welL , i noe its not easy bt thnkk bwt it . yess it wilL hurt either way . bt it'lL hurt more when yu stay w/hym . when he says he chanqes juss for yu thenn Later yu find ot he's ot w/some qirL .

NO

dnt put yurrseLf in that situation noww , or ever .

Wow what great answers! My lying man finally went to therapy with me, and after insisting that (following a year of cheating on me) I owed him trust, he LIED TO MY FACE in front of the therapist. It took 4 days, but it really sunk in and killed all of my feelings for him. I am finally able to see that his promises to change are total BS and that I need to stop wasting my precious life on this person who could hardly care less and has NO RESPECT and NO CONSIDERATION for anyone but himself, unless it is convenient and serves him in some way.

I wish it didnt take me so long to reclaim my life.